Ingabe Ukubuka Izithombe Ezingcolile Kukufanele?

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• Amaphuzu abalulekile
• Amasiko, Ukuziphatha, ne-Porn
• Ubudala, Ukuzibandakanya kwezocansi, kanye nobulili
• I-Porn Nomshado
• Impilo Yengqondo Ne-Porn
• Ucansi Lubalulekile Ukufundwa
• Ukuzisola Ngokobulili Akukushintshi Ukuziphatha Ngokobulili Kwesikhathi Esizayo

Amaphuzu abalulekile

• Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi ukubukela i-porn kungenzeka kungabi nabungozi kubantu be-LGBTQ, imibhangqwana engashadile, nabesifazane kunabanye.
• Sebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ukukhokhela izidingo zezocansi ezingakahlangani ebudlelwaneni, noma kunjalo, kungaholela ezinkingeni zabantu banoma yibuphi ubulili.
• Abantu kanye nemibhangqwana ekholwa kakhulu noma ngokuziphatha okuphikisana nezocansi kungenzeka babhekane nengxabano uma bebuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile.
• Intsha ebuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ingafunda izifundo ezingenampilo, ezingenangqondo, uma bengazange babe nemfundo eyanele yezocansi.

Abantu bakhathazeka ngokuthi ukubukela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kungabalimaza yini, imishado yabo, noma kuthinte kabi ubulili babo. Iqiniso eliyinkimbinkimbi ukuthi kubantu abaningi, ukubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile akunamthelela omubi. Kepha kwezinye izinombolo ezincane, ukubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kungadala izingxabano ezinkulu nezimpi zomuntu siqu.

Ngokudabukisayo, izincwadi eziningi ezithinta izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zenze umsebenzi omubi wokuvala lokhu kwehlukana, okwenza kube nzima kubantu ukuthi baqonde ukuthi bangacabanga kanjani ngalokho okushiwo ucwaningo lwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ngqo kubo. I-Porn ingahle ingalungeli wonke umuntu, futhi manje kudingeka siqale ukusiza abantu ukuthi babikezele kangcono ukuthi ukubukela i-porn kungabathinta kanjani.

Kunamagagasi amakhulu ocwaningo olusha emiphumeleni yezithombe zobulili ezingcolile, ehlola imiphumela eyinkimbinkimbi, enenkinga, kanye neyokusebenzisana. Ngenxa yalokho, manje sekufanele sisuke emikhawulweni yengubo enjengokuthi “izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ziyalutha,” “izithombe zobulili ezingcolile azinabungozi!” noma “izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zonakalisa uthando!” Esikhundleni salokho, sidinga ukusiza abantu basebenzise lolu cwaningo ukuphendula lo mbuzo: "Ingabe ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile kuzoba yingozi KIMI?" Le miphumela ehlukene iphuma ibe yizindawo ezimbalwa ezijwayelekile, kuzo zonke izingqinamba zamasiko, ubudala nobulili, ubudlelwano, nezinkinga zempilo yengqondo esezikhona.

Amasiko, Ukuziphatha, ne-Porn

Enye yamaphethini acacile okuzovela kokutholakele ocwaningweni lwakamuva kungukungqubuzana okukhulu phakathi kokusetshenziswa kocansi nezindinganiso zokuziphatha nezenkolo. Lapho abantu abacabanga ukuthi i-porn ayiziphethe kahle, iyimbi, noma iyisono bakhetha ukubuka i-porn noma kunjalo, bayiqembu okungenzeka ukuthi balwe. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi lezi zimiso zokuziphatha zibandakanya okungaphezulu nje kwenkolo. Isibonelo, uma ukhuliswe ukholelwa ukuthi "amadoda angempela" awashayi indlwabu, bese wenza kanjalo ngenkathi ubuka izithombe ezingcolile, kungenzeka uzizwe unamahloni futhi unecala, noma ngabe awuyona inkolo.

