Ingabe Uya ocansini ngokwanele?

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• Ucansi Lubalulekile Ukufundwa
• Ukuzisola Ngokobulili Akukushintshi Ukuziphatha Ngokobulili Kwesikhathi Esizayo

Ucansi yinto esiyenzayo sonke. Yize kunezizathu eziningi zokuya ocansini (bona izizathu ezi-7), abanye bethu, nganoma yisiphi isizathu, bakwenza kaningi kunabanye.

Ngokuthandwa kocansi okwandayo, abantu, ngokusobala, banolwazi kakhulu ngezocansi kunanini ngaphambili. Kodwa-ke, kusekhona uLOTI wolwazi okungelona olungezansi.

Kukangaki senza 'ucansi'?

Kukhona ukwehluka okumangazayo kulokho abantu abakucabangayo "ukuya ocansini" (ngokwesibonelo, cishe abantu abangama-45% babheka ukukhuthazwa kwezitho zangasese njenge "ucansi", kanti ama-71% abheka ukwenza ucansi lomlomo "njengokuya ocansini"). Ucwaningo olwenziwe eKinsey Institute luphethe ngokuthi imvamisa ejwayelekile lapho umuntu enza khona ucansi iyahlukahluka njengokusebenza kweminyaka yakhe:

• Abaneminyaka engu-18-29 ubudala; Izikhathi ezi-2.15 ngeviki
• Abaneminyaka engama-30-39 ubudala; Izikhathi eziyi-1.65 ngeviki
• Abaneminyaka engama-40-49 ubudala; Izikhathi eziyi-1.33 ngesonto

Ubulili ngokuqinisekile bungenye yezimpahla ezibalulekile lapho kuhlelwe khona umshado (futhi kakhulu ubuhlobo obuseduze). Esinye sezici ezinquma ukuthi unocansi olungakanani ukuthi ushadile noma cha, futhi uma kunjalo, unesikhathi esingakanani ushadile. Imvamisa yezocansi emshadweni ixhunyaniswe kahle nokwaneliseka ngokomzwelo nangasemshadweni (kwabesilisa nabesifazane), futhi yaxhunyaniswa kabi namathuba esehlukaniso.

Ucwaningo olukhulu lwaseMelika lwathola ukuthi imvamisa yezocansi yemibhangqwana eshadile yayilindelwa, izikhathi eziyi-1.25 / ngesonto - ngisho nangaphansi kwabantu abakubakaki beminyaka yobudala engama-40-49! Okunye okutholakele okumangazayo ocwaningweni ukuthi imvamisa yezocansi ebudlelwaneni yanda lapho umlingani wesilisa enza okuncane endlini. Ngokuqondile, abesilisa 'bajeziswa' ngokocansi ngokuzama imisebenzi yasendlini ehlotshaniswa nabesifazane ... (?)

Ucwaningo lwango-2016 olushicilelwe kuThe Archives of Sexual Behavior luthole ukuthi phakathi kwabantu abashadile abahlala eMelika, imvamisa yocansi, ukwaneliseka ngokocansi, nokwaneliseka emshadweni konke kwehle ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Kuzo zonke izimo ukuyekiswa bekukuhle kakhulu eminyakeni embalwa yokuqala ngemuva komshado bese kuthi kancane kancane kulinganiswe.

Indlela yokugcina uthando kungenzeka ukuthi uyixube egumbini lokulala, futhi ube nama-orgasms avamile. Yize ezinye izilinganiso ziphakamisa ukuthi abesilisa banamathuba aphindwe kathathu okuthola i-orgasm ngesikhathi socansi kunabesifazane, izindaba ezimnandi ukuthi abesifazane banamathuba amaningi okuthola i-orgasm njengoba bekhula (amadoda mancane amathuba okuthi).

Ucwaningo olukhulu olusekelwa yi-NBC News luthole ukuthi imvamisa nokuhlukahluka kocansi bekuphakathi kokubikezela okuhle kakhulu kokwaneliseka kwezocansi nokuthanda amadoda nabesifazane.

Abantu bavame kangakanani ukwenza ucansi lwendunu?

Uma ngabe uke wasebenzisa noma yisiphi isikhathi ku-inthanethi kungenzeka ubone okungenani isikhangiso esisodwa mayelana nezocansi. Lezi zikhangiso zenza umsebenzi omuhle wokukunikeza isithombe sokuthi cishe wonke umuntu uvame ukuzibandakanya ocansini lwendunu. Lokhu kungenzeka akunjalo, kepha izibalo zingakumangaza.

Akumangazi ukuthi iningi labesilisa (kodwa hhayi bonke) abesilisa abathandana nabobulili obufanayo baye bahlanganyela ocansini lwendunu ngasikhathi esithile. Umbiko omningi kakhulu ubambe iqhaza kukho kokubili ucansi lokufaka nolwamukelayo. Okungamangaza abanye abantu inani elikhulayo labantu abathandana nabobulili obuhlukile abenza ucansi lwendunu.

Ukubuyekezwa okuphelele kuphakanyise ukuthi isilinganiso esilinganiselwe kakhulu semikhawulo ephansi yesilinganiso sabesifazane baseMelika abahlanganyela njalo ocansini lwangasese sizoba cishe ku-10%. Inani eliphelele labantu abathandana nobulili obuhlukile abenza ucansi lwangasese cishe lizungeze u-4-7x ngaphezulu kunenani lamadoda athandana nabesilisa abenza ucansi lwezitho zangasese.

Ucansi Lubalulekile Ukufundwa

Ukuzisola Ngokobulili Akukushintshi Ukuziphatha Ngokobulili Kwesikhathi Esizayo