Izinkinga Eziyisi-5 Kubudlelwano Obunzima Babantu Abakwelamani

Isikhathi engisichithe ngisebenza nabantu abadala abanobudlelwano obunzima nezelamani zabo singiqinisekisile ukuthi abelaphi kufanele bazi ngezinkinga ezibalulekile ezi-5.

1. Ubudlelwano bezingane zasekhaya ubuhlobo obude impilo yonke.

Ubudlelwano bezelamani, obunikezwa inkambo ejwayelekile yesikhathi sempilo, buhlala isikhathi eside kunabo bonke obunye ubuhlobo umuntu angaba nabo — bude kunobudlelwano nabazali, ophathina, izingane, futhi, mhlawumbe, nabangane. Ngakho-ke, ukucacisa noma ukuxazulula ubudlelwane bezelamani kubaluleke kakhulu enhlalakahleni yomuntu ngoba ukubambisana phakathi kwezelamani kuyadingeka kakhulu lapho kunakekelwa abazali asebekhulile, kanye nokunakekelana.

2. Abelaphi ngokuvamile abaqeqeshiwe ukucabanga ngobudlelwano babantu abadala bezelamani, futhi ababuzi ngabo ekwelashweni.

Njengoba mina noMichael Woolley sabhala kumagazini wakamuva kakhulu wephephabhuku Umsebenzi Wezenhlalakahle , abantu abadala abalwa nendaba yokusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa nakho kungathinta, futhi kuthintwe, ubudlelwane obuyinkimbinkimbi nezingane zakubo. Ngaphandle kokuthi odokotela bacabange ngalobu budlelwano, amathuba okusiza uhlelo lomndeni (okubandakanya izingane zakwethu) azophuthelwa. Izelamani kufanele zifakwe lapho kudwetshwa i-eco-map noma i-genogram yomuntu omdala.

3. Lokhu kuvame ukuba nobudlelwano obuxakile.

Ngenkathi izingxenye ezimbili kwezintathu zabantu abangama-262 bexoxwa ngencwadi yethu, Ubudlelwano babantu abadala besizalwane , Chaza ezinye noma zonke izingane zakubo ezingama-700 ngothando, ezinye zichazwa ngokungaqondakali. Eqinisweni, izincwadi zikhuluma ngokushayisana okukhona ebudlelwaneni obuningi bezelamani ezindala. (Bona umsebenzi omuhle kaVictoria Bedford.) Yebo, kunengcindezi enkulu emphakathini yokuhlalisana namalungu omndeni wakho, kepha lelo trope alinaki iqiniso lehla nokwehla okujwayelekile izingane zakubo ezikutholayo esikhathini sonke sempilo.

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Izelamani zivame ukuba nomuzwa wokuthi aziqondi ukusebenza kwesinye iselamani. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abazizwa beqondwa ingane yakubo. “Ungiphatha ngokungathi bengineminyaka engu-16 futhi angimuqondi umuntu esengibe yikho,” kuyinto evamile. Ukuzizwa udidekile ngokuziphatha kwenye ingane yakini noma ukuzizwa ungaqondakali kungaholela ekuphakamiseni okuningi.

5. Imibono yokwelashwa komndeni ingasiza ekwaziseni ukuthi ubhekana kanjani nezinkinga zezelamani.

Umsebenzi kaMurray Bowen usikhuthaza ukuthi sibheke ubudlelwano phakathi kwezizukulwane. Eqinisweni, sithole ukuthi uma ubaba ethathwa njengosondelene nezingane zakubo, izingane zakhe maningi amathuba okuthi zisondelane. (Qaphela, obaba, futhi sebenzelani ubudlelwano bezingane zakini!) Isibonelo esehlukile esikhombisa ukufunda kubadala bakini sifaka umama owashiya ukuxhumana nengane yakubo ngemuva kokuhamba ekhaya ababehlanganyela kulo. Eminyakeni embalwa kamuva, izingane ezimbili zikamama zawa ngaphandle kokuxhumana. Ngokuzenzisa, babefunde ukuthi lokhu kwakuyindlela yokuziphatha eyamukelekayo kunina.

Ukwelashwa komndeni okwakhiwe ngokwakhiwa (SFT) kukhuthaza abelaphi ukuthi banake imingcele yezelamani. Ngabe abazali bahlukaniswe kathathu ebudlelwaneni bezingane zabantu abadala? Ngabe abazali bayagxambukela kokuzala futhi abavumeli izingane zakini ukuthi zisebenze ngezinkinga zabo? Ngabe izelamani ezilwayo zidonsela kubazali asebekhulile? Uma kunjalo, abazali bangavinjelwa kulolu hlobo lokungena futhi izingane zakini zingakhuthazwa ukuthi zisebenzisane. Lapho umzali egula noma efa, lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu.

Ngokuletha izingane zakini egumbini lokwelashwa, abelaphi bangasiza amaklayenti ukuthi ahambisane nezinkinga ezinzima kakhulu ezingabakhathaza esikhathini sonke sempilo.