• Ukuziphatha: Uma umuntu ecabanga ukuthi ukubukela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile “kubi,” “akulungile,” “kubuthakathaka,” “konakele,” “kuphendukezelwe,” ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile kungazwakala kumnandi ngaleso sikhathi, bese kuba buhlungu kamuva. Ukwenza kanjalo cishe kuzobenza bazizwe benecala futhi benamahloni. Bangase kamuva banqume ukuthi abasavumelani nokwahlulela kokuziphatha kocansi. Kepha okwamanje, ukwenza into abacabanga ukuthi ayinasimilo kungenzeka kungabi yimpilo.
• Inkolo: Uma umuntu, noma oshade naye, ekholwa kakhulu, ukusetshenziswa kwezithombe zocansi kungadala izingxabano zokuziphatha nezingokomzwelo kubo, noma ebudlelwaneni babo, ikakhulu ngenxa yesinqumo senkolo sanamuhla salabo ababuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile. Lo mphumela ungashintsha uma umuntu noma umbhangqwana ushintsha imibono yabo ngenkolo kanye nezocansi.
• Ihlazo: Lapho abantu benezifiso zobulili eziyimfihlo (njengekink, ubulili beqembu, noma ukuhlangana kwabantu bobulili obufanayo) bazitika kuphela ngenkathi bebuka i-porn, bavame ukuba namahloni nokuzizwa benecala ngalezo zici zobulili babo. Ukwelashwa okuhle ngomtholampilo onolwazi kungasiza ukukhipha imvelaphi yalelo hlazo.

Ubudala, Ukuzibandakanya kwezocansi, kanye nobulili

• Intsha: Abantu abasha abangakaze bathole imfundo eyanele kwezocansi okunempilo bathola imibono engeyona eyeqiniso mayelana nocansi ocansini. Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ziyiphupho — asifundeli ukushayela sibukele I-Uyashesha futhi uthukuthele, futhi ungafundi ukwenza uthando ngokubuka i-PornHub. Njengoba kunikezwe ukuthi intsha namuhla inezinto zokuya ocansini ezazingatholakali kwentsha esikhathini esedlule, amasu ethu okufundisa ngezocansi adinga ukuguquka — futhi ngokudabukisayo, awanakho. Kunesinyathelo esisodwa esihle kuleso siqondiso: ikharikhulamu yokufunda ngezocansi kwabasha. ifundisa ukuthi i-porn ukuzijabulisa kwabantu abadala. Okwabadala.
• Owesifazane: Kunobufakazi obuncane kakhulu bemiphumela emibi kubantu besifazane ababuka i-porn, NGAPHANDLE kokuba basemshadweni ongalingani ocansini lapho izidingo zabo zocansi zingafinyelelwanga. Uma kunjalo, ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile amandla ukwandisa ukunganeliseki ngobuhlobo babo. Kwabesifazane abathile, ukubukela abanye besifazane benza ucansi olumnandi kungakhuphula izinga abanquma ngalo ukushiya imishado yabo futhi bafune okubalulekile kubo. Abanye besifazane babika ukuthi bazizwa benecala futhi bekhathazekile ngokubuka izithombe ezingcolile ngoba bakhathazeka ngokuthi abadlali besifazane bayaxhashazwa noma abazijabulisi. Ababukeli abakhathazekile ngokuxhashazwa kwabadlali bavame ukujabula ukuthola izinto ezikhiqizwe ngokuziphatha, njenge-Afterglow, noma i-Erika Lust, ukubala nje ezimbili.
• I-LGBTQ: Abantu abangabobulili obuhlukile babuka izithombe zocansi eziningi kunabobulili obuhlukile, futhi imvamisa bathola imiphumela emibi embalwa.Kodwa-ke, abantu abahlala emiphakathini yenkolo noma egcina inkolo ebuza ubulili babo bangathola ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ziyisilingo sokuthola uhlobo oluthile lobulili abalwa nalo. Lapho bemukela ubunikazi babo bobulili, lo mzabalazo wezithombe zobulili ezingcolile uvame ukuphela. Kukhona ucwaningo oluthile oluhlola ukuthi ngabe izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ziyakhula noma ziyayinciphisa ingozi yokuzibandakanya ocansini olungaphephile kwabesilisa abayizitabane. Imiphumela ixubekile. Impendulo enhle kakhulu ukugxila ekunciphiseni ukulimala kanye nokungenelela okufana ne-PrEP, ukunciphisa ubungozi be-HIV ocansini olungaphephile, njengoba kungekho bufakazi bokuthi ukushintsha ukusetshenziswa kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile kwabantu kuguqula imikhuba yabo yezocansi.

I-Porn Nomshado

Umthelela wezocansi emishadweni nasebudlelwaneni imvamisa uhle kakhulu kunalokho abantu abaningi abebecabanga.

Imibhangqwana ebuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ndawonye ayizilimazi kangako. Eqinisweni, njengomuntu ofanayo PT I-blogger uStefani Goerlich uveza, ukubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ndawonye kungenza ukuxhumana ngezocansi ngokuthandwa nokungathandwa.

