Ungazi Kanjani Uma Ungu-Empath Wocansi

Kubantu abazwelayo nakubantu abazwelayo, ezocansi siyisihloko esibalulekile okumele sicacelwe ngaso, ukuthi awukashadi, uyajola, noma usebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside.

Njengoba ngixoxa “kuMhlahlandlela Wokusinda We-Empath,” ngoba empaths ziyazwela, ayikho into efana nokuthi “ucansi oluvamile.” Ngesikhathi sokwenza uthando, ama-empath angathatha kokubili ukukhathazeka nenjabulo kumlingani wethu wezocansi, futhi imvamisa athole ama-intuitions ngemicabango nemizwa yakhe. Ngakho-ke, khetha abalingani bakho ngokuhlakanipha. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ngesikhathi sokwenza uthando, ungathatha amandla anobuthi, ukucindezeleka, noma ukwesaba. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi uma ungumuntu ocansini.

Kuyini ukuzwela ngocansi? Umuntu onamakhono okuzwelana ayakhula ngesikhathi sokuhlangana kwezocansi ukuze ezwe ukucindezeleka okwengeziwe noma injabulo. Imizwa yezocansi izwela kakhulu ngesikhathi sokwenza uthando (futhi udlala ngothando). Bangathatha amandla kazakwethu ngisho nangaphezu kweminye imishini. Ukuze yonke imizwa (ikakhulukazi uhlobo lwezocansi) izizwe ingcono kakhulu, kufanele babelane ngokusondelana ngokomzimba nomuntu ofanele ongaphindisela uthando nenhlonipho.

Ngeshwa, ezinye zeziguli zami ze-empath zenze amaphutha lapho sekunesikhathi eside zingenaye umlingani. Uma kuqhamuka umuntu ovusa ubulili babo, bakulangazelela kakhulu ukungena ebudlelwaneni, abazinaki izimpawu eziyisixwayiso ezinembile. Ngakho-ke bahlanganyela ebudlelwaneni bezocansi kusenesikhathi nomuntu ongafanele ukukhetha. Besaba ukuthi ngoba kuthathe isikhathi eside ukuthola umuntu othakazelisa kakhulu ukude, kungcono bazibandakanye naphezu kwamafulegi abomvu.

Sivula ukulimala ngokunamathela ngokweqile kubantu abangatholakali abangakwazi ukusithanda futhi. Omunye umbusi wangitshela, “Angikaze ngibe sebudlelwaneni obunzima eminyakeni emihlanu, kodwa lapho sengithandane nabesilisa ebengishesha futhi ngibathukuthelela kakhulu othandweni, ngaphenduka ngaba ngumuntu othanda uthando. Angizilalelanga izimpawu ezixwayisayo futhi ngaphoxeka. Kodwa manje, ngihamba kancane ukuqinisekisa ukuthi umuntu uyatholakala. ”

Isixazululo esisodwa sokuvele ulinde umlingani ukuthi abonakale ukuya kumhlangano we-tantra noma ukuba nezikhathi ezizimele nothisha we-tantric. I-Tantra ngumkhuba wasendulo ohlanganisa ubulili nengokomoya ngokusebenzisa izivivinyo ezigxile emzimbeni. Ezimweni ezizimele noma zeqembu, uzofundiswa ukungena emzimbeni wakho, uthinte ubulili bakho kanye nengokomoya lakho, futhi usebenze ngezinhlekelele ezindala, amaphethini obudlelwano obonakalisayo, noma ukuba ndikindiki okukuvimba ekuzweni. Lezi zikhathi zandisa ubulili bakho futhi zigcine zigeleza ukukhulisa amandla akho okuheha kunokuvumela la mandla ukuthi aqhubeke ngesikhathi sokulinda. Abanye kungenzeka bangazizwa ukuthi u-sexy kangakanani uma lokho kwenzeka.

Eminyakeni embalwa edlule, ngahlangabezana nezikhathi ezithile ezibalulekile ngemuva kokuhlangana nomuntu ongafanele ngokushesha okukhulu. Bengifuna ukubhekana nanoma yimaphi amabhulokhi anikele kuphethini yami yokukhetha amadoda angatholakali noma ukuba nesikhathi eside sokuba wedwa. Kepha bengikhathele ukukhuluma ngalokhu nodokotela wami wezengqondo. Ngakho-ke, lezi zikhathi ezingeziwe zingisizile ngavula futhi ngakhanga uzakwethu ohambisanayo.

Lapho usuthole umlingani ofanelana kahle nawe, isisekelo sokusondelana ukuhlanganisa inhliziyo yakho nobulili bakho. Impaths iyachuma ngale ndlela. Lapho ucansi, umoya, nenhliziyo kuhlangene ekwenziweni kothando, kuyancomeka kakhulu ohlelweni lwethu.

Ingxenye yokugcina ubulili obugxile enhliziyweni ukufunda ukubeka imingcele nomlingani wakho uma okuthile ngokuhlangana kwakho kuzwakala kungasebenzi. Isibonelo, uma umlingani wakho ebenosuku olukhungathekisayo futhi ethukuthele, kungahle kungabi isikhathi esihle sokuya ocansini ngoba amandla angaluthola lolu laka. Iba nengxoxo engagunci ngalokhu. Othandekayo wakho udinga ukuqonda ukuthi kungani ukhetha ukungasondeli lapho ethukuthele noma ecindezeleke ngokweqile.

Fundisa oshade naye mayelana nokuzwela kwakho. Ngaphandle kokuthi usebudlelwaneni ne-empath, kuzodingeka uchaze ngothando ukusabela kwakho ukuze umlingani wakho ahlangabezane nezidingo zakho. I-empath universal ihlukile kune-non-empath eyodwa. Ububele bakho nokubekezela kwakho kuzokwenza umehluko omkhulu ekusondeleni kwakho.