Vala ukunqamula phakathi kokuzijabulisa kwabesifazane nokuzithokozisa
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Sinegebe le-orgasm. Abesifazane abesilisa nabesilisa abesilisa nabesifazane abesilisa nabesifazane banama-orgasms ambalwa kunabesilisa abesilisa nabesilisa abesilisa nabesifazane. Njengesibonelo esisodwa esivelele, ocwaningweni engilwenzile, ama-55% wamadoda aqhathaniswa ne-4% yabesifazane athi ajwayele ukuba yi-orgasm ngesikhathi sokuya ocansini okokuqala. Olunye ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi leli gebe lincipha, kepha alivaleki ngokuphelele, ebulilini bobudlelwano. Ucwaningo oluthile luthole ukuthi ama-85% wamadoda uma kuqhathaniswa nama-68% wabesifazane bathi badumbile ngesikhathi sabo sokugcina sobudlelwano bezocansi.
Ku- Ukuba Isimo Sezulu, Ngihlaziya izimbangela eziningi zomphakathi zaleli gebe — kufaka phakathi, njengesibonelo esisodwa nje, imfundo yezocansi engakhulumi ngobumnandi noma i-clitoris. Ngibe senginikeza izixazululo zokuvala igebe, ngokwesiko (isb., Imfundo yezocansi ethuthukisiwe; izinguquko zolimi) futhi uqobo (isb., Ukucabanga, ukuxhumana okuhle kwezocansi). Isixazululo esisodwa esimaphakathi esiphakanyisiwe ukuqinisekisa ukuthi abesifazane bathola uhlobo olufanayo lokugqugquzela ngesikhathi sokuzibandakanya ocansini nobulili obufanayo. Ngitshela abafundi:
Isenzo esibaluleke kunazo zonke esidingekayo ku-orgasm ngesikhathi socansi nomlingani wakho ukuthola uhlobo olufanayo lokugqugquzela olisebenzisayo lapho uzijabulisa.
Isisekelo sesitatimende sami esinohlonze (ngokoqobo nangokomfanekiso) iqiniso lokuthi yize kunegebe lobulili obuhlukanisiwe kwezocansi elihlukanisiwe, alikho igebe elinjalo kwezocansi zodwa. Ngokuya ngocwaningo olwenziwe yisazi esidumile, abesilisa nabesifazane banamazinga aphezulu e-orgasm ngesikhathi sokushaya indlwabu: i-94% yabesifazane ne-98% yabesilisa.
Isizathu esiyinhloko sokuzithokozisa kwabantu besifazane yi-orgasmic kangaka ukugxila ezithweni zabo zangasese zangaphandle-imvamisa i-clitoris, kepha futhi nezinyanga, izindebe zangaphakathi, nokuvuleka kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane. Ngempela, iningi leziphetho zezinzwa abesifazane abadinga ukufinyelela i-orgasm zitholakala ngaphandle kwezitho zabo zobulili. Lokhu kuchaza ukuthi kungani ocwaningweni olulodwa, cishe abesifazane abangama-86% babike bagxila ngokuphelele ezithweni zabo zangasese zangaphandle ngesikhathi sokuzijabulisa. Enye i-12% nayo igxile ngaphandle ngenkathi kwesinye isikhathi noma ngaso sonke isikhathi ifaka okuthile ezithweni zazo zangasese ngasikhathi sinye. Balinganiselwa ku-2% kuphela abazithokozisile ngokufaka kuphela okuthile ngaphakathi kwezitho zabo zobulili.
Ukuqeda lokhu futhi, phakathi kwabesifazane abangama-98% abavuse izitho zabo zangasese zangaphandle, ama-73% akwenze lokhu elele ngomhlane, ama-6% ngenkathi elala esiswini, ama-4% ngenkathi ehlikihla entweni ethambile, ama-2% ngokusebenzisa ukugijima amanzi, no-3% ngokumane bahlikihle amathanga abo ndawonye ngesigqi.
