Izindlela ezi-5 zokukutshela ukuthi unomuthi owesabekayo

Uyacelwa ukuthi ungacabangi ngoba nje "umelaphi" enelayisense evela esifundazweni sabo kanye neziqu ezivela esikhungweni abazi ngokuzenzakalelayo ukuthi zingasebenza kanjani. Inkinga akuyona ukuthi bachitha isikhathi sakho noma ukhokhela izeluleko ongazithola kalula kubangani, umndeni, nensimu yakho. Cha, ingozi yangempela ilapho beqala ukukunikeza ukuxilongwa okungalungile, bancoma ukwelashwa okungalungile, bakusikisela ukuthi uhlukane ngokushesha, noma bakweluleke ukuba uye emithini ongayidingi.

Yebo, eminyakeni yami njengesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo somtholampilo, ngizibonile zonke lezi zimo zidlala kaningi. Ingxenye ebi kakhulu yakho konke ukuthi yize laba "belaphi" bengadala ingozi, empeleni uyayikhokhela, kokubili ngokwezimali nangokomzwelo.

Ngithole izindlela ezinhlanu eziqondile ongatshela ngazo ukuthi umelaphi wakho angaba yingozi kakhulu kunokusiza.

1. Umelaphi wakho ukukunikeza izincomo ezingahlukile kuneseluleko ongasithola kochwepheshe bezempilo abangawona umqondo. Isibonelo, ngineklayenti eline-OCD enamandla. Lowo owayengumelaphi wakhe, owayengumeluleki wezempilo yezengqondo, wayelokhu encoma ukuthi “athathe uhambo” noma “aphuze ingilazi yamanzi” ngaphambi kokwenza okuthile ngenkani. Kuyavunywa, ngisho nochwepheshe we-OCD ongcono kakhulu emhlabeni akakwazi ukuvimbela iklayenti ekwenzeni okucindezelayo; kodwa-ke, umuntu angathemba ukuthi lapho iklayenti likhokha imali kumhlinzeki oneziqu nelayisense evela ezweni labo ukuhlinzeka ukwelashwa kwezempilo yengqondo, umuntu angathola izincomo eziyinkimbinkimbi futhi ezintsha. Ngalezi zinhlobo "zabelaphi," uzoqala ukuqaphela ukuthi uthola iziphakamiso namasu angcono kubo bonke abantu bezempilo abangahlangene nengqondo abakuzungezile.
2. Bancoma ukuthi uye kuma-anti-depressants ngemuva kokuhlangana nawe kanye noma kabili. Imvamisa, laba "belaphi" abasoze baba nengxoxo ehlelekile nawe lapho bexoxa khona ngokuxilongwa abakholelwa ukuthi uhlangabezana nenqubo yakho. Kodwa-ke, bazoba nesibindi ngokwanele sokukutshela ukuthi uthathe umuthi we-psychotropic lapho, kwezinye izimo, wazi ukuthi awunazo neze izimpawu ezinzima ngokwanele zokunikeza imithi. Isibonelo, ngizwile izindaba zabantu abafuna ukukhuluma nodokotela kulo lonke ubhadane lwe-coronavirus. Bafuna ukuba nendawo ephephile futhi eyimfihlo yokuveza ukuthi ingcindezi yokuphendula ubhadane ibe nomthelela onjani ezimpilweni zabo. Mhlawumbe bebelokhu belwa kakhulu nezingane zabo nabalingani babo ekubeni bengangeni ezindlini nabo. Mhlawumbe bathole amakhilogremu ambalwa futhi abajimi kangako. Noma mhlawumbe, laba bantu badinga nje indawo yokuphuma, ngoba izindawo zabo ezijwayelekile (ijimu, isonto, njll.) Zithathiwe kubo. Ngakho-ke, babefuna ukusebenzisa ukukhuluma "nomelaphi oqeqeshiwe" njengokubhekana kwabo. Ngemuva kwalokho, "umelaphi" ubatshela ukuthi baqhubeke nemithi kungakapheli izikhathi ezimbili noma ezintathu. Lokhu akwamukelekile! Ngilapha ukukutshela, kungenzeka ukuthi, umelaphi uzama nje ukuzenza babonakale bephumelela kanti empeleni akuyona into ekulungele wena noma impilo yakho engokwenyama nengqondo.
3. Umelaphi ukutshela ukuthi ushiye owakwakho. Le yipeeve yami enkulu yezilwane yangasese neyobungcweti. Ngingathanda ukukubeka kucace ukuthi sengibe yisazi sokusebenza kwengqondo isikhathi eside, futhi angikaze ngiluleke iklayenti ukuthi liphule izifungo zalo zomshado bese lihamba. Okuwukuphela kwesikhathi engingake ngizwe ukuthi lokhu kuzoba semkhawulweni womkhuba wokuthi “umelaphi” kube uma iklayenti libike ukuhlukunyezwa ngokwalo noma ezinganeni zalo. "Isazi" esivamile sincoma "ukushiya" ngaso sonke isikhathi! Nazi ezinye izinkinga ezinkulu ngalezi ziphakamiso "zabelaphi": "I-Therapist" ayithathi isikhathi sokwazi umlingani weklayenti, izingane ezithintekayo, futhi ayinayo yonke imininingwane yezemvelo abazodinga ukuyenza. yakha leso siphetho. Noma ngabe "umelaphi" okuthiwa unaleyo hlobo lwedatha, ukweluleka iklayenti lakho ukuthi lihambe kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi lenze ukuthi "umelaphi", abonakale esebenza ngempumelelo. Kulula kakhulu ukutshela iklayenti lakho ukuthi lishiye futhi lihlukanise kunokuba lisize iklayenti lakho lithuthukise futhi liqinise amakhono adingekayo okubekezelela ukubekezelela usizi umshado ongaletha kumuntu. Ngokudabukisayo, ngihlala nginqikaza ukuncoma "abelaphi" engingabazi kahle kumakhasimende noma emindenini yekhasimende lami. Anginayo indlela yokwazi ukuthi ngabe omunye walaba “belaphi” uzotshela umlingani weklayenti lami ukuthi ahlukanise ngoba ukushada nomuntu onenkinga ye-OCD kunzima kakhulu. Abameli bezehlukaniso bayaluthanda lolu hlobo “lodokotela”.
4. "Umelaphi" unikeza iklayenti ukuxilongwa okungalungile. Amaklayenti ami amaningi e-OCD anezindaba ezihlasimulisayo "zomelaphi" zokungawaqondi kahle njenge-schizophrenic. Ngihlala ngimangele ukuthi lokhu sekuvame kanjani. Ngihlala ngididekile ngoba, nge-schizophrenia, uphawu oluyisisekelo yilowo ohlangabezana nalesi sifo, okusho ukuthi ngokwencazelo kusho ukuthi bakholelwa amaphesenti ayi-100 emicabango yabo. Ngenkathi, nge-OCD, ogulayo azi ukuthi umcabango awunangqondo futhi awunangqondo. Lokhu kuphambene ngqo nenkohliso. Kodwa-ke, “abelaphi” abaningi bazoxilonga isifo sokusangana noma ukuphazamiseka kokukhohlisa; futhi ngibe namakhasimende afakwe kuma-antipsychotic lapho sonke isikhathi bengakaze babe ne-schizophrenia! Amakhasimende ami nabantu engibaziyo okwenzekile lokhu baveze ukuthi sonke lesi sikhathi, "bazi nje" ukuthi abanayo i-schizophrenia. Imvamisa iklayenti le-OCD kufanele lizame ukukholisa "umelaphi" ukuthi abasile. Umuntu onenkinga ye-OCD kufanele achaze empeleni ukuthi i-OCD isebenza kanjani "kumelaphi." Lolu hlobo lwesimo alulungile kumazinga amaningi. Ngincoma kakhulu ukwethemba umuzwa wakho ngaphezu "komelaphi." Noma thola omunye umbono.
5. Uchwepheshe wenza ukwephula okuhlukahlukene kokuziphatha. Isibonelo, kufanele ukuthi umelaphi azidalule uma ngabe kuphela uma ukuziveza kungazuzisa iklayenti. Abelaphi abaningi baziveza ngokwabo noma baxoxe ngezinzuzo zeklayenti. Ngake ngezwa "ngomelaphi" osebenzise iningi lesikhathi seklayenti ukuxoxa ngokungawathandi kwakhe ama-republican; iklayenti livele livume ngekhanda bese limoyizela ukuba nenhlonipho. Kodwa-ke, iklayenti belingakhululeki neze futhi lithukuthele ukuthi le yindlela elisetshenziswe ngayo isikhathi sayo, futhi, ngaphezu kwalokho, leli klayenti laliyi-republican! Iqiniso ukuthi "umelaphi" wakhe akubonakali njengokufanelekile. Futhi, "umelaphi" akufanele athumele imiyalezo futhi aphendule izingcingo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngokwengeziwe, "umelaphi" kufanele ahole ngokwenza ama-aphoyintimenti nokuphendula kumakhasimende abo kungakapheli amahora angama-24. Okokugcina, uma une "Therapist" ekutshela imininingwane eminingi kakhulu ngamanye amaklayenti abo, lokhu futhi kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi abayilandeli imihlahlandlela yokuziphatha.

