Ungayisiza Kanjani Intsha Enesifo Sokucindezeleka: Izeluleko ezi-5 Ezisebenzayo

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• Izeluleko eziningi kanye nemihlahlandlela yokweseka osemusha onokudangala.
• Amathiphu wokuthi ungayisiza kanjani ingane enengcindezi
• 1. Qaphela inkinga
• 2. Funa usizo lochwepheshe
• 3. Ukwesekwa okungenamibandela
• 4. Lungisa izimbangela
• 5. Ukusekelwa okuvela kumbuthano wakho

Izeluleko eziningi kanye nemihlahlandlela yokweseka osemusha onokudangala.

Ubusha yisikhathi esineziyaluyalu lapho uchungechunge lokuphazamiseka kwengqondo kungavela khona, njengokucindezeleka.

Kulesi simo, abazali bahlupheka ngokungakwazi ukusiza izingane zabo ngendlela abangathanda ngayo. Ukuze wenze lokhu, lapha sizobona uchungechunge lwamathiphu wokuthi ungayisiza kanjani ingane enesifo sokudangala lokho kuzosiza imindeni ukubhekana nalesi simo sengqondo.

Amathiphu wokuthi ungayisiza kanjani ingane enengcindezi

Abazali abaningi bayazibuza ukuthi bangayisiza kanjani ingane enengcindezi kepha, ukwenza lokhu, into yokuqala okumele siyenze ukucubungula kuyo kanye le ncazelo yale nkinga kanye nemithelela yayo.

Ukudangala kungukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okubonakala ngakho isimo esidabukisayo nokunganaki, futhi lokho kungavela emcimbini othile noma ochungechungeni lokuhlangenwe nakho kanye nezici zomuntu odale ukucindezelwa.

Lapho nje sesazi isimo esibhekene naso, singasebenzisa zonke izeluleko eziqoqwe lapha ukuze sikwazi ukubhekana nenkinga ngendlela ephumelelayo, sinikeze ingane yethu zonke izinsiza eziyidingayo ukunqoba isimo lapho, ngeshwa , icwile. Abanye abantu bazothola usizo kakhulu kwezinye izeluleko ezithile kanti abanye bazokwenza okunye, ngoba icala ngalinye ngelomuntu futhi lihlukile.

Okubalulekile ukuthi ube nohla lwezinye izindlela zokuthola izindlela ezintsha zosizo noma okunye okuhambisanayo nalezo ebesivele sizisebenzisa, ukuze umuntu ngamunye akwazi ukukhetha eyodwa, eziningana noma zonke, kuye ngezidingo zabo. Ngakho-ke, ake siqale ukuthuthukisa iseluleko ngasinye kulolu hlu ukuze sazi ukuthi singasiza kanjani osemusha ocindezelekile.

1. Qaphela inkinga

Kusobala ukuthi bonke abantu banezinsuku ezingcono nezinsuku ezimbi ngokwenhliziyo yabo, futhi bangaba nemichilo emide noma engaphansi lapho ukudabuka, injabulo noma eminye imizwa kudlangile. Lokhu kugcizelelwa kakhulu entsheni, okuthi ngenxa yazo zonke izinguquko ezenzekayo ezingeni lomzimba nezingokwengqondo bathambekele kakhulu ekubhekaneni nalezi zinguquko zemizwa, ngezinye izikhathi kungazelelwe futhi kuqhume kakhulu.

Ngakho-ke, njengabazali, singasetshenziselwa ukubona izimo ezifanayo nengane yethu eyeve eshumini nambili futhi sengozini yokuthi isimo sizoba sibi kakhulu futhi ngeke sazi ukuthi singasinikeza kanjani ukubaluleka okuyifanele. Lokhu kungenzeka, kwasekuqaleni, ngoba asikwazi ukubona ukuthi okwenzeka enganeni yethu akuyona nje into elula yosizi. Kepha kungenzeka okuthile okubucayi kakhulu, futhi lokho ukuthi siyasibona isimo kodwa singasiniki ukubaluleka kwaso, sicabanga ukuthi sizodlula.

Futhi, enye yezinkinga ezibandakanya ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo yilokho izikhathi eziningi bawela ephutheni lokucabanga ukuthi bazozixazulula ngokwabo. Futhi, yize kwesinye isikhathi bekwazi ukuthethelela ngenxa yokuqina komuntu, into enengqondo ukuthi baphathwa njengoba bezophathwa ngenkinga yemvelo, njengokuphanjaniswa, ithambo eliphukile, inkinga yokugaya ukudla noma kwanoma yimuphi omunye uhlobo. Ngakho-ke ukubaluleka kwaleseluleko esilandelayo sokuthi ungayisiza kanjani ingane enengcindezi.

2. Funa usizo lochwepheshe

Njengoba besilindele, esinye isihluthulelo sokukwazi ukubhekana nesimo esibucayi njengaleso sesimo sokucindezeleka endodaneni yethu eyeve eshumini nambili, ukuhlola isimo saso njengoba kudingeka, futhi kulokhu inketho enengqondo kunazo zonke ukuphendukela kochwepheshe, uchwepheshe onolwazi ngale nkinga, njengo-psychologist noma udokotela wezifo zengqondo

Ngenxa yolwazi lwabo, bona uzokwazi ukuhlola ukuthi ngabe isimo ingane yakho ebhekene naso siyahambisana yini nesokucindezeleka ngakho-ke uzokwazi ukuphakamisa ukwelashwa okufanele.

