Umehluko Phakathi Kokukhishwa, Izethulo Nabantu Abanamahloni

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• Kungani ezinye izethulo zikhungathekile ngendlela eziyiyo?
• Izethulo: Weirdos?
• Umehluko phakathi kwama-introverts nama-extraverts
• Ukukhathazeka komphakathi
• Amahloni
• Kepha-ke kuyini ukungena? Izici zesingeniso
• Ukuphinda ngiphinde: ngingeniswa noma nginamahloni?

Kungani ezinye izethulo zikhungathekile ngendlela eziyiyo?

Namuhla, kubonakala sengathi abantu abaphumelelayo yibo abanabangane abaningi, abakholisayo kakhulu, futhi abaxhumana kakhulu nabanye. Okudingayo ukuya emaphathini amaningi kungcono futhi ube yinkosi yombuthano wakho wenhlalo, wazi wonke amakhono ezenhlalo.

Izethulo: Weirdos?

Ezikhathini zakamuva, ukwengeza sekuyinto enhle okufanele sonke siyifise. Uma umuntu ekhululeke kakhulu ekufundeni kunasemcimbini onomculo onomsindo namakhulu abantu abaseduze, ubizwa ngokuthi unamahloni futhi unabantu, futhi sithi unenkinga.

Ukufundwa okunconyiwe: "Ungazi kanjani ukuthi uthambekele ekungenisweni noma ekubhekeni okungaphezulu"

Futhi yize kuyiqiniso ukuthi abanye babantu abagwema izimo zenhlalo benza kanjalo ngenxa yenkinga (enjengokwesaba umphakathi, ukukhathazeka noma ukuba namahloni okunehaba), abanye bakwenza lokho ngoba bekhetha ukuba wedwa ngempela. Cishe ikhulu leminyaka elidlule, uCarl Gustav Jung wachaza izinhlobo ezimbili zobuntu emsebenzini wakhe Izinhlobo Zengqondo, ukuhlukanisa abantu njengabangenisi nabangeneleli.

Umehluko phakathi kwama-introverts nama-extraverts

Kulesi sihloko, sizohlola umehluko phakathi kokungeniswa, ukuguqulwa, neminye imiqondo ehlobene. Siqala ngowokuqala, ukukhathazeka komphakathi.

Ukukhathazeka komphakathi

Isifo sokukhathazeka komphakathi, esaziwa nangokuthi ukwesaba umphakathi , iyi-pathology ehlukaniswe ngaphakathi kokuphazamiseka kokukhathazeka. Kubonakala ngoba umuntu ophethwe yilo ubhekana nokwesaba okungapheli kwesimo esisodwa noma eziningi zenhlalo, ngenxa yokwesaba ukuhlekwa usulu.

Izimpawu ezivame kakhulu ingcindezi esifubeni, ukujuluka, ukuqhaqhazela emilenzeni, ukuqhuma, imicabango engemihle, ukwesaba ukuhlolwa okungekuhle… Lezi zimpawu zingavela ezimweni ezehlukene zenhlalo umuntu okufanele abhekane nazo, njengokukhuluma esidlangalaleni noma ukuba iphathi.

Njengazo zonke izinkinga, inkinga yokukhathazeka komphakathi yenzeka ngoba umuntu ufisa ukuthi angaziphatha ngendlela ejwayelekile ezimweni ezibasabisayo, kepha abakwazi. Ukwehlisa lokhu, uvame ukusebenzisa isu elilodwa noma amaningi okubhekana nezinkinga, angaqala ngokungayi emicimbini nasemibuthanweni yokuzijabulisa, ukudakwa noma ukusebenzisa izidakamizwa ukukhulisa umqondo wakhe wokulawula.

Abantu abaningi abahlushwa yilesi sifo bangabhekwa njengabaphakeme, futhi yikho impela ukungqubuzana phakathi kwesifiso abanaso sokuhlobene nokwesaba izimo zenhlalo ezibangela ukuhlupheka okukhulu.

