Thanda (noma Okuthile) ekuboneni kokuqala

Kukangaki ufunde noma wezwa izinganekwane zabantu abathi "ngazi ekuqaleni nje ukuthi nguYe lona?" Ezimweni eziningi babeqinisile, futhi, ngoba lesi yisilinganiso esivela kubashadikazi emshadweni wabo noma ngisho nabashadikazi abashade iminyaka engama-50. Ngiyibona kaningi futhi ngihlala ngishaywa isitatimende esinjalo. Umlando wokubuyekeza mhlawumbe.

Ngithole enye yalezi ku-NY Times Times kuleli sonto. Owesifazane oneminyaka engamashumi ayisithupha ukhuluma ngesikhathi aqala ngaso ukubona indoda agcine eyishadile. Babesebancane bengakayi eminyakeni yabo yobusha. Ngathi, “Manje ngempela angayazi kanjani into enje?”

Izincazelo eziningana zaziphakamisa: lo mfana wayebonakala ejwayelekile ngoba ngandlela thile wamkhumbuza abafowabo noma ubaba wakhe, wayethandeka kuye ngokomzwelo (iphunga, umsindo wezwi, njll.), Noma ngabe wayesemncane kangakanani, wayekhangwa ngokocansi ngaphandle kokuthi azi ukuthi kwakuyini lokho. Futhi okungenani, wambona njengomphefumulo wakhe (kusuka empilweni yangaphambilini? Izwi endlebeni yakhe? Ngesinqumo seFate?)

Ngizazi kahle izimbangela zokuheha. Abanye besifazane bathanda abesilisa abade, abade kunabo bonke, futhi yingakho ubona abesifazane abaningi abancane be-5 'noma kunjalo nabadlali be-basketball behamba ngokuziqhenya ndawonye yize ekhuluma nomgodi wakhe wengalo! Abesilisa abaningi bakhangwa ngumuntu wesifazane - kuncane lokhu nokukhulu lokho, noma yini - futhi siyazi ukuthi lokhu ngeke kuhlale impilo yonke. Maduze nje lowo onesibalo esithandekayo uzolahleka lapho ebeletha noma esemdala nje futhi owesifazane omncane angakhathala ngokungahambi kahle kokuba mfushane ngamamitha amabili kunomlingani wakhe.

Okunye okungenzeka ukuthi, ngenkathi ukukhanga kokuqala kuzophela, bazokhula bathandane futhi futhi bathandane, bamukelane ngomuntu wangempela ongaphakathi. Sonke sithemba lokho ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside. Ngicabanga, noma kunjalo, ukuthi akunakwenzeka uthando omunye komunye lapho uqala ukubona. Kufanele wazi ukuthi eminye imisindo nephunga kanjani, ukuthi usabela kanjani ekucindezelekeni, nokuthi bazwana kanjani nomndeni wabo, ngaphambi kokuthi uthathe izinqumo ngothando noma ngomshado.

Ngivame ukuxwayisa abantu abahlangana ku-Intanethi futhi "bathandane" ngezincwadi zabo ukuthi ngeke bakwazi lokhu okwamanje. Umuntu udinga ngempela "ukuzizwa", ngokoqobo, ngomunye umuntu ngaphambi kokuthatha isinqumo nganoma yini yesikhathi eside. Lokhu kunjalo lapha e-United States lapho abantu abaningi belindele ukuthi uthando lwandulele umshado futhi ngethemba lokuthi ngeke bakhule bathandane eminyakeni edlule njengasemidlalweni ehleliwe. Okuningi kuncike kulokho okulindelwe namasiko omuntu.

Ngakho-ke, ingabe lukhona uthando ekuqaleni kokubona? Ngiyakungabaza ngokujulile. Ngabe umuntu "angazi" ukuthi nguyena Lowo? Ngokunokwenzeka, uma ukukhetha komuntu ozoshada naye kungokokukhanga, ukwazi noma okuncane. Umuntu ngokuqinisekile angabona "umphefumulo" ngemuva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa nje kuphela lapho omunye nomunye ebona ukufana okuningi kumanani nokubukwa kwempilo NOKUBONA ukuthi imizimba yakho ingahlangana kanjani noma ihlangane kanjani, ukuthi elinye linuka kanjani futhi lizwakala kanjani. Ingabe nizoba abalingani bempilo abajabulayo? Uma wamukela, uhlala .... futhi uma unenhlanhla.