I-Narcissism ne-OCD

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Igama elithi narcissism libukeka lenza izindlebe zabantu zivele phezulu. Kubukeka kunelukuluku lokuthi ungamazi kanjani umuntu osebenzisa izidakamizwa nokuthi ubhekana kanjani nazo.

Ngizizwa leli gama, i-narcissist, lisetshenziswa kabi kaningi emasikweni aseMelika. Ngizwa abantu abaningi bechaza abalingane babo bokuqala noma umlingani othandana naye ngokuthi "yi-narcissist." Kubukeka sengathi okwesibili ubuhlobo buyahluleka, ukuthambekela komunye umuntu kobudlwangudlwangu bekufanele kusolwe. Kukangaki sizwa kubangani bethu ukuthi ummeli wabo wehlukaniso noma owelapha wabatshela ukuthi i-ex yabo "ingumlingisi wezinto ezimbi?"

Le verbiage ibuye ijikelezwe ukuchaza abantu abathatha ama-selfie amaningi noma abafaka ithoni lamaTik Toks abo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Ngifuna ukukubeka kucace, ukuthi akukho kulokhu okufaneleka njengenqubo yangempela yeNarcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).

I-Narcissistic Personality Disorder ifaka iphethini yesikhathi eside yalowo ogulayo edinga ukunconywa kwabanye abantu. Laba bantu ngokuvamile abakwazi ukuphatha izimpendulo ezibucayi futhi banomuzwa omkhulu welungelo. Abantu abanalesi sifo abanawo umuzwa wokuzwelana nalabo ababazungezile futhi bagxeka kakhulu kwabanye. Imvamisa banephethini lobudlelwano obunezinkinga. Abantu abasondelene ne-narcissist bavame ukubabona njengabaphathi, abanzima, abaqinile futhi abangenalo uzwela.

Abantu abane-NPD bamelana kakhulu nokushintsha indlela abaziphethe ngayo, noma ngabe kubadalela izinkinga. Njengakho konke ukuphazamiseka kobuntu, imvamisa yilabo abaseduze kwe-narcissist abanenkinga ngokuziphatha kwabo, kepha hhayi ogulayo we-NPD. Umuntu onenkinga ye-NPD uzosola bonke abantu ababazungezile ngemizabalazo yabo. Ngeke babheke lesi simo njengephutha labo futhi, ekwelashweni, bazokwethula njengokugxeka kakhulu abantu abasendaweni yabo. Ukuthambekela kwabo ngukuthi badlulisele ukusolwa kwabanye.

Abantu abasondelene ne-narcissist imvamisa bazohambisana nezicelo nezimfuno zomuntu ngamunye ze-NPD ngoba kulula kakhulu kunokubhekana nemiphumela yokuphikisana nomuntu othanda ukwelashwa. Ezinye izibonelo zendlela umuntu one-NPD angasabela ngayo komunye ongakwenzi lokho akucelayo kungaba isifundo eside ngokwedlulele, isimilo esibandayo nesikude, noma iminyaka yokuphathwa buthule.

Lapho ophethwe i-OCD futhi ene-NPD, kubukeka kwehlukile kunomuntu we-OCD ongenayo i-NPD. Isibonelo, lapho umuntu onenkinga ye-OCD enomcabango ongafuneki futhi ongathandeki ohilela omunye umuntu, imvamisa bazokwazi futhi babe nozwelo emcabangweni wokuthi abakwazi ukulawula omunye umuntu. Abazizwa ukuthi abanye kufanele babenzele izinto ngenkani. Umuntu onenkinga ye-OCD ongenayo i-NPD uyavuma ukuthi isimilo sabo esiyimpoqo siyabacasula futhi siyabacasula labo ababazungezile.

Ngenkathi umuntu we-OCD one-NPD esebenza ngaphansi kwefilosofi yokuthi wonke umuntu obazungezile kufanele enze noma yini nakho konke ukubenza bazizwe bekhululekile. Bazizwa benelungelo futhi bekufanele lokho, ngakho-ke, umuntu we-NPD / OCD akasiboni isidingo sokushintsha indlela abaziphatha ngayo, kunalokho, banomuzwa wokuthi abanye ababazungezile kufanele bashintshe. Lapho abanye bengaguquki, bangathukuthela kakhulu futhi badumale ngokweqile.

Isibonelo, ngangineklayenti elihlangabezana nemibandela ye-OCD ne-NPD, wayeyindoda eneminyaka engamashumi amane. Ubekhathazekile ngokuba nezitezi ezihlanzekile endlini yakhe. Wayengakwazi ukuhamba engafake zicathulo endlini yakhe noma ngabe izitezi zihlanze kangakanani. Wayelawula ngokweqile indlela yokuziphatha komkakhe phansi. Wake wambona ehamba engenazicathulo endlini, wafuna ukuthi ahlanze izinyawo zakhe ngokushesha futhi abulale amagciwane ngaphambi kokuba angene embhedeni. Yena, owayevame ukuthobela ngenkani, wakhohlwa ngelinye ilanga wangena embhedeni ngezinyawo “ezingcolisiwe”. Ephendula, uchithe amahora namahora ekhuluma naye ngobuhlungu amzwise bona. Uchithe inyanga elandelayo elele kwelinye igumbi nakomunye umbhede wamziba amasonto ambalwa.

Umlingani we-OCD ongenayo i-NPD naye angacasuka kakhulu futhi angakhululeki emcabangweni wokuthi unkosikazi wakhe "ungcolisa" umbhede. Kodwa-ke, lolu hlobo lomyeni cishe luzokwenza imikhuba eminingi ephoqayo ngokwakhe, engambandakanyi, ukuze azizwe ekhululekile. Angashintsha amashidi, agweme unyawo lwakhe ukuhlangana nolwakhe ngaphansi kwezembozo, noma afake amasokisi embhedeni. Kukhona ithuba elihle kakhulu lokuthi angasho lutho nhlobo kumlingani wakhe.

Umehluko omkhulu owakwakhe we-OCD ongenayo i-NPD ngeke abe nomuzwa wokuthi "induduzo" yakhe kungumsebenzi womkakhe. Ngokuvamile, uzozwela futhi abe nozwelo kumkakhe. Angacabanga, umkami ukhathele futhi udinga ukulala Umuntu we-NPD / OCD ngeke acabange ngale ndlela. Lo muntu ngeke abe nankinga yokubuka umkakhe eshintsha amashidi futhi enze izinto aziphoqelelayo ubusuku bonke.

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