Ama-Microaggressions: Angaphezu Kokuncintisana Nje

Kokuthunyelwe kwangaphambilini, ngikhombisile ukuthi iningi labamhlophe baseMelika abanezinhloso ezinhle bakuthole njengefa ukucwasana ngokobuhlanga kokhokho babo; ukuthi amafomu ayingozi kakhulu ahlala engaphandle kwezinga lokuqwashisa ngokuqonda; nokuthi "ukwenza okungabonakali, kubonakale" kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokunqoba ubandlululo olufihlekile. Kusukela lokho kuthunyelwa, abafundi abaningi babuze ukuthi ngabe ama-microaggressions angabhekiswa kubantu besifazane, abesilisa abathandana nabobulili obufanayo / abesilisa nabesifazane / abesilisa nabesifazane (LGBT), noma labo abakhubazekile. Impendulo ezwakalayo inguyebo.

Ama-Microaggressions yizinto zokukhuluma ngamazwi, okungezona ezokukhuluma, kanye nezemvelo zansuku zonke, ama-snubs, noma inhlamba, kungaba ngenhloso noma ngokungenhloso, edlulisa imiyalezo enobutha, ehlambalazayo, noma engemihle ukukhomba abantu ngokususelwa kubulungu babo beqembu elibandlululiwe. Ezimweni eziningi, le milayezo efihliwe ingavimba ubunikazi beqembu noma okungokoqobo kokuhlangenwe nakho kwabantu okubhekiswe kubo, ibabukele phansi ezingeni lomuntu noma leqembu, ixhumane nabantu abangaphansi, iphakamise ukuthi abayona ingxenye yeqembu eliningi, isongele futhi isabise, noma zibabeke ezingeni eliphansi nokwelashwa.

Ngabe iMicroaggressions ibukeka kanjani?

Ngenkathi ama-microaggressions ngokuvamile kuxoxwa ngawo ngokombono wobuhlanga nokucwasana, noma yiliphi iqembu elincishwe amathuba emphakathini lingaba yizisulu - abantu bebala, abesifazane, abantu be-LGBT, labo abakhubazekile, abancane bezenkolo, njalonjalo.

Amanye ama-microaggressions wesampula nezincazelo zawo ezifihliwe anikezwe ngezansi.

Ama-Microaggressions obuhlanga

• Owesilisa noma owesifazane oMhlophe ubamba isikhwama sabo semali noma ahlole isikhwama sabo semali lapho indoda emnyama noma yaseLatino isondela kubo noma ibadlula. (Umlayezo ofihliwe: Wena neqembu lakho niyizigebengu.).
• Umuntu waseMelika wase-Asia, owazalelwa futhi wakhulela e-United States, unconywa ngokukhuluma "isiNgisi esihle." (Umlayezo ofihliwe: Awuyena umMelika weqiniso. Ungumfokazi ongapheli ezweni lakho.)
• Izithandani ezimnyama zihleli etafuleni endaweni yokudlela eseceleni kwekhishi yize kunamanye amatafula angenalutho futhi afiseleka kakhulu ngaphambili. (Umlayezo ofihliwe: Uyisakhamuzi esisesigabeni sesibili futhi awukufanele ukwelashwa okukuqala.)

Ama-Microaggressions wobulili

• Imenenja yesifazane egcizelelayo ibizwa ngokuthi "unondindwa," kanti uzakwabo wesilisa uchazwa "njengomholi onamandla." (Umlayezo ofihliwe: Abesifazane kufanele bangabi nalutho futhi bavumele abesilisa ukuthi bathathe izinqumo.)
• Udokotela wesifazane ogqoke i-stethoscope wenza iphutha njengomhlengikazi. (Umlayezo ofihliwe: Abesifazane kufanele babambe iqhaza ekukhuliseni hhayi ekwenzeni izinqumo. Abesifazane abanamakhono amancane kunabesilisa).
• Kuzwakala amakhwela noma izingcingo ezivela emadodeni njengoba owesifazane ehamba ngomgwaqo. (Umlayezo ofihliwe: Umzimba wakho / ukubukeka kwakho kujabulisa amadoda. Uyinto yocansi.)

Ama-Microaggressions wokuzibandakanya ngokocansi

• Umuntu omusha usebenzisa igama elithi "isitabane" ukuchaza i-movie ayengayithandi. (Umlayezo ofihliwe: Ukuba yisitabane kuhlotshaniswa nezimpawu ezingezinhle nezingathandeki.)
• Iklayenti lezithandani kwezokwelashwa lidalula ngokungananazi ukuthi lithini ngocansi kumelaphi oqondile ngokusho ukuthi "lingabesifazane." Umelaphi ukhombisa ukuthi akumethusi lokhu kudalulwa ngoba wake waba neklayenti "elalizinja." (Umlayezo ofihlekile: Ukuheha abobulili obufanayo akuvamile futhi kuyaphambuka.)
• Amadoda amabili ayizitabane abambana ngezandla esidlangalaleni futhi atshelwa ukuthi angabukisi ngobulili bawo. (Umlayezo ofihliwe: Ukuboniswa kothando lwabobulili obufanayo akuvamile futhi kuyacasula. Kugcine kuyimfihlo futhi kube kini.)

