Indlela Ukukhuluma Ngocansi Kungakuvimbela Ngayo Ukuhlukunyezwa Ngokocansi

Ukukhuluma nezingane ngezocansi kungaba yingxoxo enzima kubazali. Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi iningi labazali liyakwenza: Ucwaningo olwenziwe yiPlanned Parenthood neCentre for Latino ne-Adolescent Family Health luthole ukuthi amaphesenti angama-82 abazali bakhuluma nezingane zabo ngezocansi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lezi zingxoxo ziqala phambilini, nengxenye yabazali ibika ukuthi bakhulume nezingane zabo ngaphambi kweminyaka yobudala eyi-10 neyi-80 bekhuluma nezingane zabo ngezocansi ngaphambi kweminyaka engu-13.

Kodwa-ke, abazali abaningi basacabanga ukuthi “inkulumo yocansi” njengengxoxo eyodwa eyodwa esuselwa kumakhenikha ocansi. Ochwepheshe bezemfundo yezocansi bathi izingxoxo zocansi kufanele zibe izingxoxo eziqhubekayo zigxile kakhulu ezingxoxweni zokuziphatha kahle kwezocansi. Lokhu kubalulekile ekuvikeleni udlame lwezocansi njengoba kulinganiselwa ukuthi cishe oyedwa kwabathathu abasha uzoba yisisulu sokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba, ngokocansi, ngokomzwelo noma ngamazwi avela kumlingani othandana naye ngesikhathi sobusha. Olunye ucwaningo olukhulu lwentsha eneminyaka ephakathi kwengu-12 nengu-18 lwathola ukuthi amaphesenti ayi-18 abika ukuthi ahlukunyezwa ngokocansi ebudlelwaneni bawo. Udlame ebudlelwaneni luvame ukuqala phakathi kweminyaka eyi-12 kanye ne-18, ngakho-ke lokho kusho ukuthi lena yiminyaka esemqoka yokuthola ukuthi yini eyamukelekayo nengamukeleki ekuziphatheni ebudlelwaneni obunempilo. Ucwaningo luphakamisa ukuthi intsha ekwazi ukukhuluma nabazali bayo ngocansi kungenzeka ukuthi ibambezeleke ukuya ocansini futhi ihlanganyele emikhubeni yocansi ephephile lapho igcina ilwenzile ucansi. Ngenkathi abanye abazali bekhathazeka ukuthi ukukhuluma ngocansi kuzokwandisa amathuba okuthi ingane yabo iye ocansini, izifundo zithole okuphambene nalokho. Ucwaningo lwentsha lwathola ukuthi intsha ivame ukuhlanganyela ezindinganisweni zabazali bayo ngokuziphatha kwezocansi nokuthi isinqumo sokuphuza ukuya ocansini kungaba lula uma bekwazi ukukhuluma ngokukhululekile nabazali ngaso.

Ngezansi kuneziqondiso ezithile okufanele abazali bazilandele lapho bekhuluma nezingane zabo ngokuziphatha okunempilo kwezocansi nokugcina imigqa yokuxhumana ivulekile:

1. Akufanele kube "nokukhuluma ngocansi" okukodwa nje. Inkulumo yezocansi kufanele iqale emazingeni afanele iminyaka yobudala (okusho ukufaka amalebuli ezingxenyeni zomzimba ezinamagama afanele ngokwendlela yokwakheka komzimba) ngokushesha nje lapho izingane zakho sezikhulile ngokwanele ukuba ziqonde futhi ziqhubekele ebusheni nasebudaleni njalo Inhloso yalezi zingxoxo ukugcina iziteshi zokuxhumana zivulekile ukuze izingane nentsha zizizwe zikhululekile ukuza zizokhuluma nabazali ngezinkinga eziphathelene nobudlelwano nezocansi.
2. Izingxoxo ngezocansi azidingi ukuba zibe semthethweni. Lapho izingane zisencane, mane uphendule imibuzo yazo emazingeni afanele ubudala ngokweqiniso nangokuthembeka. I-CDC incoma ukuthi izingxoxo ezingahlelekile nentsha zingasebenza kangcono uma ithuba livela. Isibonelo, akhombisa ukuthi izingxoxo ubuso nobuso zingaba nzima phakathi neminyaka yobusha, futhi izimo ezinjengokushayela emotweni zingaba izikhathi ezinhle zokuletha lezi zihloko zengxoxo.
3. Izingxoxo zokuya ocansini okunempilo zihambisana nezingxoxo zokuvikela udlame locansi. Noma ngabe abazali bafuna ukuvimbela ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi, ukuze benze njalo, ingxoxo kufanele futhi ifake nengxoxo ngokuziphatha okunempilo kwezocansi. Ukuzethemba komzimba (ukungazizwa unamahloni ngezitho zakho zobulili kanye nobulili ngokujwayelekile) kuhlobene nokuziphatha kocansi okuyingozi kakhulu, nakho okunciphisa ingozi
4. Izinhlelo ezingaphezu kwezingu-75% zesikhathi sokuqala ziqukethe uhlobo oluthile lwezocansi, futhi okuqukethwe kocansi kwi-intanethi kugcwele. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi abazali bazi lapho izingane zabo zifunda khona ngocansi nokuthi yini ngempela ezifunda ngayo. Abazali bafuna ukwenza isiqiniseko sokuthi imininingwane etholwa yizingane zabo inembile ngokweqiniso nangokwezokwelapha nokuthi imibono ezwakalayo ifanekisela izindinganiso zomndeni.
5. Abazali kufanele bakhululeke futhi bavuleke lapho bexoxa ngezocansi nezingane zabo. Uma izingane zibona ukuthi abazali bakhululekile ngokukhuluma ngalesi sihloko-ke kungenzeka ukuthi bazofuna ukuholwa ngabazali ngokuzayo.
6. Gwema ukusabela ngokweqile. Kujwayelekile ukuthi abazali bathukuthele uma bezwa imininingwane abangayithandi noma ebethusayo / ebenza bazizwe bengakhululekile. Khumbula ukuthi ukusabela okungekuhle kwabazali kuthumela umyalezo ezinganeni ukuthi benze okubi noma okungalungile. Lokhu kungabenza bazizwe benamahloni ngaleyo ndlela kunciphise amathuba okufinyelela kubazali ngokuzayo.

Ukuxhumana phakathi komzali nengane kuyinto ebalulekile ekuvimbeleni udlame locansi. Yize izikole eziningi zenza uhlobo oluthile lwemfundo, lokhu kwenzeka kaningi futhi kungahle kungabandakanyi zonke izici zokuziphatha kahle kwezocansi nokuvikela udlame locansi. Ngakho-ke, kubazali ukuqinisekisa ukuthi izingane zinolwazi oludingayo ukuzigcina ziphephile. Abazali kudingeka bakhulume nezingane njalo ngokuziphatha okunempilo kwezocansi. Lezi zingxoxo zizoshintsha zibe sesimweni futhi zisebenze njengoba izingane zikhula, kepha ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi ukuba nalezi zingxoxo njalo nezingane kungasiza ekuzivikeleni odlameni locansi.