Inkinga yeminyaka engama-25: Iyini Futhi Kukuziphi Izindlela Zokuphila Ezithatha Umumo

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• "Kungani ngizizwa ngikhathazekile lapho kufanele ngabe ngijabulela ubusha bami?"
• Buyini ubunzima bekota yempilo?
• Kungani singabhekana nenhlekelele lapho sifinyelela eminyakeni engama-25 ubudala?
• Yiziphi izici ezibalulekile zenhlekelele yekota yempilo?
• 1. Ukufuna umsebenzi ophelele
• 2. Ukuqwashisa nokubandakanyeka ezindabeni zenhlalo nezempilo
• 3. Ukubekwa phambili kokuzimela
• 4. Ingokomoya elingamanga
• isiphetho

"Kungani ngizizwa ngikhathazekile lapho kufanele ngabe ngijabulela ubusha bami?"

Iminyaka engamashumi amabili ingabonakala njengesikhathi esibalulekile esigcwele amathuba. Ikakhulukazi uma sikuqhathanisa neminye iminyaka, singacabanga ngayo njengomzuzwana wobusha, amandla, ubumnandi kanye / noma ukuhlolwa lapho kungekho khona imithwalo yemfanelo ejwayelekile yokuba mdala sekwedlule isikhathi (izingane, imali ebanjwayo ...).

Kodwa-ke, lokho okubizwa nge- “millennials” (okuzalwa phakathi kuka-1981 no-1999) akuhlali kuzizwa kunemizwa emihle njengoba kungalindeleka kulesi simo.

Buyini ubunzima bekota yempilo?

Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseMelika u-Abby Wilner nentatheli u-Alexandra Robbins basungula igama elithi "inkinga yesikhathi sekota" encwadini yabo enegama elifanayo, eyanyatheliswa ngo-2001.

Kokubili kubhekise kuleli gama esimweni sokudideka kanye nemizwa yokulahleka nokuvaleleka engavela eminyakeni engamashumi amabili futhi iholele ukucabanga kabusha kwendlela yokuphila, kufaka phakathi ushintsho kubungani, ophathina nasemisebenzini.

Kungani singabhekana nenhlekelele lapho sifinyelela eminyakeni engama-25 ubudala?

Ukungaqiniseki kwezomnotho nakwezenhlalo, ukuqwashisa ngobunzima bokuzimela emndenini odabuka kuwo nokuzimela, ukudana okungenzeka lapho ubhekene nokucwiliswa emhlabeni womsebenzi, umehluko phakathi kwempilo umuntu akholelwa ukuthi umuntu uzoba nayo le minyaka kanye naleyo onayo ngempela, ukungabaza ngokusebenza kwakho kanye namakhono akho lapho ubhekene nezidingo zomphakathi zokupheleliswa nempumelelo… Lezi ngezinye zezinto ezihlobene nokuhlangabezana nobunzima lapho ufinyelela esigabeni esiphakathi kuka-25 no-30 ubudala.

Umphakathi esihlala kuwo, othethelelwe kakhulu futhi uvezwe ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi, isungule amamodeli wokuphila "okuphelele" afinyeleleka amahora angama-24 ngosuku ngokumane ube nomakhalekhukhwini one-inthanethi. Sinamamodeli ngokuphathelene nokuthi sigqoka kanjani, ukuthi izinwele zethu kufanele zenziwe kanjani, ukuthi kufanele umzimba wethu ube kanjani, ukuthi kufanele sizithokozise kanjani, yini okufanele siyidle, kufanele sisebenze kuphi nokuthi sihambele kuphi ukuze samukelwe futhi sithathwe njengempumelelo.

Lokhu kungadala ingcindezi enkulu kakhulu, esingayisingatha kangcono kamuva empilweni. Eqinisweni, kunezifundo eziqinisekisile ukuthi ukutholakala kwemiphumela emibi kuthinta imizwa (ukukhathazeka, ukudabuka, ukucindezeleka, usizi, njll.) Kukhulu kubantu abasha kunabantu asebekhulile.

Yiziphi izici ezibalulekile zenhlekelele yekota yempilo?

