Izingane kuphela ezenza kangcono kunalokho okucabangayo

Ukucabanga kubonakala sengathi ingane okuwukuphela kwayo nabazali bayo banesikhathi esinzima sokuhlukaniswa isikhathi eside kunabantwana abanezelamani. Iqiniso ukuthi iCovid-19 idale indawo entsha yomndeni ye- konke imindeni. Izinselelo azifani, kepha zikhona.

Ngenxa yokucabanga ngokuvumelana, abazali bomunye umuntu bangazizwa benecala futhi bacabange ukuthi ingane yabo ibinganeliseka uma bekukhona ingane yakini endlini. Mhlawumbe yebo, mhlawumbe cha.

Uma ungumzali wengane okuwukuphela kwayo, jabula ngokuthi awuxazululi izingxabano, uthulisa ukungezwani okwandayo noma ukuqapha ukunxusa ukunakwa komzali ngamunye nokwehlukanisiwe. Lapho izingane zinesithukuthezi, abazali bazobizwa noma ngabe bangaki abantwana abazodlala imidlalo bagcwalise izikhala. Ngizwa izikhalazo ezivela ezinganeni ezinezelamani futhi ezingenazo: Ontanga bazo abakwazi ukuvakasha, isikole sivaliwe, akukho misebenzi yangaphandle. Bangitshela ukuthi akukho abangakwenza.

Izingane kuphela ezichithe isikhathi esiningi zodwa futhi eziningi zinekhono elihle ekusebenziseni isikhathi esingeziwe sokuqalwa kwezenhlalo. Isimo sobuzalwane asihlangene nakancane nekhono lengane lokuzijabulisa. Enezingane zakini noma zinazo, ingane eyodwa ingadinga ukuthi uhlele isikhathi sayo; omunye angazimela, akwazi ukuzijabulisa futhi aneliseke ngokuphelele ngokushiya kumadivayisi akhe.

Ukugcwalisa Izikhala

Abazali bezingane kuphela bavame ukuzwa ukuthi kudingeka babe yibo abazogcwalisa isikhathi sengane yabo ukugwema ingane yabo ukuba nesizungu noma ukubhoreka. Ngakwesobunxele kuya kumadivayisi abo futhi ngaphandle kokufaka kwabazali njalo, izingane kuphela ezikwazi ukusebenzisa isikhathi esengeziwe esinaso. Lapho ukhathazeka ngokuthi ingane yakho ingahle ibe nesithukuthezi noma ibe nesizungu ngaphandle kwengane yakini ezosebenza njengomlingani, cabanga ngesiphetho esibalulekile nesisebenzisekayo sesikhathi sodwa.

Ikhuthaza ubuciko, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ikhuthaza ukuzimela kwengane kanye nekhono lokuzijabulisa yona — kokubili kuyasiza njengoba ingane ikhula. Encwadini yakhe, Inesithukuthezi futhi Ekhanyayo: Ukuthi Isikhala Esingavulwa Kanjani Ukuziqhenya Kwakho Okukhiqiza Kakhulu Nobuciko, UManuoush Zomorodi, uyachaza ukuthi "Isizungu siholela kumzala waso osondelene naye, azule ingqondo ... Ukuvumela ingqondo yakho izule kuyisihluthulelo sobuciko nokukhiqiza."

Xhuma, Xhuma, Xhuma

Vumela ukuxhumeka ku-inthanethi. Uma ingane yakho okuwukuphela kwayo ikhononda, yamukele isithukuthezi sayo, yiba nozwela ngakho-ke yazi ukuthi uyamuzwa, ukhumbula ukuthi i-Intanethi iyisibusiso ezinganeni eziningi futhi ilusizo ikakhulukazi ezinganeni kuphela ngenkathi ukuzihlukanisa nabantu kusasebenza. Abazali abanemikhawulo ehleliwe yokufinyelela ku-inthanethi kubangani bazofuna ukuvumela isikhathi esengeziwe se-inthanethi njengendlela yokuhlala bexhumene nontanga yabo.

Ucwaningo lwezingane ezincane nesikhathi sabo sesikrini esiku-inthanethi, esiholwa nguDouglas Downey, uprofesa wesayensi yezenhlalo e-The Ohio State University, sibika umthelela omncane noma ongekho nhlobo kumakhono ezingane okuxhumana nabantu. Abaphenyi bafunde ngaphezu kwenkulisa engama-30,000 ngama-grade-5 besebenzisa ukuhlolwa kothisha nabazali bathola ukuthi, "Cishe kukho konke ukuqhathanisa esikwenzile, amakhono ezenhlalo ahlala efanayo noma empeleni akhuphuke ngesizotha."