Sezihlanganisiwe, lezi zibalo zigcizelela amagama ka-Elisabeth Lloyd:
Into ehlaba umxhwele kakhulu mayelana nokushaya indlwabu kwabesifazane ukuthi kungenzeka kangakanani ukuthi ikhiqize i-orgasm nokuthi ifana kangakanani, imishini, ukukhuthazwa okuhlinzekwa ngokuya ocansini.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi (ayikho i-pun ehlosiwe), ukukhuthazwa umuntu akuthola ngokushaya indlwabu nangokuya ocansini (kanye nemisebenzi yokushaya kanye nemisebenzi yezandla) konke kuyafana: bagxila esithweni sakhe esizwela kakhulu ngokocansi, ipipi lakhe. Eqinisweni, izeluleko eziningi zokushaya indlwabu zabesilisa zibatshela ukuthi bazithinte ngezindlela ezenza kube sengathi umthondo wabo ungaphakathi esithweni sangasese. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukukhuthazwa owesifazane akuthola ngokushaya indlwabu nangokuya ocansini kuhluke kakhulu: ukushaya indlwabu kuphela kugxila esithweni sakhe sangaphandle sobulili esivusa inkanuko, i-clitoris. Kodwa-ke, lapho benabesilisa, abesifazane bavame ukuzishintsha, bebeka phambili ezocansi esikhundleni.
Lapho abesifazane nabesilisa beqhubeka nokuzibandakanya ocansini, ukuya ocansini kuvame ukubhekwa njengomcimbi oyinhloko kanye nanoma yikuphi ukuvuselelwa okwenziwe ngaphambi kokufakwa ku "foreplay" - ukufudumeza okulungiselela owesifazane ukuya ocansini. Akumangalisi ukuthi olunye ucwaningo lwenziwa nezinkulungwane yabafundi bephephabhuku iCosmopolitan bathole ukuthi ngesikhathi sokuhlangana kocansi okubandakanya ukuya ocansini, ama-78% ezinkinga zabesifazane ngenxa yokungatholi okwanele noma uhlobo olufanele lokugqugquzela.
Ngakho-ke, ukuvala igebe le-orgasm, sidinga ukubamba ukuvuselela okuhlangene nokukhuthaza i-penile njengokulingana. Njengoba ngikhuthazwe kokuthunyelwe kwami kokugcina, Ukwenza Ucansi Ngokuhlukile, sidinga ukufaka esikhundleni iskripthi sethu esivamile samasiko (i-foreplay, ukuya ocansini ne-orgasm yamadoda, ucansi ngaphezulu) ukuthola ama-scrip egalitarian, kufaka phakathi labo abaphendukayo ( Ufika Kuqala , Uphuma Kwesibili ) futhi lapho bobabili abalingani bathola ukukhuthazeka abakudingayo ngesikhathi sesenzo esifanayo socansi (isb., owesifazane othinta i-clitoris yakhe ngesikhathi sokuya ocansini; umbhangqwana osebenzisa iringi yeqhude elidlidlizayo nge-clitoral vibrator enamathiselwe). Uma ungowesifazane, ukuthola ukuvuselelwa okudingayo kusho ukuthi uqinisekisa ukuthi uthola uhlobo olufanayo lokugqugquzela phakathi kocansi lomlingani okukuletha ku-orgasm ngesikhathi socansi olulodwa.
Kunezindlela ezimbili zokudlulisa amasu akho okuzithokozisa ocansini nomunye umuntu. Enye ifundisa umlingani wakho okuthandayo kanti enye ikwenza ngokwakho. Ukufundisa uzakwethu kungahle kuhilele, ngokwesibonelo, ukubazisa kwisidlidlizi sakho, ubakhombise iminyakazo oyithandayo, noma ubatshele ukuthi yini ezwakala kamnandi ngesikhathi socansi lomlomo. Ukuzenzela ngokwakho kungafaka, ngokwesibonelo, ukusebenzisa izandla zakho noma isidlidlizi kuwe ngesikhathi sokuya ocansini, noma ukuziletha ku-orgasm ngemuva kocansi ngenkathi umlingani ekubambile, ekuqabula noma ekuthambisa.
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