Izimpawu Zobuntu Zingashintsha Kanjani Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi

Kungenzeka wake wezwa isisho esithi, “Abantu abashintshi.” Empeleni, kwesinye isikhathi siyakwenza, ngokwesayensi yezengqondo.

Njengoba umcwaningi wobuntu uChristopher Soto echaza, “Siyazi ukuthi ukushintsha kobuntu kungenzeka, ukuthi kuvame ukwenzeka kancane kancane, nokuthi kuvamise ukuba ngcono. Kepha asiziqondi kahle izimbangela zokushintsha kobuntu okwamanje. "

Siba ngcono ngokwengeziwe. Manje ukuhlaziywa okusha kwedatha okuvela kubantu abangama-60,000 e-United States, eNetherlands, eSweden, eScotland naseJalimane kusekela imibiko yaphambilini yokuthi iningi lethu liba ne-neurotic encane ngemuva kweminyaka yobudala engama-60, likhule lihle kakhulu size sifike ebudaleni.

Ukuhlaziywa kuhlanganisa imininingwane kusuka ezifundweni eziyi-16 futhi kwafuna izixhumanisi phakathi kokushintsha kobuntu nobudala nobulili. Yize lezi zifundo zinokungafani, bekukhona amaphethini asobala kuzo zonke.

Abahlanganyeli bebephendule yonke imibuzo eklanyelwe ukukala ukuthi imuphi umbono we-psychology obiza ngezimpawu zeBig Five. Okusemqoka ukuthi amavolontiya aphendule imibuzo okungenani kathathu, aveze izinguquko ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

Yiziphi izici zeBig Five? Emcabangweni weBig Five wobuntu, ngamunye wethu uyinhlanganisela yokweqisa, ukuvumelana, ukuvuleleka, ukuqaphela, kanye ne-neuroticism. Isici ngasinye sicatshangwa njengesikali, ngakho-ke ungavuma kakhulu, isibonelo.

• Umuntu okhuthele uyathandana futhi uthanda ubumnandi; umuntu ongaphakeme ngokwengeziwe uyabekelwa futhi athule.
• Umuntu ovumayo ufudumele, uyathemba futhi uyasiza; umuntu ongathandeki kangako uyasola futhi akabambisani.
• Umuntu ovulelekile uyacabanga, unelukuluku, nobuciko, udonseleka ezinhlobonhlobo futhi uyakwazi ukwamukela umehluko; umuntu ongavulekile kangako ukhetha okujwayelekile futhi agxile ezintweni ezisebenzisekayo kunobuciko noma okokukhishwa.
• Umuntu ononembeza uyalwa, uyaqaphela futhi unesibopho; umuntu ononembeza omncane akahlelekile futhi unamawala noma uyaphazamiseka.
• Umuntu one-neurotic ukhathazekile futhi akanathemba noma uhlangabezana nokushintshwa okukhulu; umuntu ongenayo i-neurotic uzolile, uyaqina futhi uzinzile.

Ucwaningo lwangaphambilini lukhombisile ukwanda kwe-extraversion kanye nokuzimisela kusuka ku-21 kuye ku-60, njengoba sikhula saba izindima zethu, ukwakha imisebenzi kanye nemindeni noma ezinye izibopho. Ohlaziyweni olusha, kuzo zonke izifundo, ukucindezela nokuzikhandla kwehle sekwedlule iminyaka engama-60 — lapho ungakhululeka ngokwengeziwe ukulandela imicabango yakho futhi unethezeke wedwa.

Ukuvuleka bekuzinzile ngokukhula okuphakathi, kepha kwehle eminyakeni yethu yokugcina.

I-Neuroticism -ukukhathazeka nokungabi nathemba-kwehle ebudaleni obukhulu, ikakhulukazi kwabesifazane, ngaphambi kokuvuka futhi lapho siguga futhi abantu ababazungezile bangaqala ukufa.

Kungani sithi, “abantu abaguquki”? Umyalezo wangempela we-adage: ungalindeli ukuthi abantu bazoshintsha ngendlela ofuna bashintshe ngayo. Uma zishintsha, kuzohamba kancane futhi kuhamba kancane.

Olunye ucwaningo luphakamisa ukuthi yize ubuntu bakho bungashintsha, emashumini eminyaka kungenzeka uqhathanise ngokufanayo nabanye abantu abalingana nawe. Ngakho-ke yize ungekho isiyalo esingaphansi kunangaphambili, ungahle ube nesiyalo ngaphezu kontanga yakho abaningi.

Noma kunjalo, lokhu akulona iqiniso kithina sonke. Ekuhlaziyweni kwakamuva, abacwaningi babhala, "abantu bashintsha ngokwehlukile ezicini ezahlukahlukene, ubuntu abuzinzile kuwo wonke umuntu esikhathini sonke sempilo (kepha ngokwabantu abathile), futhi ukubala noma ukuchaza lezi zinguquko kunzima."

Ingabe impilo ingakuguqula? Kunobufakazi bokuthi inhlekelele ingashintsha ubuntu, yenze umuntu okhubazekile nongenayo i-neurotic ahoxiswe futhi akhathazeke. Izifo ezibucayi njengokuwohloka komqondo, ukulutheka, noma ukugula kwengqondo kungashintsha ubuntu nokuziphatha. Isibonelo, ukuba umlutha wotshwala ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kudala ukucindezeleka futhi kungaholela ekuziphatheni okuhlukumezayo.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuzizwa ujabule ngempilo yakho kungaqinisa izici ezithile zobuntu.Lapho impilo ihamba kahle, ungavumelana ngokwengeziwe, unembeza, uzinze ngokomzwelo futhi — mhlawumbe ngokumangazayo, ungenise. Ungazimela kakhulu futhi ukhulume kancane uma unelisekile.

Uhlobo lwale ndaba lubonakala nakuKunakekela Kwakho Yonke Indawo.