Ukuba Nezingane Kungenza Iminyaka Kubonakale Idlula Ngokushesha

Umbono wokuthi izimpilo zethu ziyashesha njengoba sikhula usabalele kangangokuba sekuwukuhlakanipha okuvamile. Ngibhalile ngemiphumela yami yokufunda kusuka ku-2005 kokuthunyelwe kwangaphambili kwebhulogi le-Psychology Today, lapho sathola khona ama-500 ase-Austrian kanye namaJalimane aphendule umbuzo othi "Isheshe kangakanani le minyaka eyishumi eyedlule?" ukwanda okuthembele ebudaleni emzwelweni wokuzithoba wokuhamba kwesikhathi. Lokhu kusheshiswa kwesikhathi sokuphila ngokuziphendulela ngeminyaka ekhulayo kwakubonakala kusuka kwintsha kuya kwabadala, eqenjini lobudala eliphakathi kweminyaka eyi-14 kanye nengama-59. Kubukeka sengathi ithafa lifinyelelwa eminyakeni engama-60. Okwamanje lo mphumela uphinde wenziwa ngabantu abavela eNetherlands naseNew Zealand, kanye nangabahlanganyeli baseJapan.

Incazelo ejwayelekile yalomphumela wobudala ekuboneni isikhathi ihlobene nememori ye-autobiographical. Uma sibheka emuva ezimpilweni zethu, sithembele kwimemori ukwahlulela ubude besikhathi. Imicimbi ethakazelisa kakhulu futhi engokomzwelo igcinwe kwimemori ngesikhathi esinikeziwe sesikhathi, isikhathi eside leso sikhathi sizwakala ukuthi sihlale lapho sibheka emuva. Njengoba sikhula, siba nokujwayeleka okuqhubekayo ezimpilweni zethu, futhi ukungabikho kwento entsha kuholela ekwehleni kwenani lemicimbi ethokozisayo egcinwe enkumbulweni. Ucwaningo oluvela kwa-Israyeli lukhombisile ukuthi inqubo ejwayelekile empilweni, kokubili eholidini nasemsebenzini, iholela ekudlulisweni kwesikhathi esibonwa ngokushesha.

Inani elandayo lemisebenzi ejwayelekile, ebaluleke kakhulu ukwenza imisebenzi yansuku zonke nezingane futhi lizinikeze isakhiwo nokuzizwa liphephile, lingaba nethonya elinamandla kwimemori yokuphila komuntu kubazali. Lokhu kungadala isikhathi sokuzithoba ukusheshisa kakhulu kubantu abadala abanezingane uma kuqhathaniswa nabantu abadala abangenazo izingane. Njengoba kungekho bufakazi obunamandla kuze kube manje obubikiwe ezincwadini zocwaningo maqondana nale mbono, uNathalie Mella wase-University of Geneva eSwitzerland nami sahlaziya idatha yami yakudala yokufunda kusukela ngo-2005 sabhala udaba olusanda kushicilelwa kumagazini Isikhathi Nokubona Isikhathi .

Sithole umehluko ocacile, phakathi kwabantu abadala abanezingane nabantu abadala abangenazo, ekuhlangenwe nakho okuzithobayo kokuhamba kweminyaka eyishumi eyedlule. Lapho kuqhathaniswa la maqembu womabili, kwacaca ukuthi kubantu abadala abanezingane, isikhathi seminyaka eyishumi eyedlule sidlula ngokuzithoba ngokukhulu ukushesha. Lo mehluko awubonwanga ngezikhawu ezimfushane zokuphila zesonto, inyanga, nonyaka. Imiphumela ephathelene neminyaka eyi-10 eyedlule ibonwe kuphela kumaqembu eminyaka yobudala aphakathi kuka-20 no-59, iqembu lobudala elisebangeni lokukhulisa izingane, hhayi kubantu abadala asebekhulile. Ukuhlangana okuncane okuhle phakathi kwenani lezingane nesivinini esibonwayo sesikhathi nakho kutholakele.

Imiphumela isobala. Noma kunjalo, ukuhumusha akunjalo. Enye yezincazelo ezingaba khona ngomehluko esiwutholile ilele embonweni wokuthi izingane zikhula ngokushesha kangakanani. Ngaphezulu kweminyaka eyishumi, izingane zibhekana nezinguquko ezimangazayo hhayi ekubukekeni kwazo kuphela kepha nasemakhonweni azo okuqonda nesimo sawo. Ukuzwa izinguquko ezimangazayo kumuntu esiphila naye, ngenkathi abantu abadala beguquka kancane, kungaholela ekubonakaleni kwesikhathi esisheshayo. Lokhu kukhetha ukuqonda kungasiza ekuchazeni ukuthi kungani abazali becabanga ukuthi isikhathi sidlulile ngokushesha okukhulu.

Enye incazelo ukuthi abazali banikela ngesikhathi sabo esiningi ezinganeni zabo futhi banesikhathi esincane sokuzithokozisa. Umuzwa wokuba nesikhathi esincane sabo kungaholela embonweni wokuthi isikhathi sesidlule ngokushesha okukhulu njengoba isikhathi esasinikelwe empilweni yabo sincishiswe ngokufanele. Okokugcina, ukuba nezingane kubhekwa ngabaningi njengesinyathelo esibalulekile empilweni, futhi ukucabanga ngokuwela lo mkhawulo empilweni yomuntu kungaba nomthelela kwimemori yomuntu. Izifundo ezengeziwe kufanele ziphenye ngokujulile izindlela eziyisisekelo zomphumela wokuba ngumzali ekusheshiseni isikhathi esinqunyiwe.