Ungashintsha Kanjani Amandla Obudlelwano obuhlukumezayo

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• Basebenzisana Kanjani Ozakwethu
• Ukubhekana Nokuhlukunyezwa
• Ukushintsha Amandla Ebudlelwaneni Obuhlukumezayo
• 1. Thola Ukusekelwa
• Gxila Ekululameni Kwakho
• 3. Funda futhi Wemukele
• 4. Detach
• 5. Fezekisa Izidingo Zakho
• 6. Yiba Namandla

Ozakwethu ebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo bathola ukuhlukumezeka okuqhubekayo. Lobu budlelwano bungakunciphisa kakhulu ukuzethemba kwethu, kepha abanye abantu beza kubo benokuzethemba okuphansi, ngenxa yokuhlukumezeka noma ukuba ngumzali ongasebenzi kahle ebuntwaneni babo. Bakholelwa ukuthi ngandlela thile baphansi nokuthi lokho abazizwa ngakho, abakucabangayo, abakudingayo, kanye / noma abakufunayo akubalulekile kunokwenziwa abanye. Lokhu kuyihlazo labo elifihliwe.

Ngenxa yalokho, babamba i- uqulekile inkolelo yokuthi abakufanele ngempela ukuthandwa ngenxa nje yokuthi bangobani, kepha ukuthi kufanele bathole uthando. Lokhu kubangela ukungazethembi okuyisisekelo nokwesaba ukushiywa.

Basebenzisana Kanjani Ozakwethu

Ngoba abalingani babo bavame ukuba nothando futhi bathandane, bangakhohlisa futhi bathele umlingani wabo ngezincomo, izethembiso, nezenzo zothando. Banamakhono okudlala imidlalo futhi bangaze "babathande-ibhomu". Ozakwethu balangazelela uthando nokuxhumana, futhi ukufiswa kubenza bazizwe bethandeka. Kepha ukungavikeleki nokuzethemba phansi kubenza babe sengozini yokuyengwa ukuze badidanise ezothando nothando lwangempela. Ukungazethembi futhi kubenza besabe ukugxekwa, ukwaliwa, nokushiywa, ababhekana nakho ngokunikela, ukuqonda, ukujabulisa, nangokuba usizo. Abanye bakholelwa ukuthi kumele babe nomusa, yize bexhashazwa futhi behlukunyezwa.

Ngakho-ke, umhlukumezi uyabuchaza ubudlelwano, kuyilapho abalingani babo behamba bezwana futhi bebugcina. Bancoma isibindi sabanye abahlukumezi, ukuqiniseka, namandla abonwayo (izimfanelo bona ngokwabo abangenazo) futhi bathokozela indima yokusekela futhi bazizwe benakekelwa. Ngezinye izinhlobo zabahlukumezi, bavame ukuba sendaweni yomsizi nomondli. Ukudingeka kuzwakala njengothando. Kukhulisa ukuzethemba kwabo futhi kubaqinisekise ukuthi abasoze balahlwa.

Kodwa-ke, abahlukumezi banehlazo elijulile. Bafaka amadimoni abo angaphakathi kumuntu obathandayo futhi ozama ukubasiza.

Ukubhekana Nokuhlukunyezwa

Ukuhlukumeza kanye nokugodla uthando kufaka abalingani endimeni esebenza kahle, ukugxila kowakwabo, ukuhamba kumaqanda amaqanda, nokufihla ukuthi bangobani. Bazama ngokuqhubekayo ukulawula okungalawuleki, bazidele, futhi bazame kanzima ukujabulisa nokwamukelwa. Yize ekuqaleni babekade benemibono, manje basehlisiwe.

Abanye abahlukumezi bayehlisela phakathi kokuziphatha okunakekelayo nokuziphatha okwenqaba ukwehlisa isithunzi. Esikhundleni sokwenza okudingayo, abanye abahlukumezi basebenza ngokufuna ngenkani noma ngokungadingekile. Abazweli futhi bangaba kude futhi babande ngokomzwelo.Abanye bangakhombisa ubungani kozakwethu, kanti abanye bahlala begxeka futhi bedelela.

Lapho uthando lugodlwa noma lungahambelani, abalingani abaningi bazama ukulunqoba, bewela ogibeni lokuguqula ukuzethemba kwabo kanye nomuzwa wenhlalakahle koshade nabo. Ingqondo yabo iba ngaphansi kwengqondo yomhlukumezi. Abazizwa benele ngokwanele, beqinisa ihlazo labo elifihlekile.

Le nkontileka engashiwongo isebenza isikhashana ngoba ozakwethu bahlinzeka ngokuphepha nokuzinza nokufudumala nokuxhumana okungekho. Kepha ngenxa yokungavikeleki kwabo kanye nemingcele ebuthakathaka, abalingani bathola ukusolwa, icala, nehlazo elikhishwa ngabahlukumezi. Bazizwa bengenamandla okusiza nokwanelisa umlingani wabo, abanecala “lamaphutha” abasolwa ngawo, futhi banenzondo yokuthi imizamo yabo ayibongwa futhi iyahluleka. Abahlukumezi balawula abalingani babo ngobudlova babo nokuqagela kwabo. Njengoba ubudlelwano buya ngokuwohloka, kanjalo nokuzizwa komlingani kukhula.