Ezinye izinto ezingathinta ukuthi umbhangqwana wenza noma awuzuzi ngokubuka izithombe ezingcolile zingabandakanya:

• Imfihlo: Abantu ababuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ngasese kwabalingani babo noma abalingani babo kungenzeka babhekane namahloni, noma izingxabano zocansi nomlingani wabo. Ngiphakamisa ukuthi ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile kungaba yindlela yokungathembeki, uma uyigcina iyimfihlo kumlingani wakho. Ingxenye ebalulekile ukukhomba ukuthi kungani kuyimfihlo.
• I-libido engafani: Amadoda amaningi asebenzisa indlwabu ezithombeni zobulili ezingcolile njengendlela yokukhokhela ukwehla kobulili emshadweni wabo lapho umlingani wakhe efuna ucansi oluncane. Lapho lokhu kushukumiseka kungakhulunywa ngokusobala ebudlelwaneni, kungahle kube yingxabano ekhulayo.
• Okungaqondakali: Uma usebudlelwaneni obungavumelani nobunye, akunakwenzeka ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kocansi kuzoba nomthelela omubi kuwe noma ebuhlotsheni bakho. Kungani? Ngoba abantu abangakhethi mqondo bavame ukuba namakhono kakhulu futhi bavuleke mayelana nokuxoxa ngezidingo zabo zezocansi kanye nezintshisekelo nabalingani babo (abantu) ngendlela engenamahloni nokwamukela. Banamathuba amaningi okubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile nabalingani babo (abalingani) futhi mancane kakhulu amathuba okuthi bazibandakanye ekusithekeni kwezocansi. Abantu abangathandani nabesilisa abangamadoda bavame ukuba namakhono amakhulu okuxhumana kanye nezimo zengqondo ezinhle maqondana nezocansi, futhi lawa makhono ayasiza ekuxoxeni ngendima yezithombe zobulili ezingcolile empilweni yabo nasebudlelwaneni babo.

Impilo Yengqondo Ne-Porn

Abantu abaningi basebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile njengecebo lokulwa nokubasiza ukubhekana nemizwa emibi. Ngokuvamile, lokhu kuhle, kepha uma ulwela ngempela ukulawula imizwa yakho, kungaba ngcono ukuchitha isikhathi ufunda amanye amakhono ukuphatha imizwa yakho.

• Ukukhathazeka: Abantu abanokukhathazeka okuphezulu abangakwazi ukuphumula kuphela lapho beshaya indlwabu futhi bebuka izithombe ezingcolile, bangaba nezinkinga lapho bezama ukuya ocansini nomlingani wakho. Lokhu kwenzeka lapho bengazange babhekane nokukhathazeka nokukhathazeka kwabo ngocansi. Lokhu kungenza ubulili obuhlukanisiwe busabise kakhulu.
• Ngaphandle kolawulo: Abantu abazizwa sengathi abakwazi ukulawula i-porn yabo bangaba nenkinga, kepha akunakwenzeka ukuthi i-porn iyinkinga yangempela. I- umuzwa ukungalawuleki kwehlukile kweqiniso ukuba kungalawuleki. Abantu abaningi abazizwa sengathi ukusetshenziswa kwabo kocansi akusalawuleki ababheki izithombe ezingcolile kakhulu kunabanye abantu — bazizwa kabi kakhulu ngazo, imvamisa ngoba besaba ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwabo kocansi akulungile futhi kuyihlazo, futhi bazama ukulawula imicabango yabo mayelana ucansi. Ngeshwa, imizamo yokulawula imicabango yabo yezocansi ingabenza babe babi ngokwengeziwe, ngendlela eyinkimbinkimbi.
• Imibuzo yeqiniso: Ucwaningo lwakamuva luthola ukuthi abantu baba nezinkinga eziningi lapho bebona izithombe zobulili ezingcolile njengesiboniso sangempela sezocansi, inkinga elapheka kalula ngemfundo ephumelelayo yezocansi.
• I-Misogyny: Kwabesilisa abanentukuthelo enkulu ngabesifazane, ukubukela i-porn enobudlova kwesinye isikhathi kuyindlela yokuzwa leyo ntukuthelo. Olunye ucwaningo luphakamisa ukuthi ukubukela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ezinobudlova kungakhuphula amathuba ala madoda enza ngokuhlukumeza abesifazane. Okunye okutholakele okusha kusikisela ukuthi leli phethini lingahle lingabi neqiniso ngaso sonke isikhathi (kwezinye izingane ezisencane, ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn kubonakale kunciphisa imizwa yabo yokuthukuthela kwabesifazane kanye nengozi yodlame), futhi le miphumela isebenza kumaphesenti amancane abantu abathukuthele, asebevele benodlame. Kodwa-ke, kulawa madoda, i-porn ingakhuphula ubungozi bezenzo zobudlova.

Ucansi Lubalulekile Ukufundwa

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