Phakathi Kwalapha Nesitobha Sami Sokugcina: Izikhumbuzo Nemilingo Esizwayo

Kube ukuwa cishe ngesikhathi soMashi Abesifazane 2016 okwangishiya eceleni nesigqoko sami se-pink pussy. Ngangazi ngaleso sikhathi ukuthi ngangisanda kubamba iqhaza embukisweni wami wokugcina wokubhikisha. Yize umuntu okholwa kanye kanye eyinhlangano "yokuhlala ekhaya" - ucwaningo mayelana nokudangala, isizungu, kanye nokugqamisa okuvela emihlanganweni yeGerontological Society of America, ebengilokhu ngiyilandela iminyaka ethile manje, kungiphoqile ukuthi ngicabange kabusha. Umhlangano waminyaka yonke we-18 ububanjelwe eBoston kule nyanga. Ngocwaningo oluvela ezindaweni ezahlukahlukene, babike ngocwaningo olusha lwesayensi nezindlela zokukhuthaza ukuguga okunempilo. IGerontological Society of America.

Kwafika ngesikhathi lapho ngangizizwa nginenselelo futhi ngamukela imibono namandla abo. Ngaphandle kokubiza kwami ​​ngokuthi "ukuguga esikhundleni somthombo wobusha" esihlokweni sangaphambilini, ngemuva kokuwa kweWomen’s March, engikukhethile bekukhawulelwe: Ukuhlala nezingane noma ukuthuthela empilweni yokusizwa - ebengizithatha njengomncane kakhulu kuyo. Noma kunjalo, ngemuva kokufunda futhi Ukuba Ofayo ngu-Atul Gawande, MD, ngaqala ukubala izibusiso zami futhi ngakhetha.

UDkt Gawande, a ENew Yorker umbhali wabasebenzi, nodokotela wesikhathi eside eBrigham naseWomen’s Hospital eBoston, uveza ukuthi singazijabulela izikhathi zokudala ezigcwaliswe ngencazelo nobungqabavu ngisho naseminyakeni yethu yakamuva.

Njengoba ababuyekezi abaningi besho, inhloso kaGawande ibonakala ivumela abantu ukuthi baphile impilo enenjongo futhi balolonge indaba yezimpilo zabo. Ngenkathi ukuhlala okusizwayo kwesinye isikhathi kubhekwa njengekhaya lokuthatha umhlalaphansi, impela, kubantu abakwiminyaka yama-60s, 70s, nangaphezulu, kungaba yindawo yokuqala i-adventure entsha. Uma uCarl Gustav Jung, owazalwa ngo-1875, ezalwa ngo-1875, wagcina esethathe umhlalaphansi ngokugcwele, kungenzeka ukuthi akazange abhale omunye wemisebenzi yakhe yakudala, Izinkumbulo, Amaphupho, Ukucabanga ngo-1962.

Incwadi ingahle ingabi nekusasa lethu, kepha impilo yokusizwa ingaba yindawo yokuqala yokuhlangenwe nakho okusha kwempilo. Abantu engangisebenza nabo bacishe baba nomona ngokuqhathanisa ukukhetha kwami ​​kokuphila ne-The MacDowell Colony ePeterborough, eNew Hampshire. Lapho, ababhali nabaculi bayanakekelwa ngenkathi imvamisa beqedela umsebenzi oqhubekayo.

Isikhumbuzo Somndeni

Ukuwa njengoba ngangenzile kwangishiya eceleni, kodwa futhi kwaqala uhlelo lokuqoqa wonke amakholomu ashicilelwe mayelana nogogo nomkhulu wami bese ngiwafaka encwadini yabazukulu bami. Ngempela, nge-black paper photo scrapbook, eyenziwe ngomunye wodadewethu, nesikhathi sokubhala ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka, AmaKisses ase-Italy : Ukuhlakanipha Kogogo Wami, manje useBordighera Press eNew York City.

Kubantu abanentshisekelo kumamemori, kukhona ucwaningo olusha noluthokozisayo oluvela e-University Medical Center eHamburg-Eppendorf. Njengoba kubikiwe ku- Ucwaningo Lokuziphatha kanye Nokwelapha kanye Nokuzijwayeza Kokuziphatha Nokuziphatha, ngisho nezinkumbulo ezingemnandi zingaguqulwa ngokuzihlela nokuzisabalalisa kabusha: Ungazigcina Kanjani Izinkumbulo Ezijabulisayo futhi Uhlele Abadabukile (ngezinkomba.)

Isabelo

Ngaphambi kokuma kwethu kokugcina, iningi lethu linenqwaba yezinhloso, izifiso namaphupho, noma uhlu lwamabhakede. Abantu abaningi abathandi ukucabanga ngesitobhi sokugcina. Kodwa-ke, isabelo sesikole esathweswa iziqu sasisiza ukuba sibhekane ngqo nokufa kwethu. Sasinikezwe umsebenzi wokubhala eyethu imininingwane yokuzifihla. Kwakuyindlela yokubheka izinhloso zethu bese sinquma ukuthi sifisa ukukhunjulwa kanjani. Bhala eyodwa namhlanje bese uzibuze: "Ingabe yilokhu engingathanda ukuthi indaba yempilo yami ikusho?" Futhi uma kungenjalo, bese ubuza, "Yini okushodayo? Yini ebengithemba ukuyifeza?"

Omunye asebenza naye esikoleni uthe ufuna ukuba ngudokotela. Omunye umthethise wathi, "Uzoba neminyaka engama-50 ngesikhathi lapho uzoba yisakhamuzi." Wacabanga umzuzu futhi waphendula, "Ngizoba neminyaka engama-50 noma kunjalo." Futhi wabhalisa esikoleni sobudokotela.

Imininingwane 2018 Rita Watson