Uma uzizwa ukuthi ezinye zalezi zimo ezinhlanu zisebenza kudokotela wakho, ngincoma kakhulu ukuthi uthole umelaphi ohlukile ngokushesha. Qiniseka ukuthi lo mphilisi omusha akaweli kunoma iyiphi yalezi zigaba ezinhlanu. Ngicabanga ukuthi inkinga isiyonke isesimweni sezulu sanamuhla, cishe wonke umuntu ulindele ukuthi ahlale ezizwa kahle futhi enethezekile. “Abelaphi” abaningi bafuna ukugxuma baxazulule inkinga ngokushesha nangokunganaki, ngakho iklayenti labo likhululekile. Lokhu akukhona ukuthi ukungenelela kwengqondo kuhloselwe. Abantu bayazuza ngokuthola ukungakhululeki nokubhekana nakho ngendlela enempilo ngangokunokwenzeka, futhi, futhi, bafunda ukuthi banamandla kangakanani ngempela.

Ngaphambi kokuba umelaphi enze iziphakamiso zangempela, umelaphi kufanele ahlukanise phakathi kwamanje naphakade. Abanye abelaphi abakwazisi ukuthi impilo ayizwa kahle ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kwesinye isikhathi, konke lokho iklayenti elikudingayo umuntu wokuhlala naye ngenkathi elwa, ngokungafani nomuntu ozama ukuxazulula inkinga ngokuxhamazela. Iningi labantu liyasizakala kumelaphi obona lokhu njengegagasi umuntu agibele kulo futhi angabanikeza isikhathi namakhono okubhekana nokugibela igagasi. Noma, njengoba umlingisi uMatthew McConaughey esho, amanye amalambu aluhlaza abomvu ngaphambi kokuba abe luhlaza. Ngakho-ke, umuntu ngeke ahlomule ngokuthi "umelaphi" aphazamise leyo nqubo.

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