Ukubheka Imiphumela Yokupheleliswa

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• Amaphuzu abalulekile

Amaphuzu abalulekile

• Into esondele kakhulu ekupheleleni ikhona, kepha umuntu ongenaphutha akaze abe khona.
• Ukuphelela kungokwakhiwa kwengqondo okungenasisekelo empeleni.
• Labo abakhathazwe isidingo sokupheleliswa bavamise ukumunca imiyalezo yokuphila kwasekuqaleni ukuthi bebengayifanele ngokwanele.
• Ukuphelela kuyisifihla sokungavikeleki.

Isifiso sokuba izingibe eziphelele futhi sithwalise abantu abaningi futhi sibabophe ngokuxineka okungapheli, okudala ukudala umonakalo ezimpilweni zabo. Lokhu kuyinto ethakazelisa kakhulu, ngoba abantu abafanayo bakholelwa ukuthi ukufuna ukuphelela kuyinto efiselekayo. Njengezinkolelo eziningi zokusebenza kanye nokucabanga, lapho sibheka ngokujulile, kungabonakala njengokungacabangi.

Ukuphelela kuphakamisa isimo sokungabi nasici, ngaphandle kwamaphutha. Ukuba ngophelele kusho isimo lapho isenzo sakho noma ukusebenza kwakho kufinyelela ezingeni eliphakeme elingadlulwa. Ukufuna ukuphelela emsebenzini othile kungafinyeleleka, futhi ngokuqinisekile umfundi angalwela ukuthola ibanga elifanele, noma ungazama ukufeza ukwenziwa okuphelele kokuthile. Ungathemba ukuthi uzophonsa ama-300 noma ukhiqize umbiko omuhle emsebenzini. Ngokuqinisekile unethemba lokuthi udokotela wakho ohlinzayo wenza umsebenzi omuhle ekusebenzeni kwakho.

Kodwa-ke, umgomo wokuba ophelele empilweni indaba ehlukile ngokuphelele. Umshini noma umshini osebenza ngogesi ungasebenza kahle — okungenani isikhashana. Noma kunjalo, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi izoqala ukuguga futhi idinga ukulungiswa. Nokho, abantu babengadalelwanga ukuba baphelele. Leyo yingxenye yencazelo yokuba ngumuntu. Cabanga ngenkulumo ethi, "Ngingumuntu nje."

Ngokwesiko lethu, siqhubekela phambili sigxila kakhulu ekuzuzeni impumelelo, ukukhiqiza kanye nokufinyelela izinhloso. Sivame ukukala izimpilo zethu maqondana nempumelelo nokufeza bese silahlekelwa umbono wokuthi kungasho ukuthini ukuphila kahle. Lokhu kuthambekela kuphula noma yimuphi umqondo wencazelo noma ukulinganisela ezimpilweni zethu. Kubonakala sengathi siphelelwa amandla okumangala nokwesaba.

Ungacabanga nje ubheka uthingo oluhle kakhulu bese ukhononda ngokuthi ububanzi bombala owodwa babunciphile kunomunye? Ngeke nje kube yinto ehlekisayo leyo, futhi sizobe sonakalisa nobukhazikhazi besikhashana. Futhi nokho yilokho kanye esikwenzayo lapho sizihlulela ngokwethu ngokungapheleli kwethu.

Eqinisweni, imibono yokuphelela noma yokungaphelele imane yakha ingqondo futhi ayinasisekelo sangempela ngaphandle kokucatshangwa ngumcabango. Umbono wokupheleliswa ubusukhona kusukela eGrisi lasendulo, kepha esimweni sayo sesimanje, kungukwakhiwa kwemishini kaNewton. Akunandawo, noma kunjalo, ekubukeni kwezwe okubambe iqhaza.

Kuyindida ukuthi uma umuntu engake afinyelele esimweni esingenakulinganiswa sokupheleliswa, kungenzeka ukuthi bambalwa kakhulu abantu abangamubekezelela. Ukuze umuntu ophelele abe yisikhumbuzo njalo kubo bonke abanye ngamaphutha abo. Ukungasho ukuthi mhlawumbe ngeke kube mnandi kakhulu ukuba nabo. Ubani ngempela ongabekezelela, ingasaphathwa eyokujabulela, ukuhlala nomuntu owayephelele ngokungenabuntu?

