"Ngingowesifazane One-Autism?"

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• Ukufundwa Okubalulekile Kwe-Autism
• Izifundo Ezivela Ensimini: I-Autism ne-COVID-19 Impilo Yengqondo

Lapho kuphakanyiswa umbono wokuthi owesifazane angaba ne-autism — noma ngabe ufike kuleso siphetho entweni ayifundile, njengomphumela wokutholakala kwengane yakhe, ukwazi isihlobo esine-autism, noma mhlawumbe njengomphumela womeluleki ophakamisa angaba ne-autism spectrum disorder-angahle abuze ukuthi ngabe izimpawu zakhe empeleni zibangelwa yi-autism noma ngabe zibangelwa okunye okuthile; izimbangela ezengeziwe zingafaka, kepha azikhawulelwe, ekuhlukumezeni kwengane. Ngisho nakulabo besifazane asebedlule kwinqubo ephelele yokuxilonga futhi bathola ukuxilongwa ngokusemthethweni kwe-ASD, kusengaba khona izimpawu zemibuzo mayelana nokuthi ngabe ulwazi lwabo lwamanje ludonsa kakhulu ukuhlukumezeka kwengane, i-autism, noma enye imbangela.

Imvamisa, abesifazane abadala abane-autism bafuna usizo ngoba banezinkinga ebudlelwaneni-kubandakanya ubudlelwano obuseduze, ubungani, noma ubudlelwano nabantu osebenza nabo-okunye kwabo okungabuyela emuva ebusheni babo noma eminyakeni yobusha. Lezi zinkinga zingafaka ukukhathazeka ngokweqile ngokwenza noma ukusho “okulungile,” amahemuhemu ngokuxhumana nabantu, nokungakwazi ukuthola ukuthi kufanele ukhulume nini nokuthi uzothini ezimweni zomphakathi. Abesifazane abane-Autistic bavame ukufika ezingeni lapho ukuzethemba kwabo kuphansi futhi sebesungule uhlelo "lokuzifihla" ukuthi bangobani ngempela ukuze bamukeleke ngokwenhlalo.

Abesifazane bangaqala futhi ukuhlola i-autism njengencazelo lapho benenkinga ngokulawulwa ngokomzwelo kanye nomlando wokuncibilika, ngaphezu kobunzima ekusebenzeni izinhloso zabanye abantu (ezingabenza babe sengozini yokuhlukunyezwa) futhi bazizwe bekhathele kakhulu ngenxa ukuba seqenjini lomphakathi. Bangalingana nephrofayili ye-autism uma benomlando wezinkinga zempilo yengqondo, kufaka phakathi ukukhathazeka nokudangala, noma ukukhombisa izindlela zokubhekana nokulutha. Uma othile eseluqalweni lohambo lwabo, wazi kanjani ukuthi izimpawu zakhe zibangelwa yi-autism — noma ngabe ziwumphumela wokunye, njengokuhlukumezeka ebuntwaneni?

Ukukhuliswa endaweni ehlukumezayo — noma ngabe ukuhlukunyezwa bekungokomzwelo, ngokomzimba, noma ngokocansi — kungahle kube nomphumela wezinkinga zokuxhumana nabantu ngaphambi kokuthi othile afike eminyakeni yabo yobusha. Abesifazane ku-spectrum ye-autism bavame ukuchaza ukuzizwa behlukile, bebodwa, futhi "bexakile." Ngenkathi i-autism ingaba yisizathu sale mizwa yokwehluka, kanjalo nokukhula nomzali ohlukumeza ngokomzwelo yena - naphezu kokunikeza ukubonakala ekhulisa umndeni ojabulayo - wafaka kuye umuzwa wokuthi umhlaba uyindawo engaphephile lapho ayenesici kwezinye indlela.

Akunandaba ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa okungokomzwelo kwakucashile kangakanani, uma othile egxekwa, enqatshelwa ngokomzwelo, futhi enziwa ukuthi aziphelele njengabo, lowo muntu angaqhubeka nalolo lwazi kukho konke ukuxhumana kwabo nomphakathi. Obunye bobunzima obuthintekayo ekuphenduleni lo mbuzo ukuthi abesifazane abane-autism bangaba sengozini yokuhlukunyezwa ebuntwaneni ngakho-ke, lapho sebekhulile, kungenzeka ukuthi babekezelela neminyaka yokuhlukumezeka kwengane Ngaphezu kwalokho ku-autism.

Ukuncika ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi noma ekulawulweni ngokomzwelo akwanele ukuthola i-autism. Othile olwa nokuhlonza i-autism okungahle kube khona kudingeka azibuze ukuthi ngabe bake bahlangabezana nalolu hlobo lobunzima ngokuxhumana nomphakathi noma ngabe yinto ethile eyavela ngesikhathi esithile ebuntwaneni babo.

Ukufaka isicelo sosizo lwabangani nomndeni abebemazi lowo kusukela ezinsukwini zabo zokuqala kungasiza lapha. Ngabe kukhona okwakubonakala kudala ushintsho kubo phakathi neminyaka yabo yangaphambi kokufunda esikoleni, ngokwesibonelo (njengokuzalwa kwengane yakini, ukuthuthwa kwendlu, noma isehlakalo esibuhlungu)? Ukubuyela emuva kakhulu kuneminyaka yobusha, bekuhlangana kanjani nezinye izingane?

Uma ubheka ngale kobunzima bezenhlalo obungabangelwa i-autism, lowo muntu kufanele azibuze ngokulandelayo ukuthi ngabe banezinkinga ngokucubungula izinzwa. Babunzima kangakanani lobu bunzima? Abantu abaningi bangabiza ezinye zezinkinga noma abangazithandi ezihlobene nokufakwa kwezinzwa, noma ngabe ukungathandi imisindo ephezulu noma izingubo eziklwebhekayo. Kulula ukwenza izingqinamba zokucubungula izinzwa zilingane nephrofayili ye-autism spectrum disorder ngoba iningi lethu alikuthandi. Lapho kunqunywa ukuthi zinkulu kangakanani izingqinamba zokucubungula, kubalulekile ukuthi ubheke ukuthi ngabe zisezingeni eliphakeme yini lomqondo womuntu noma uma kufanele zifune ukuzikhumbula.

Ezinye izindlela zokuxilonga zifaka izintshisekelo ezibukhali, ukuqaphela amaphethini ezintweni, kanye nokuqagela kokucabanga kokuthi "kuthiwani-ke" -ukuzama ukumba ngaphansi kwempendulo. Umuntu ubhekana kanjani nokuphazamiseka kwemikhuba yabo?

Ngokwesiko, abesifazane abaningi abane-autism badlulele enetheni lokuxilonga ngoba izindlela zichazwe ngokuqinile futhi zenzelwe abesilisa. Kukhona futhi kungenzeka, kepha, ukuthi abanye besifazane bakhomba ngokushesha okukhulu ngokuxilongwa kanti, empeleni, bangabantu abazwelayo, abangenisa izethulo, abafundayo, noma abanobuhlakani — abanye babo okungenzeka ukuthi babebhekene nezimo ezinzima ebuntwaneni babo.

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