Isipho Sosuku Lomama Kuwe

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• Ucansi Lubalulekile Ukufundwa
• Ukuzisola Ngokobulili Akukushintshi Ukuziphatha Ngokobulili Kwesikhathi Esizayo

Lokhu okuthunyelwe kubhalwe ngokubambisana noLeah Millheiser, MD Millheiser unguprofesa osizayo emtholampilo kwezokubelethisa kanye nasezibelethweni zabesifazane kanye nomqondisi we-Female Sexual Medicine Programme eStanford University Medical Center.

Imiphumela emihle yezempilo evela ocansini

Ngakho-ke, njengesipho kithina ngalolu Suku Lomama, masikwenze umgomo ukubuyisa kokubili ukusondelana ngokocansi nangokomzwelo ebudlelwaneni bethu kusuka ku-COVID-19. Hhayi ngoba kufanele noma kufanele, kepha ngoba ukuya ocansini ngokuvumelana kungaba yinto enhle empilweni yakho. Kunezinzuzo eziningi zempilo yengqondo ngokuzibandakanya ocansini, kufaka phakathi ukunciphisa ukucindezeleka, ukulala okungcono, nomoya ojabulayo. Ama-Orgasms nawo aletha injabulo nokukhululwa ngesikhathi lapho ezinye izindlela zethu eziningi zokuphumula nokuzijabulisa zingatholakali.

Izeluleko Ezisebenzayo

Nawa amanye amathiphu awusizo wokuvuselela ilangabi elizwakala selizophela:

• Yamukela umqondo we "beforeplay": Abesifazane abaningi abangahlangabezani nesifiso sokuya ocansini kaningi ngendlela abebengathanda ngayo manje, bathola ukuthi ukulungiselela ukuya ocansini ngaphambi kwesikhathi kubavumela ukuba “beze etafuleni” bekulungele futhi bejabule njengabalingani babo. Ngaphandle kwalokho, bangachitha sonke isikhathi bezama ukubamba ukufinyelela ezingeni lentokozo yocansi yomlingani wabo futhi ekugcineni bangahamba beze emcimbini benganelisekile. Ngaphambi kokudlala umqondo wokuthi owesifazane udala isifiso sobulili esiphendulayo eyedwa ngaphambi kokuzibandakanya nomlingani wakhe. Lokhu kungafinyelelwa ngezindlela eziningi, njengokubuka noma ukufunda i-erotica noma ukuzikhuthaza. Zibuke esibukweni bese wamukela ubulili bakho. Ukuba nomzimba omuhle nge-preplay yakho kuyakunika amandla futhi kungaholela ekuzethembeni kwezocansi okwengeziwe. Kubalulekile ukuthola ukuthi hlobo luni lwangaphambi kokudlala olusebenzela wena.
• Nikezane isikhala: Iningi lethu alijwayele ukuba seduzane kozakwethu 24/7. Lokhu kubumbana okungaguquguquki kuyindawo ephelele yokuzalela izinzwa zomunye nomunye. Uma wena kanye / noma umlingani wakho nisebenza ngaphandle kwekhaya ngesikhathi se-workweek pre-COVID, zama ukulingisa okunye kwalokhu kwehlukanisa phakathi ne-SIP, kuze kube sezingeni lapho kungenzeka khona. Lesi yisikhathi esihle sokubhalela umlingani wakho imiyalezo ngothando nokwakha ukulindela usuku lonke.

