Ukubonga Akukhanseliwa Lokhu Kubonga

Njengemicimbi eminingi kulo nyaka, i-Thanksgiving kuzoba yiholide elihluke ngokuphelele kubantu abaningi. Amacala akhulayo e-COVID-19 asho ukuthi abaningi bazodela ukuhlangana nomndeni nabangane, kunalokho bayohlala ekhaya ngesikhathi obekuyiholidi elikhulu laseMelika lokuvakasha.

Yize imicimbi emikhulu yokudla kwakusihlwa kungenzeka ingenzeki, kunento eyodwa ye-Thanksgiving engahlala naphezu kobhadane lomhlaba wonke: umbono wokubonga.

Abaphenyi kudala basungula ukuthi ukubonga kuthuthukisa inhlalakahle. Yize singazizwa sibonga ngento ethize, njengesipho noma ukudla, umbono obanzi wokubonga - umqondo wokubona nokwazisa okuhle empilweni yakho - kufakazelwa ukuthi uvikela abantu ekuhluphekeni kwengqondo.

Ukubuyekezwa okuhlelekile kowezi-2010 kwathola ukuthi “isimo sokubonga” singanciphisa ubungozi bokudana, ukukhathazeka, nokusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa, futhi kufakazelwa ukuthi kusiza abantu bazijwayeze izehlakalo zempilo ezihlasimulisayo nemiphumela yazo.

Ukubuyekezwa okusha okushicilelwe kulo nyaka kuthole ubufakazi obubuthakathaka bokuthi ukuba nesimo sokubonga kungaholela ekwehleni kokuphazamiseka okuthile kwezempilo yengqondo. Kepha kutholile ubufakazi obuqinile bokuthi umbono wokubonga uhlobene nenhlalakahle engokomzwelo neyenhlalo. Ngamanye amagama, ukubonga kungahle kungaphilisi ukucindezeleka komtholampilo, kepha kungasiza ekuthuthukiseni imizwa yakho nokuxhumana kwakho nabanye.

Okuthakazelisa nakakhulu, zombili lezi zibuyekezo zithole ukuthi ukungenelela kokubonga kuyasebenza ekukhuliseni inhlalakahle yakho. Lokhu kusho imikhuba efana nokubhala phansi izinto ezintathu ozibongayo, ukuba nenkambiso yansuku zonke yokubonisa ukubonga kwabanye, futhi nokubhala amanothi okubonga kusiza ekuthuthukiseni inhlalakahle yakho engokomzwelo neyenhlalo, ukunciphisa imizwa engemihle, nokunciphisa ukukhathazeka.

"Ngabomqondo sifuna izindawo nezikhathi ezimpilweni zethu lapho singaphumula khona ngomuzwa wokukhululeka nokwaneliseka okuza ngokwazi izipho esinazo ezimpilweni zethu kunamandla amakhulu," kusho uJanis Whitlock, usosayensi ocwaninga eBrofenbrenner Centre yocwaningo lokuhumusha ucwaningo lwakhe olugxile ekuqondeni nasekubhekaneni nezinselelo zempilo yengqondo yabantu abadala nentsha. "Noma ngabe mancane, njengokukhanya kwelanga osukwini olubuhlungu, noma olukhulu, njengokwazi ukuthi abathandekayo bethu banempilo futhi baphephile, izifundo zicacile - ukubonga kuyisivikelo futhi kuyindlela yokwelapha."

Ngasikhathi sinye, siyazi ukuthi ubhadane lwe-COVID-19 lunomthelela omubi empilweni yabantu yengqondo. Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi ubhadane luye lwaholela ekwandeni kwemizwa yengcindezi, isizungu, ukukhathazeka nokudangala.

Yilapho i-Thanksgiving ingena khona: Iholide eligxile ekunikezeni ukubonga kungaba yithuba elihle lokuqala umkhuba wakho wokubonga. Yenza uhlelo lokushayela umngani nsuku zonke ubatshele okuthile onokubonga ngakho. Qala iphephabhuku lokubonga. Noma yenza uhlelo lokubhala amanothi okubonga masonto onke. Ngenkathi ukubonga kungasuli izinkinga ezinkulu zempilo yengqondo, kunganciphisa imizwa yokudabuka nesizungu okungavela ngokudela amasiko akho okubonga.