Izisulu Zokudlwengulwa Nemakethe Yomshado

Lokhu kube yisonto lemibuzo mayelana nokudlwengulwa. UDkt Phil uqale konke ngokubuza abalandeli bakhe umbono wabo ngokuya ocansini namantombazane adakiwe. Lokhu kukhuthaze abaningi ukuthi bangabaze ukuthi yini (noma, uma) ebengacabanga lapho ethi lapho kuvumelekile ukuthi kwamukeleke ukulala nabesifazane abasebasha badakiwe. Leyo mpendulo iholele ekutheni uTracy Clark-Flory eSalon abuze uhide lwemibuzo; imibuzo ebalulekile mayelana nokuthi sicabanga kanjani ngokudlwengulwa, eminingi yayo engenazo izimpendulo ezicacile.

Nginombuzo futhi mayelana nokudlwengulwa. Okwami ​​ngumbuzo, engikholwa ukuthi, ungaphendulwa ngumcwaningi okhuthele owayezimisele ukuthatha isikhathi sakhe abheke futhi acabangele ubufakazi obunamandla. Okwamanje, kumane kungumbuzo ongenampendulo ecacile. Kepha yiyona engikholwa ukuthi kufanelekile ukuyibuza.

Nanku lo mbuzo: Ngabe ukuhlolwa kokulimala okwenziwe kumuntu odlwenguliwe kungumsebenzi wenani lakhe alibonayo emakethe yomshado (isb. Inani lakhe kwabesilisa) ngesikhathi sokudlwengulwa?

Noma, umbono ocacile, ovivinywa ngokomzimba: Ingabe amajaji adlulisa izigwebo eziqatha lapho isisulu sokudlwengulwa kungowesifazane okukholakala ukuthi ubenamathuba amahle emakethe yomshado ngesikhathi sokudlwengulwa okuhlobene nalowo okukholakala ukuthi ubenomshado omubi amathuba emakethe ngesikhathi sokudlwengulwa.

Futhi, kungumbuzo obalulekile ngoba uma ubungozi buhlolwa ngale ndlela, kusikisela inkolelo yokuthi abesifazane abadlwenguliwe “yizimpahla ezilimele” - ukuthi abesilisa bazobabheka njengabanemali encane emakethe yomshado.

Nazi izibonelo ezine lapho ngibona khona ithuba lokuthi isikhundla sowesifazane emakethe yomshado ngesikhathi sokudlwengulwa kwakhe sicatshangelwe lapho kubhekwa umonakalo abhekane nawo

Ngokuvamile kukholelwa ukuthi abesifazane ababonisa ubumsulwa banenani eliphakeme emakethe yomshado kunabesifazane abangenalo; izintombi zifunwa kakhulu futhi, ngenxa yalokho, zinethuba lokushada ngaphansi kwamanani angcono kunabesifazane abangezona izintombi.

Ngabe inani eliphakeme lobumsulwa ezimakethe zemishado liholela esiphethweni sokuthi izisulu zokudlwengulwa ezimsulwa zenziwe okubi kakhulu kunabesifazane abake baba nabalingani bobulili bangaphambilini? Noma, ngokwemibandela ejwayelekile, ingabe abesifazane abake baba nabalingani abambalwa bezocansi baye benza okubi kakhulu kunabesifazane abebenabaningi?

Abathengisi ngocansi babonakala benenani eliphansi ezimakethe eziningi zemishado; bafunwa kancane ngakho-ke lapho beshada ngokuvamile bashada ngaphansi kwamanani ampofu kunabesifazane bakweminye imisebenzi. Ekuhloleni ubungozi bokudlwengulwa, ingabe kubonakala sengathi abathengisa ngomzimba benziwe okubi okuncane kunabanye besifazane okungenzeka ukuthi bangenze kangcono emakethe yomshado?

Le mbono yemakethe yomshado ingachaza inkolelo ephikelelayo yokuthi ukudlwengulwa ngumlingani akulimazi kangako kunokudlwengulwa enye indoda uma sikholelwa ukuthi owesifazane odlwengulwe ngumyeni wakhe ngeke athole ushintsho lwenani kuleyo ndoda nokuthi owesifazane oshadile odlwengulwa enye indoda uzozwa ukwehla kwenani kumyeni wakhe.

Abesifazane base-Afrika baseMelika basesha ezimakethe eziqine kakhulu kunabesifazane banoma iluphi olunye uhlanga; mancane kakhulu amathuba okuthi bashade nganoma yisiphi isikhathi ezimpilweni zabo. Ingabe inkolelo yokuthi isisulu esimnyama sokudlwengulwa yayinamathemba emakethe yomshado ngesikhathi sokudlwengulwa, ingabe ihumusha ukuthi ayikaze ilimale kakhulu kunowesifazane omhlophe owayesethubeni lokushada?

Ngiyethemba ukuthi kusobala ukuthi uma ngibuza le mibuzo angikuphakamisi ukuthi lena yindlela thina kufanele cabanga ngomonakalo odalwe ukudlwengulwa. Ngibuza ukuthi ngabe le yindlela esihamba ngayo noma cha yenza cabanga ngokulimala. Ngoba uma senza lokho - uma sikala inani lowesifazane emakethe yomshado ngesikhathi edlwengulwa - ngicabanga ukuthi lokho kudinga ingxoxo ebucayi ngemibono yomphakathi yenani lomuntu ohlukunyeziwe emakethe yomshado.