Lezi yizimpawu nezimpawu ezijwayelekile zalesi simo sengqondo:

1. Ukufuna umsebenzi ophelele

Ucwaningo luthole lokho abantu abasha bagxile kakhulu ekufinyeleleni esimweni esifanelekile somsebenzi. Lokhu kufaka phakathi ukuthola imisebenzi emisha, ukukhokhelwa kangcono, ngamahora ambalwa, ngesimo esiphakeme, ubudlelwano obungcono nozakwethu kanye nengcindezi encane. Lokhu kungaholela esimweni esiqhubekayo sokungezwani, ukukhathazeka nokukhathazeka.

2. Ukuqwashisa nokubandakanyeka ezindabeni zenhlalo nezempilo

Ochwepheshe bahlangana ngokusho lokho abantu abasha bazi kakhulu ngezinkinga ezikhona emphakathini futhi kulabo okuzodingeka babhekane nabo bobabili kwezomnotho, kwezenhlalo nakwezemvelo ngokuzayo.

Kuphawulwe futhi ukuthi abantu abasha basazi ngokugcwele isimo sabo sokungezwani futhi bazama ukunciphisa ukucindezeleka ngemisebenzi ethile, efana ne-yoga, ukuzindla, ukuya ejimini noma ukuphumula isikhashana embhedeni nasekulaleni.

3. Ukubekwa phambili kokuzimela

Uma kuqhathaniswa nabantu abadala, ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi ama-twentysomethings abeka imali phambili kwinkululeko yabo. Lokhu kusho ukuthuthukisa amakhono ngamanye avumela ukuzimela kuwo wonke amazinga, yize kunengozi yokuwela ebuntwini obedlulele.

Ochwepheshe bathole ukuthi izinkulungwane zeminyaka zichaza ubudlelwano bomuntu njengendawo yokukhuthaza ukuze kutholakale ukwaneliseka komuntu uqobo kaningi kunabantu abakwiminyaka engama-40 noma engama-50. Ukuzuza umsebenzi ophumelelayo kubonakala sekuhamba phambili ekwakheni umndeni, uma kuqhathaniswa nezizukulwane ezedlule. Ngaphezu kwalokho, imininingwane iphakamisa ukuthi abantu abasha abaphumi noma bahlangane nontanga yabo njengoba umuntu angalindela, futhi maqondana nabantu abadala.

4. Ingokomoya elingamanga

Ucwaningo luthole ukuthi intshisekelo ezicini zokomoya (eziqondwa njengesidingo sokudlula nokuzazi) ivela esikhathini esizayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ziyakhombisa ukuthambekela kwamanje kokufuna ukwaneliseka kuzinto ezibonakalayo nezisheshayo, lapho kungadluli ngokushesha. Lesi sici siqhathanisa nengokomoya elisuselwa kuzici ezijulile nezixhunyiwe, ezingatholwa kuphela esikhathini eside esizayo.

isiphetho

Ngokufingqa, inkinga yeminyaka engama-25 (noma yekota-yokuphila) ivame kakhulu kunalokho engabonakala njenge-priori. Ihlobene nezici zokukhiqiza, kepha futhi nesimo senhlalo, sezomnotho nesemvelo ku umhlaba namuhla.

Isimo nobude besikhathi sokushintshela ebudaleni sekuguqukile eminyakeni yamuva futhi kungaholela ekudumazekeni nasekukhungathekeni uma lokho ebesikulindele ukuthi impilo yethu ibe yikho kungahambisani neqiniso lethu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuntuleka kweziqiniseko, ukungaqiniseki nokwaziswa kwazo zonke izinkinga okuzodingeka ukuthi kubhekwane nazo esikhathini esizayo, nakho kungathonya ukuvela kwesimo sokungezwani nokukhathazeka.

Ngokunikezwe lokhu, singahlala sivinjelwe noma singazama ukushiya lesi simo esibucayi njengethuba ukwenza izinguquko ezidingekayo ukuze impilo yethu isondele kulokho esikufunayo. Izinkinga yisikhathi esihle sokucabanga kabusha ngokubaluleka kwethu kanye namagugu ethu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ekukhanyeni kwezifundo, kungasebenza ikakhulukazi ukuhlola ukuthi sigxile kangakanani ezinhlamvwini zomsebenzi, sishiya izici zobudlelwano (noma ngabe ezungeze umlingani, umndeni noma abangane) nezici zokomoya zakamuva.kuxhunyaniswe nokwaneliseka nokuzazi uqobo.