• Yebo, usengaba nobusuku bosuku: Kungabukeka kwehluke kancane kepha umqondo uyefana. Izingane zakho nazo zingabandakanyeka ekuhleleni, futhi. Banikeze inselelo yokwakha ubusuku bosuku wena nomlingani wakho ngokuqonda ukuthi phakathi nosuku lwangempela, badinga ukuzijabulisa buthule kwenye indawo (ungahle uthande ukugoba imithetho yesikhathi sesikrini lapha!). Eminye imibono yenselelo yosuku lwasebusuku kungenzeka ukuthi izingane zinenza nobabili ama-popcorn ngenkathi nibuka i-movie, izingane ezindala zibuka izingane ezincane (uma iminyaka ifanele) ngenkathi wena nozakwenu nihambahamba (khumbulani ukubambana ngezandla), noma wenze izingane zakho zikwenzele lokho ezicabanga ukuthi isidlo sakusihlwa "sothando" kuwe. Lapho sebesenzile lesi sehlakalo, babathume bahambe isikhashana bese bephinda baxhumane nomlingani wakho. Kunomthetho owodwa ngobusuku bobusuku, zama ukungakhulumi ngezingane sonke isikhathi (noma nhlobo). Khumbuza ngezinsuku zakudala, okukuhlanganisile, uhambo ofuna ukuluthatha lapho i-SIP iyinkumbulo ekude, yini ekhethekile ngomunye nomunye, noma yiziphi izinto zokuzilibazisa enifuna ukuzifunda ndawonye.
• Beka amatshe okujuluka namaphijama asemini isikhashana: Yize zikhululekile ngendlela emangalisayo, lezi zinto azibonisi ukuthi “ngisesimweni sengqondo.” Sonke sisizwile isisho esithi, “sikhohlise uze ube yiso.” Hhayi-ke, lesi yisikhathi esihle kakhulu sokuhlola leso sisho esidala. Gqoka ingubo ekwenza ube muhle noma ube muhle. Cela umlingani wakho ukuthi enze okufanayo. Ukuzizwa umuhle ngokubukeka kwakho nokukhombisa umlingani wakho ukuthi usayikhathalela impilo yakho yezocansi kungahle kuholele empendulweni ethile emihle engabe ilahlekile ngesikhathi sokukhiya phansi.
• Qinisekisa ubumfihlo: Ngezingane noma amanye amalungu omndeni ahlala ekhaya njengamanje, ukuthola ubumfihlo bokusondelana ngokobulili kungaba ngumshikashika. Kuyiqiniso jikelele ukuthi izingane zithanda ukugxumela emakamelweni abazali bazo kungaziwa. Yingakho kwasungulwa izingidi. Uma ukwesaba i-coitus interruptus kukuvimbela ekubeni nobudlelwano obusondelene nomlingani wakho, faka ukhiye emnyango wakho noma khumbula ukusebenzisa leyo esivele ikhona. Kungasiza futhi ukusetha i-alamu yakho ihora ngaphambi kokuthi izingane zivame ukuvuka noma zilinde zize zilale ubuthongo ebusuku ukuze zisondelane.

• Nciphisa ukuphuza utshwala: Ukuphuza kancane utshwala kungasiza ekuqhubeni ucansi kowesifazane, ngoba kunganciphisa ukucindezeleka okuthile noma ukuvimbela okuthile. Kodwa-ke, inani elibaluleke kakhulu lingaba nomphumela ophambene ku-libido ngokwenza njenge-CNS depressant.
• Khumbula, umgomo ukusondelana: Akuyona yonke imicimbi esondelene nayo edinga ukubandakanya ucansi, ikakhulukazi ngemuva kosuku olude lomsebenzi, ukufunda emakhaya, noma kokubili. Chitha isikhathi ukwazi kabusha ekupheleni kosuku olude ngokubhucungwa ngamakhandlela, ukubambana ngezandla noma ukwangana kusofa ngenkathi ulalele umculo wakho owuthandayo, ukuqabulana njengoba wenza ngenkathi nihlangana okokuqala, noma ngokugeza noma ukugeza ndawonye. Unayo i-TV namaselula akho ekamelweni ebusuku? Zikhiphe noma uzicishe. Imibhangqwana ibika ucansi olwedlule futhi ilala ku-Netflix kulezi zinsuku. Esikhundleni sesikhathi sesikrini, khetha ukuzibonisa wena nophathina wakho ama-4As: Uthando, Ukunakwa, Ukwazisa, Ukwamukelwa. Ezikhathini ezicindezelayo, kulula ukuthi sizithathe kalula thina nabalingani bethu.

Ucansi Lubalulekile Ukufundwa

Ukuzisola Ngokobulili Akukushintshi Ukuziphatha Ngokobulili Kwesikhathi Esizayo