Amahloni

Uma sicabanga umugqa oqondile nokukhathazeka komphakathi kwesinye isikhathi ngokweqile nangokungenisa kokunye, amahloni angaba maphakathi kakhulu. Ngokuphikisana nalokho abantu abaningi abakucabangayo, Amahloni awabhekwa njengokuphazamiseka kwengqondo, yize ahlanganyela izici eziningi ne-phobia yomphakathi.

Umehluko omkhulu owuletha ngokukhathazeka komphakathi ukuthi, ngenkathi umuntu onale nkinga ezojwayela ukugwema izimo ezidala ukungakhululeki, ngokungayi noma ngokusebenzisa elinye isu lokubhekana nokuphuza utshwala, umuntu onamahloni angaqhubeka nokuziveza lezo zimo. Yazi, kufanele ubhekane nemizwa yakho yokungaphatheki kahle ngenkathi usenza lokho.

Omunye umehluko ukwenziwa jikelele kwezimpawu. Ngenkathi umuntu onamahloni engajabulela izinhlobo ezithile zezimo zenhlalo, ngokuya ngezimo ezifanayo, umuntu one-phobia yomphakathi uzozizwa engakhululeki cishe kuzo zonke izimo lapho ezizwa zivezwa khona ukugxekwa abanye.

Njengakwiphuzu langaphambilini, singathola abantu abaningi abadlulile abanamahloni ngasikhathi sinye, ngakho-ke asikwazi ukukhomba ukungeniswa ngale ndlela yokuziphatha.

Kepha-ke kuyini ukungena? Izici zesingeniso

Ngokwethiyori kaJung, okunye kokuhlukaniswa okubaluleke kakhulu esingakwenza phakathi kwabantu ukuthi bangama-extraverts noma ama-introverts.

Umehluko ukuthi bakuthola kanjani ukukhuthazwa abakudingayo ukuze bazizwe kahle. Ngenkathi i-extravert "ikhokhiswa" ngamandla ezindaweni zomphakathi, i-introvert ikhiqiza okwayo ukukhuthazeka kwangaphakathi, ukuze izindawo ezinamandla kakhulu zimgcwale zigcine zimkhathaza.

Ngakho-ke, umuntu othukuthele uyovame ukubheka izimo lapho kunabantu abaningi, umculo onomsindo, noma ukuzwa okwedlulele. Ngeke kube yinto engavamile ukuthola umuntu onalezi zici eyisizinda sokunakwa kweqembu, noma ezungezwe abangane abaningi, enza imidlalo eyeqisayo noma edlala esiteji.

Ngokuphambene nalokho, futhi yize isingeniso singazithokozela lezi zinto, ngokuvamile bazobheka ezinye izinhlobo zemisebenzi yokuphumula: ukufunda incwadi enhle, ukuba nezingxoxo ezijulile nabangane babo abaseduze, ukuchitha usuku emvelweni…

Ukuphinda ngiphinde: ngingeniswa noma nginamahloni?

Vele, azikho izethulo ezihlanzekile noma ama-extroverts (futhi njengoba uJung ngokwakhe asho, "uma bekhona, kuzofanele sibabheke esibhedlela sabagula ngengqondo"). Sonke singakhombisa izici zohlobo oluthile noma olunye ngokuya ngomzuzu nesimo lapho kodwa kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi sikujabulele ukuba wedwa ngaphandle kokucabanga ukuthi sinenkinga ethile.

Ngamafuphi, uma ucabanga ukuthi uyisethuli, bheka ukuthi uhlangabezana yini nalezi zici ezinhlanu:

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma uzibona ubonakala kulezi zici ezilandelayo, kungenzeka ukuthi uhlushwa amahloni noma ukwesaba umphakathi:

Ngiyethemba le ndatshana ikusizile ukuthi uqonde umehluko phakathi kokungeniswa kanye nokuphazamiseka okuhlukile okungathinta indlela esiziphatha ngayo nabanye, futhi ukuqonda kangcono imizwa yakho ngezimo zenhlalo.