Nciphisa ubunzima obunzima

-Delile

• Umkhuba:
• Kungani?
• Kanjani?

• Eminye imizwa ebuhlungu ingasebenza ngenhloso, njengokuxwayisa abantu ngezinsongo noma ukuzivimbela ekuphindeni iphutha elibizayo.
• Ukuhlupheka okuqhubekayo, noma kunjalo, kungaba nemiphumela ehlukahlukene emibi ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo.
• Ukuyeka okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu, hlakulela ukuqwashisa, qaphela izinto ezingezinhle, gwema "ukungabi nalusizo okufundiwe," futhi uqaphele ukunganaki ebudlelwaneni.

Ingabe uzwa ubuhlungu obungadingeki?

Umkhuba:

Nciphisa ubunzima obunzima .

Kungani?

Okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu kusuka kokungakhululeki okucashile kuya kosizi olukhulu — futhi kukhona indawo yabo. Usizi lungavula inhliziyo, intukuthelo ingagqamisa ukungabi nabulungisa, ukwesaba kungakuxwayisa ngezinsongo zangempela, futhi ukuzisola kungakusiza uthathe umgwaqo ophakeme ngokuzayo.

Kodwa ingabe kukhona ukushoda kokuhlupheka kulomhlaba? Bheka ubuso babanye — kufaka phakathi obami noma obakho esibukweni — bese ubona izimpawu zokukhathala, ukucasuka, ukucindezeleka, ukudumala, ukulangazelela nokukhathazeka. Kunezinselelo eziningi empilweni vele — ezibandakanya ukugula okungenakugwenywa, ukulahlekelwa abantu obathandayo, ukuguga nokufa — ngaphandle kokudinga ukwenzelela ebuchosheni bakho ukukunika isilinganiso esengeziwe sobuhlungu usuku ngalunye.

Kodwa-ke, njengokuthunyelwe kwangaphambilini kuhloliwe, ubuchopho bakho bavela ngqo “kokuchema kokunganaki” ukuze usize okhokho bakho badlulise izakhi zofuzo zabo — okuwukukhetha okudala umonakalo omkhulu wesibambiso namuhla.

Okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu kungaphezu kokudlulisa ukungakhululeki. Zikhiqiza ukulimala okungapheli empilweni yakho engokwenyama nengqondo. Uma uzizwa ukhungathekile, ucindezelwe, uphansi, uzikhandla, noma umane ukhungathekile, lokho:

• Yenza buthaka amasosha akho omzimba
• Konakalisa ukumuncwa komsoco ohlelweni lwakho lwamathumbu
• Kwandisa ukuba sengozini ohlelweni lwakho lwe-cardiovascular
• Kunciphisa ama-hormone akho okuzala futhi kukhulisa i-PMS
• Ukuphazamisa isimiso sakho sezinzwa

Cabanga ngesisho esidumile esithi: “Ama-neuron avutha ndawonye, ​​axhume ngocingo ndawonye.” Lokhu kusho ukuthi okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu okuphindaphindiwe-ngisho nokuncane - kuvame uku:

• Khulisa ukungabi nathemba, ukukhathazeka nokucasuka
• Yehlisa imizwa yakho
• Nciphisa ukuvelela nokuzibeka engcupheni

Kwizithandani, amava acasulayo akhuthaza ukungathembani, ukukhulisa ukuzwela ezindabeni ezincane kakhulu, ibanga, nemijikelezo enonya. Ngezilinganiso ezinkulu kakhulu — phakathi kwamaqembu noma izizwe — zenza okufanayo.

Ngakho-ke, ungathathi kalula izinto ezibuhlungu, noma ozitholayo noma, ngokuthembeka, lezo ozinikezayo.Vimbela lapho ungakwazi futhi ubasize badlule lapho ungakwazi.

Kanjani?

Kuleli sonto, zimele wena, ukuze uzizwe umuhle ngangokunokwenzeka. Ukuma kokuthwala okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu lapho bengena ngomnyango — kanye nokuma ukubakhuthaza ukuthi baqhubeke nokuhamba, uphume engqondweni yakho.

Lokhu akulona ukulwa nokungaphatheki kahle noma usizi, okungavele nje kungeze ukungabi nandaba, njengokuzama ukucisha umlilo ngophethiloli. Esikhundleni salokho, kuba nomusa kuwe, ukuhlakanipha, futhi ubhekane namaqiniso ngemiphumela enobuthi yokuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu.

Empeleni, umane usho kuwe okuthile ongakusho kumngane othandekayo osezinhlungwini: Ngifuna uzizwe ungcono, futhi ngizokusiza. Zama ukukusho lokho engqondweni yakho njengamanje. Ngabe izwakala kanjani?

Lapho ubuhlungu obungokomzwelo buza, noma kancane, zama ukububamba endaweni enkulu yokuqwashisa. Esingathekisweni sendabuko, ake ucabange uvusa isipuni esikhulu sikasawoti enkomishini yamanzi bese uyiphuza: yuck. Kodwa-ke ake ucabange ugalela le-spoonful ebhakedeni lamanzi elihlanzekile bese uphuza inkomishi: Kuyinani elifanayo likasawoti — inani elifanayo lokukhathazeka noma ukukhungatheka, ukuzizwa unganele noma kuluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka — kodwa kugcinwe endaweni enkudlwana. Qaphela ukuthi ukuqaphela akunamiphetho, akunamkhawulo njengesibhakabhaka, kunemicabango nemizwa edlulayo.

Engqondweni yakho, bhekisisa ukuthi imininingwane engemihle, imicimbi, noma okuhlangenwe nakho kungabonakala kunqoba kanjani okuhle. Isibonelo, abacwaningi bathole ukuthi abantu ngokujwayelekile bazosebenza kanzima noma babekezelele enye i-crud ukugwema ukulahlekelwa okuthile kunokuzuza into efanayo. Futhi bazizwa bengcoliswe kakhulu yiphutha elilodwa kunalokho abazizwa behlanzwe noma bekhushulwa izimfanelo ezithile ezinhle. Zama ukukushintsha lokhu; ngokwesibonelo, khetha ezinye zezimfanelo zakho ezinhle bese uqhubeka nokubona ukuthi ziveza kanjani empilweni yakho kuleli sonto.

Qaphela noma kunini lapho uzizwa unesitayela, ukhungathekile, noma udumele. Abantu (nezinye izilwane ezincelisayo) basengozini enkulu kulokho okubizwa ngokuthi “ukungabi namandla okufunda” —ukukhulisa umuzwa wobuze, ukungabi namandla, nokungabi namandla. Gxila lapho wena can yenza umehluko, lapho unamandla khona; kungahle kube ngaphakathi kwengqondo yakho kuphela, kepha lokho kungcono kunokuthile.

Ebudlelwaneni bakho, khumbula ukusabela ngokuqinile emcimbini owodwa ongemuhle kunaseqenjini lezinto ezinhle. Isibonelo, ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi ngokuvamile kuthatha ukusebenzisana okuhle okwenzelwe ukuhlangana okukodwa okungalungile. Khetha ubudlelwano obubalulekile, bese unaka ngempela okusebenzayo kubo; zivumele uzizwe kamnandi ngalezi zinto. Bhekana nezinkinga kulobu budlelwano, impela, kodwa uzigcine zisendaweni efanele.

Sekukonke, noma nini lapho ukhumbula, thambekela ngamabomu kokuhle engqondweni yakho. Lokho akubheki umhlaba ngezingilazi ezinombala ophuzi. Njengoba kunikezwe ubandlululo ebuchosheni, umane nje ulinganise inkundla yokudlala.