Ama-Microaggressions angancika kunoma yiliphi iqembu elibhekelwa phansi kulo mphakathi. Inkolo, ukukhubazeka, kanye nesigaba senhlalo nakho kungakhombisa ukubonakaliswa kwama-microaggressions. Ezinye zalezi zibonelo zifaka okulandelayo:

• Lapho kuxoxiswana ngentengo yento, umnikazi wesitolo uthi kwikhasimende, "Ungazami ukungicekela phansi." (Umlayezo ofihlekile: AmaJuda anenkani futhi adla imali.)
• Indoda eyimpumputhe ibika ukuthi abantu bavame ukuphakamisa amazwi abo lapho bekhuluma naye. Uphendula ngokuthi, "Ngicela ungaphakamisi izwi lakho; ngiyakuzwa kahle." (Umlayezo ofihliwe: Umuntu onokukhubazeka uchazwa njengomncane kuzo zonke izici zokusebenza ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo).
• Ingubo egqokwa ngumama we-TV ngokoqobo ichazwa njenge- "trashy." (Umlayezo ofihliwe: Abantu abasezingeni eliphansi abanambitheki futhi abanabuciko.)

Izinhlobo eziyingozi kakhulu ze-microaggressions zivame ukulethwa ngabantu abanezinhloso ezinhle abangazi ukuthi bazibandakanye ekuziphatheni okuyingozi eqenjini elidelelekile emphakathini. Lezi zimo zansuku zonke ebusweni zingabonakala zingenabungozi noma zingasho lutho, noma zichazwe "njengezintwana ezincane," kepha ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi lunomthelela onamandla enhlalakahleni yengqondo yamaqembu abhekiwe futhi luthinta izinga labo lokuphila ngokudala ukungalingani kwezempilo ukunakekelwa, imfundo nokuqashwa.

Yini Ama-Microaggressions Athi Ngathi?

Ukucwaswa ngokobulili, ubulili, kanye nokuya ocansini ukubonakaliswa okusebenzayo kanye / noma okukhombisa ukubukwa kwethu komhlaba ngokufakwa / ukukhishwa, ukuphakama / ukubhekelwa phansi, ukujwayeleka / ukungajwayelekile, kanye nokufisa / ukungafuneki. Ama-Microaggressions akhombisa ukubonakaliswa okusebenzayo kokubukwa komhlaba okucindezelayo okwenza, kukhuthaze, futhi kuphoqelele ukubekelwa eceleni. Ngoba iningi lethu lizibona ngathi singabantu abalungile, abaziphethe kahle, nabaziphethe kahle, ukwazi ukuthi sinombono wezwe ochemile kuyaphazamisa kakhulu; ngalokho sikhetha ukuphika, ukunciphisa, noma ukugwema ukuzibheka ngokwethembeka. Kodwa-ke, ucwaningo luphakamisa ukuthi akekho kithi ovikelekile ekutholeni ubuhlanga, ubulili, kanye nokuthambekela kwezocansi emphakathini wethu. Sihlangene nabantu abacwasa ngokobuhlanga, ngokobulili nangokobulili obuhlukile, izinkolelo kanye nokuziphatha. Okuningi kwalokhu kungaphandle kwezinga lokuqwashisa, ngakho-ke sihlanganyela ezenzweni ezicindezela nokubandlulula abanye zingahlosile.

Ake ngisebenzise isibonelo ukukhombisa ukuthi ama-microaggressions angathinta kanjani izinga lokuphila nekhwalithi yempilo yabesifazane nabantu bebala. Izibalo zisekela iqiniso lokuthi abesilisa abamhlophe baseMelika bakha kuphela abantu abangama-33%. Noma kunjalo, bahlala cishe:

• Ama-80% ezikhundla eziqashiwe emfundweni ephakeme.
• U-80% weNdlu yabamele.
• Ama-80-85% eSigungu Sase-U.
• Ama-92% ezikhundla ezisezingeni eliphezulu ze-Forbes 400.
• Abengamele izikole zomphakathi ezingama-90% pf.
• Ama-99.9% wabanikazi bamaqembu ezemidlalo.
• U-97.7% wabongameli be-U. S.

Imibuzo okumele siyibuze yilena: "Baphi abesifazane?" "Baphi abantu bebala?" "Uma lokhu kungenxa yobandlululo nokucwasana ngokobulili, ngobani amacala?" "Ingabe le miphumela idalwa ukucwasa ngokobulili noma ngobulili?" "Ngabe kungenxa yabantu abasizondayo, inzondo yabamhlophe, abakwaKlan, noma amakhanda esikhumba?" Ngiphikisa ngokuthi akuyena umuntu obandlulula ngokweqile noma ngokobulili olawula amathuluzi aholela ekuhlukaneni okungenabulungiswa nokulimazayo. Ngabantu esikhetha ukubasebenzela, othisha abafundisa izingane zethu, abaholi bamabhizinisi abenza izinqubomgomo nemikhuba yezinhlangano zabo, abaholi bakahulumeni, abezomthetho, odokotela, odokotela bamazinyo, abasebenzi bezokwakha, umndeni wakho, abangani nomakhelwane. Ngabantu abanezinhloso ezinhle njengawe nami.

Ukubhekisisa ngokuphelele ama-microaggressions, ngincoma imithombo emibili: Ama-Microaggressions obuhlanga empilweni yansuku zonke: ubuhlanga, ubulili nokuziphatha ngokobulili futhi Ama-Microaggressions kanye ne-Marginality: Ukubonakaliswa, i-Dynamics ne-Impact.