Kukhona ukukhetha okungapheli kokusebenzisana futhi ingane yakho mhlawumbe iyabazi. Isibonelo, kuneGame Pigeon — uhlelo lokusebenza lwe-iPad noma i-iPhone elinemidlalo eyahlukene engama-20 yabadlali abaningi kusuka kuma-checkers naku-chess kuya kubhasikidi, imicibisholo negalofu elincane.

Izingane nentsha ebhala imiyalezo yenza lokho ehlala ikwenza — ixhuma ku-inthanethi nangezinhlelo zokusebenza ezahlukahlukene nangamafoni wazo. Uma wake wabuka izingane kumaselula wazo lapho zihlangene zihleli zihlangene egumbini elilodwa, kungenzeka ukuthi uqaphele ukuthi azihlangani ngaphandle kokuthepha imibhalo. Konke lokho kuxhuma kugcwalisa isikhathi, kugcina ubungane kontanga futhi kusiza ukugcina ingane yakho imatasa futhi kungagxili ekwesabeni i-coronavirus nasezinkingeni ezingenakugwenywa ezindabeni.

Khulula Iso Lakho Elibukhali

Ngomqondo owodwa, okuwukuphela kwengane ejwayele ukunakwa kugxile kuye futhi leyo nto iyodwa ingenza kube lula ukuhlala endaweni eseduze eseduze 24/7. Kodwa-ke, uma ingane yakho okuwukuphela kwayo ingathandi ukuba yisikhungo sokunakwa ngaphambi kokuqedwa kwezenhlalo, cishe izoyithanda kancane manje.

Abazali abaningi bezingane kuphela bayavuma ukwenza ngokweqile kulokho okuwukuphela kwengane ekwaziyo futhi okufanele ngabe iyayenza. Ukuhlukaniswa komphakathi yithuba lokubuyela emuva futhi unikeze ingane yakho okuwukuphela kwayo umthwalo wemfanelo owengeziwe. Beka umuntu omdala kuphela ophethe elondolo noma enza isidlo sakusihlwa inani elithile lezinsuku zeviki noma asuse. Uyomangala ukuthi ingane — ngisho nalowo okhonondayo — iqala kanjani ukuzizwa kamnandi ngokunikela emndenini. Ukungena ngaphakathi kuyisikhumbuzo sokuthi ingane yakho iyingxenye yomndeni futhi akudingeki ukuthi ibe yisikhungo sokunakwa ngaso sonke isikhathi.

Nweba Umhlaba Wengane Yakho Okuwukuphela Kwayo

Ngaphandle kokuthi unengane encane noma encane, ingane yakho izokhumbula ukukhoseliswa endaweni. Khuthaza uzwela futhi uqinise ukuxhumana nomndeni nabangane abaseduze. Zijwayeze izingxoxo zevidiyo noma izingcingo ze-FaceTime nogogo nomkhulu, obabekazi, omalume nabazala bakho. Lokhu kusiza ukukhumbuza okuwukuphela kwengane ngenethiwekhi yakhe yokusekelwa ebanzi futhi kungamsondeza kumalungu omndeni ngaphesheya kwakho.

Zinikele ngezindlela ezibandakanya ingane yakho. Thenga omakhelwane asebekhulile futhi uhambe nengane yakho lapho ushiya igilosa eminyango yabo. Khuluma ngokuthi iminikelo idingeka kuphi futhi unikele uma ungakwazi. Cela owakho kuphela ukuthi ushayele ugogo nomkhulu wakhe noma othile emndenini okungenzeka unenkinga yokubona ukuthi baqhuba kanjani njalo ezinsukwini ezimbalwa. Woza nezenzo zokukhathalela ezizohlala zikhona isikhathi eside ngemuva kwalolu bhubhane.

Yakha Esibophweni Sakho Esiseduze

Ucwaningo lwangonyaka ka-1978 nolwamuva nje lukhombisa ukuthi izingane kuphela ezivame ukusondelana nabazali bazo kunezingane ezinezelamani. Wasebenzise amathuba okuqhelana nomphakathi ukwakha kuleso sibopho: Faka ebhange lememori lengane yakho ngokuqala isiko elisha ngento ongakaze uyenze umndeni wakho — funda ukudlala i-chess, ibhuloho, i-backgammon noma omunye umdlalo ongakaze udlalwe umzali noma ingane. Zama ukubhaka izinhlobo ezahlukene zesinkwa noma uqale uhlobo olusha lohlelo lokuzivocavoca ongalwenza nonke.

Ngenxa yesibopho esiqinile sengane yomzali kuphela, izingane eziningi kuphela eziqaphile futhi ezizwela imizwa nezimo zabazali bazo. Ukuntula izingane zakini ukuphambukisa noma ukusabalalisa izinkathazo zabazali, qaphela ukugcina ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka kwakho ukugwema ingane yakho okuwukuphela kwayo ukuyimunca nokuthwala imithwalo engahambisani nobudala bayo.

Imininingwane @ 2020 nguSusan Newman

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