Ungaba Kanjani Nokulawulwa Kwezingqondo Okungeziwe

Ngubani ophethe ukunquma ukuthi ubuchopho bakho bucabangani ngakho? Ziningi izinto ezihilelekile, kodwa uyakwazi ukulawula okuningi kunalokho ongase ucabange.

Wonke umuntu unezinga elithile lokuzithiba okuthinta izinkolelo zakhe, izifiso, imicabango, izinhloso, amacebo nemizwa yakhe. Abantu bahlukile emandleni abo okuzithiba, okucatshangwa ukuthi kuvela ku-cortex engaphambili enkulu ebuchosheni. I-neocortex ize ibe nochungechunge lwamasekethe axhunyiwe akha uhlelo lokulawula oluphezulu. Ukuntuleka kokuzithiba kudala izinkinga eziningi zezenhlalo nezengqondo. Ukwehluleka ukuzilawula kungaholela ekukhuluphaleni ngokweqile, ekuluthweni umlutha, ebuphofwini, ekuziphatheni okubi ngokobulili, kanye nezinye izindlela zokuziphatha ezingeziswa kahle. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abantu abanokuzithiba okuphezulu kungenzeka ukuthi babe "ngabanempilo, abacebile nabahlakaniphile."

Sikufunda kanjani ukulawula okunjalo? Ngikhomba izinto ezintathu lapha:

1. Isisusa

Sigqugquzelwa izindlela zokuqinisa ubuchopho ezinhle kanye namandla ethu engqondo okulungisa iphuzu elibekiwe lezinga lokuqiniswa elisenelisayo. Njenge-thermostat ye-heater, uma isilungiselelo siphansi, akuthathi ukushisa okuningi ukuhlangabezana nesidingo. Uma izilungiselelo ziphezulu, sidinga ukushisa okwengeziwe nezikhathi ezinde. Ngabe umuntu ulilungisa kanjani iphuzu lokusetha i-hedonistic set?

Enye indlela yokwengeza ukuzithiba ukuthi ube nezinye izinto zokuqinisa ezivumela umuntu ukuthi afake izithuthukisi "ezinhle" kokubi. Enye indlela ukuhlela izinhloso ngamabomu ukuze impumelelo idinga abaqinisi "abahle". Ungafuna inkampani yabanye abantu abafisa ukwabelana ngalawo magugu kanye nemihlahlandlela efanayo. Izikhuthazo zibalulekile.

2. Ukukhathala Kwengqondo

Ukumelana nesilingo kungaba umsebenzi onzima. Ekuphileni, siyathola ukuqabuleka ngokuthatha iholide. Ukuthatha iholide ekumelaneni nesilingo akuyona into enhle. Yini-ke esiyenzayo ukuvuselela ukuzithiba okudingekayo ukuze simelane nesilingo?

Amandla okuzithiba ngokusobala "ngumthombo okhawulelwe" ongaqedwa. Ukuzaliswa kabusha kuthatha isikhathi lapho kunezidingo ezimbalwa. Mhlawumbe lokhu kuyinzuzo eyodwa yokuphumula noma yokuhlehla. Ukuphunyuka ezimeni ezilingayo kufana nokuthatha iholide.

Imicabango yethu engemihle iyasikhathala. Imicabango ecindezelayo yenza kube lula kakhulu ukukhathazeka kuze kube sezingeni lokukhathala ngokomzwelo. Cabanga ngazo zonke izikhathi lapho ulahlekelwe khona ukulala ngenxa yento ekuhluphayo. Lapho siphapheme, ukukhathazeka okunjalo kunciphisa umkhiqizo wethu. Sikuvimbela kanjani lokho kucabanga okungalawuleki? Ukuqondiswa kwengqondo kuyadingeka. Kunezindlela zokuqeqesha ubuchopho ukuthi buqondiswe ngokwengeziwe ekuhloleni imicabango engathandeki. Enye indlela, ngokumangazayo, ifaka imisebenzi yokuqeqesha inkumbulo yokusebenza; lezi ziqeqesha ubuchopho ukugxila nokuhlola imicabango ephazamisayo. [1] Umkhuba ojulile wokuthandaza noma ukuzindla ungenza into efanayo.

3. Iminyaka

Abantu abasha bavame ukungazithibi kunabantu abadala. Abafundisi bagomela ngokuthi ukuzithiba ezinganeni ezineminyaka yobudala esenkulisa kuhlotshaniswa kakhulu nempumelelo yesikole kune-IQ. [2] Ukungasebenzi kahle kobuchopho okuguqula ukuzithiba kuzokwenyusa ukunganaki futhi kuvame ukuholela ekuziphatheni okuphikisana nomphakathi noma nokuhlukumezeka. Ukuskena kobuchopho kukhombisa ukuthi abantu abangaxhamazeli bane-hippocampus encane ne-prefrontal cortex ngokungajwayelekile. [3] Asazi noma bazalwa benjalo noma baba ngaleyo ndlela impilo yabo yonke ngokuzitika ngezifiso zabo.

Amandla okuphatha aphezulu angancipha kubantu asebekhulile, abangahle bangakwazi ukunakekela izidingo zabo nokulawula impilo yabo. Ucwaningo lwabadala (isilinganiso seminyaka engama-75) luveze ukuthambekela kwasebekhulile ukuthi bahoxe ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi, kanye nokuthambekela okuhambisanayo kokucindezeleka. [4] Ingcindezi, engahle ibe nomthelela wokuqongelela eminyakeni edlule, ihlanganiswa nezingcindezi zamanje zokuguga. I-adrenal-pituitary stress axis ingahle isebenze kakhudlwana, okuholele ekuphakameni komfutho wegazi ophakeme ekukhishweni kwe-adrenalin kanye nokushwabana kwama-neural synapses kusuka ekukhishwe ngokweqile kwe-cortisol.

Izimpawu zamakhemikhali zokuvuvukala ziyanda ngeminyaka. Izingcindezi eziqoqekayo zesikhathi sokuphila zingadala ukukhathazeka okukhulu, ukudideka, ukucindezela okuqhubekayo nokudangala. Ngakho-ke, umjikelezo ononya wokuwohloka kwengqondo kungenzeka. Esimweni esinjalo, ukulawula okuphezulu kwehluleka, futhi umuntu angaba nosizi futhi ancike.

[2] UBlair, C., noRazza, R. (2007). Ukuhlobanisa ukulawula okusebenzayo, ukusebenza okuphezulu, kanye nokuqonda kwenkolelo yamanga nekhono elivelayo lezibalo nelokubhala enkulisa. Ingane Dev., 7 (8), isigaba 2, 647-663. i-doi: 10.1111 / j.1467-8624.2007.01019.x.

[3] UPenney, S. (2012). Ukulawula umfutho kanye nesibopho sobugebengu: Izifundo ezivela ku-neuroscience. Ijenali Yomhlaba Wonke Yezomthetho Nezengqondo, 35 (2), 99-103. i-doi: 10.1016 / j.ijlp.2011.12.004

[4] UBoss, L., Branson, S., Cron, S., & Kang, D. (2016). Ukuhlolwa kwe-Biobehavioral yokubhekana nenkolo, i-psychosocialfFactors, kanye nomsebenzi wokuphatha kubantu abadala asebekhulile. Izinkolo, 7 (5), 42. http://dx.doi.org/10.3390/rel7050042