Amandla obudlelwano obuhlukumezayo akhulisa ukucindezeleka kwabalingani futhi andise imizamo yabo yokuthokozisa nokusiza abalingani babo. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, iqiniso lokuthi umlutha noma ubuntu obukhubazekile bomuntu buqala ukuthelela umbono womlingani nemibono yeqiniso, futhi. Ukuzethemba kwabo kwehlisiwe, futhi bakhathazeka kakhulu futhi bakhathalele bezama ukudambisa inkinga, bagweme ukuhlukunyezwa, futhi babambe ubudlelwane ndawonye.

Ngenkathi bezama ukuzivumelanisa nomunye umuntu ukuze bezizwe bengcono, abalingani basuka kude nezixazululo zangempela. Banenkolelo eyiphutha yokuthi banesibopho semizwa nezidingo zomhlukumezi ngenkathi bengazinaki ezabo. Ukuziphatha kabi komhlukumezi nokukhohlisa kuqinisa inkolelo yamanga yomlingani wakhe yokuthi banephutha futhi banesibopho sokulutha kabuhlungu komhlukumezi nobuhlungu.

Uma abalingani abade benza lokhu, izinto ziba zimbi kakhulu. Bayabuphika ubuhlungu babo futhi bavimbele umhlukumezi ekuthatheni umthwalo ngokuziphatha kwabo, izidingo zabo, kanye nemizwa yabo nokuthi bathole usizo. Lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi “ukunika amandla.” Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukwenqaba kuyabaphuphuthekisa eqinisweni lokuthi izinkolelo zabo nokuziphatha kwabo kunomthelela ekungajabuleni kwabo nokuthi banezinto abangakhetha ukuzishintsha.

Ukushintsha Amandla Ebudlelwaneni Obuhlukumezayo

Impendulo yenza okuphambene ngokuphelele nalokho okuza ngokwemvelo kuzisulu zokuhlukunyezwa. Ngibhala ngokusuka kokuhlangenwe nakho kwami ​​nobuchwepheshe.

1. Thola Ukusekelwa

Okokuqala nokubaluleke kakhulu akukhona ukuhlukanisa. Kunzima — akunakwenzeka ngempela — ukushintsha amandla obudlelwano obuhlukumezayo ngaphandle kosizo lwangaphandle. Thola ukwesekwa ukuze ubone omunye umbono weqiniso, ngoba ophathina baba ngabodwana futhi badideke ngokuhlaselwa, izinsongo, kanye neqiniso elisontekile lomhlukumezi.

Gxila Ekululameni Kwakho

Ushintsho aluqali kuze kube yilapho abalingani begxila ekululameni kwabo, hhayi ekushintsheni omunye umuntu, abangenamandla phezu kwakhe. Lokho akusho ukuthi abanamandla noma ukukhetha, kepha kungaphezu kwezenzo zabo nezimpilo zabo.

3. Funda futhi Wemukele

Kubalulekile ukufunda konke ongakufunda ngokuhlukunyezwa. Ukufunda ngakho nokwamukela iqiniso ezingeni elijulile kukwenza ukwazi ukuphuma ekuphikeni.

4. Detach

Ukunqamula indawo akudingi ukushiya noma ukuzihlukanisa. Kufana nokuba nenkundla yamandla engabonakali, evikelayo. Esikhundleni sokuphendula, uyaxhuma futhi ungaphenduli kulokho omunye umuntu anquma ukukuphonsa ngoba nje engakhululekile esikhunjeni sakhe. Uqala ukubona ukuthi yize amazwi abo engase abe buhlungu, awanalo iqiniso.

5. Fezekisa Izidingo Zakho

Ufunda ukuhlonipha okudingayo, okuzwayo, nokufunayo. Uhlangabezana nalezo zidingo ezivela kubantu abaphephile nabasekelayo. Lokhu kuzokhulisa ukuzethemba kwakho. Awusacabangi njengesisulu futhi unikwe amandla.

6. Yiba Namandla

Njengoba ukuzethemba kwakho kukhula, ufunda ukuzethemba. Imingcele yakho iyathuthuka, bese ucela okufunayo bese ubeka imikhawulo kokungakufuni. Lokhu akulula, kepha isibindi sakho siyakhula ekululameni. Ungaba namandla ngokwanele ukushiya noma ugcizelele ukuthi umlingani wakho athole ukwelashwa.

Noma uhlala ebudlelwaneni, uthola ukuthi impilo yakho ijabule kakhudlwana, ngoba usuthathele amandla ukuzethemba kwakho nokuphila kahle.

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