Kuyiqiniso ukuthi, ngenxa yezimo ezahlukahlukene, abanye abantu abaluceli usizo lwengqondo ngenkathi behlushwa ukucindezeleka, mhlawumbe ngenxa yokuthi abazi ngemisebenzi yalesi sibalo, noma ngenxa yenhlamba yomphakathi esesikhona nanamuhla maqondana nempilo yengqondo, noma ngoba bakhetha ukuhlola ezinye izindlela, ngoba abanazo izindlela zokuthola usizo olunjalo, njll. Isimo ngasinye singesomuntu siqu futhi izinqumo zesimo ngasinye azikwazi ukwahlulelwa kancane.

Okuqinisekile ngukuthi kokunye ukucindezelwa kunganqotshwa ngaphandle kosizo lukadokotela wengqondo, kepha ngosizo lwabo sizokwenza ukuthi le nqubo inciphe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukuthi umuntu athole amathuluzi okuthuthuka esimweni sakhe ngokushesha kungenzeka. futhi uthuthuke, nokuthi umthelela empilweni yakho ubuncane kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, elinye lamathiphu amahle kakhulu wokuthi ungayisiza kanjani ingane enesifo sokudangala ukuthola uchwepheshe ozokunikeza imihlahlandlela edingekayo yokunqoba le nkinga ngokushesha okukhulu.

3. Ukwesekwa okungenamibandela

Ukwesekwa okungenamibandela kuyinto okufanele abazali banikeze izingane zabo kunoma isiphi isimo, kepha konke ikakhulu uma kukhulunywa ngodaba olubucayi njenge-psychopathology, nokucindezeleka.

Umuntu osesimweni sokucindezeleka unjenge-castaway ezintantayo olwandle. Ungaba nenhlanhla bese uthola ibhodi ozobambelela kulo futhi ufike maduzane, kepha ngokuqinisekile kuzoba lula uma unomuntu ozolula isandla akusindise.

Ukusekelwa kuhlale kubalulekile, kepha kubaluleke kakhulu uma kuvela ezinombolweni, okwenziwe ngokwezifiso kukababa, umama noma umnakekeli osemthethweni. Ngenxa yezici zokucindezeleka, osemusha angase anqikaze ukuthola usizo, bakhetha ukuba bodwa noma baze bathukuthele lapho bezama ukukhathazeka ngabo futhi bazi ukuthi yini abayidingayo, kepha kubalulekile ukuthi ukwesekwa kungapheli, yize impendulo kungeyona ebesingayithanda ekuqaleni.

Ngakho-ke, uma sicabanga ukuthi singayisiza kanjani ingane enesifo sokudangala, kunjalo kubalulekile ukugcina isandla eseluliwe ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi sinikeze ingane yethu yonke imithombo engayidinga, kancane kancane, ibuyele esimweni sayo sokugula ize ekugcineni inqobe ukucindezeleka. Indima yokwesekwa kwabazali ibalulekile kulo msebenzi futhi kumele sikuqaphele lokhu ukuze sisizakale ngale nsiza ebalulekile.

4. Lungisa izimbangela

Iphuzu elilandelayo lingabhekisa ekulungisweni kwalezo zimo ezizodala inkinga. Lesi seluleko sendlela yokusiza osemusha onokudangala ingagcwaliseka kwezinye izimo, kepha hhayi konke, njengoba sesibonile vele ukuthi lesi sifo asihlali sinemvelaphi ethile, noma okungenani asibonakali ngendlela esingacabanga ngayo. Ngalesi sizathu, kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi sivumelane nalokho esikwaziyo kanye nemihlahlandlela osinikezwa ngudokotela oqeqeshiwe maqondana nalokhu.

Kodwa-ke, uma kubonakala ukuthi kunesimo esiphazamisa imizwa yengane yethu ize ifike ezingeni lokudala ukucindezeleka, kufanele sisenze. I-casuistry ingahluka kakhulu, futhi ingabandakanya kusuka ezinkingeni zontanga yakho, izimo ezingafuneki esikoleni (njengokuhlukunyezwa, noma ubunzima ezifundweni), i-duel ngaphambi kwesahlukaniso sabazali bakho, ukufa kwesihlobo esiseduze, noma ezinye izimo eziningi.

Ngokusobala, eminye imicimbi izokwazi ukuthi ilungiswe kuneminye, kepha okubalulekile yilokho esikwenzayo ngayo, okwenza isimo sibe nomthelela omncane kakhulu enganeni yethu futhi, ngaphezu kwakho konke, mnike amathuluzi ukuze akwazi ukuveza indlela azizwa ngayo kulokhu, ziyini izidingo zakho futhi, njengoba sibonile ephuzwini elidlule, sikuphelezela kuyo yonke leyo ndlela, uze ukwazi ukuyinqoba, sibonga lonke usizo olutholile futhi ikakhulukazi emsebenzini wakho kulokhu.

5. Ukusekelwa okuvela kumbuthano wakho

Yize usizo lwabazali lubalulekile, intsha iyavama bakuthola kulula ukulalela abangane babo.

Ngakho-ke, kufanele sisebenzise leli thuluzi futhi sicele labo bantu abakha iqembu labangane abaseduze kakhulu labantwana bethu ukuthi basebenzisane nabo, ngoba bangaba namandla amaningi okuthi "bahambise umyalezo" futhi basondele kuye, futhi lokho kungukuthi intsha ivame ukuthambekela ukugcina ibanga lokuxhumana nabazali babo.

Ngale ndlela sizofeza izinto ezimbili, okokuqala, indodana yethu izoba nabantu abaningi abazoyisekela, okuyilokho ekudingayo esimweni sayo, futhi okwesibili, sizoba nabalingani abanamandla bokusebenza kangcono njengesixhumanisi sokuxhumana phakathi kwakhe nathi, indlela eya emaceleni womabili, ngakho-ke akusona iseluleko esingenakucatshangelwa ukuthi ungayisiza kanjani ingane enengcindezi.