Uma ngikhuluma ngodaba — inkinga yokufuna ukuphelela — abantu bavame ukuphikisana nokuthi bamane balwela ukwenza kahle futhi bangabuza ukuthi yini engalungile ngokuzama ukuthuthuka. Impendulo yami ithi, akunankinga nalokho, uma kwenziwa ngebhalansi.Kodwa ingabe kufanele uhlale ulwela ukuthuthuka? Uma kunjalo, ukhuphuka isitebhisi kuze kube nini nanini. Awusoze wafinyelela enhlosweni yakho, kuhlale kunama-rung amaningi. Ngakho-ke uzojabula nini?

Indida lapha ukuthi ukulwela ngokungapheli kusikisela ukuthi ungahle ungabi nokuthula, futhi lokho kuphazamisa inqubekela phambili yakho phambili. Ngamanye amagama, ibhalansi etholakala ekuphumuleni kokuthuthuka okungenakubaleka ivumela ukukhula okunembile. Lapho sithola ukuba khona okwamanje, ukuziphendukela kwemvelo kwethu kungaqhubekela phambili. Kodwa-ke, uma sizama ngokungapheli ukuqhubekela phambili, empeleni singase sithinte yona kanye inqubekela phambili esiyifunayo. Ukuze ube “ongcono kunabo bonke,” kudinga ukuthi uzikhulule ekubeni ngumuntu wezimfuno zakho ezinzima.

Isifihla-buso sokungavikeleki

Sekukaningi ngeluleka abantu ababekhathazwe yisidingo sabo sokuba baphelele. Sengifundile ukuthi ukuphishekela kwabo ukuphelela kuyindlela efihla ukungazethembi. Kuba isitatimende ukuthi Angifanele ngokwanele njengoba nginjalo . Uma senza lokho, sikwahlulela thina.

Imvamisa silwela ukuba ngabaphelele ukukhokhela umuzwa wokungafaneleki. Abantu abafuna ukuphelela bavame ukuba nehaba lokuthi kunamaphutha abo. Ngokuvamile bathola imilayezo ngaphambi kwesikhathi empilweni ukuthi ibinganele ngokwanele. Ngakho-ke banqume ukuthi kuphela ngokuba ngabaphelele abazobe bengasoleki.

Ngokuhlupheka okunjalo singabheka ukufuna ukupheleliswa njengesinxephezelo sokuhlangenwe nakho kwangaphambilini kokuphila - ukuwa kwegagasi — okonakalise inhlalakahle yomuntu nokuzethemba kwakhe. Njengempendulo enxephezelayo, idrayivu yokupheleliswa ifunwa ngephutha njengesisombululo. Abalindele ukuphelela bathambekele ekucabangeni ukuthi abanye abantu ngandlela thile bangcono noma bangcono kunabo, ngakho-ke badinga ukungabi nasici ukuze babambe. Le yinganekwane elimaza kabi.

Abantu abafuna ukuphelela bazwela kakhulu ekwahlulelweni kwabanye. Eqinisweni, lezi zahlulelo zivame ukucatshangwa. Wonke umuntu unombono, kepha ukuphakamisela umbono womunye umuntu esimweni sokwahlulela kuwubuwula ngempela. Ngemuva kwakho konke, omunye umuntu akakwazi ukwahlulela ngokweqiniso ngaphandle kokuthi umnikeze yena amandla okuba yijaji.

Ukuphela kokuphela kungokuba khona, kepha umuntu ongenaphutha akaze abe khona

Into esondele kakhulu ekupheleleni yikhono lokuba khona ngokugcwele. Ngaphandle kwemicabango ephazamisayo ezilinganisa noma esizikala ngayo, sikhululekile ukuba sesikhathini sangempela. Kungaleso sikhathi lapho siphila khona ngokweqiniso. Kodwa-ke, umuntu ofuna ukuphelela akavamile ukuba khona, ngoba bamatasa bagxeka okwedlule futhi baphinde baphendule zonke izinqumo zabo noma bakhathazeke ngezinqumo zabo zesikhathi esizayo. Ngakho-ke, uyabona, umuntu ofuna ukuphelela akakaze abe khona ngempela. Akuyona into exakayo leyo?

Ukuphishekela ukuphelela kunciphisa ikhono lethu lokuba khona futhi kusiphuce ngokoqobo amandla okuphila. Akunakufinyeleleka, akucabangeki futhi ngokungathandeki akufuneki, ngakho-ke kungani ukulandela? Isikhathi sakho singasetshenziswa kangcono ekujuleni ekutheni ungakunqoba kanjani ukungazethembi okwakhuthaza isifiso sokuphelela kwasekuqaleni.

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