Ukufaka kabusha: Okufanele Ukwenze Lapho Impilo Endala Ingasalingani?

Ekuhambeni kwesikhala, ukungena kabusha kubhekwa njengengxenye enzima kakhulu yendiza. Umkhumbi-mkhathi uthola ithuba elilodwa kuphela lokushaya umkhathi womhlaba nge-engeli elifanele ngqo. Isivinini siyisihluthulelo futhi: Uma into ingena kabusha ngokushesha okukhulu, izosha njengemeteor. Iziphuphutheki kwesinye isikhathi zingena kabusha emkhathini futhi zishaye phezulu.

Kwamasosha, abalingisi, abagijimi abaphezulu, nabanye ochwepheshe ababhekana nokuhlangenwe nakho okwedlulele njengengxenye yomsebenzi wabo, amakhono okungena kabusha abalulekile ekusebenzeni kwabo, futhi bafunda kusenesikhathi ukuphatha izinguquko ngaphandle kokuphahlazeka. Kithina sonke, inkinga efana nobhubhane lwe-COVID-19 isalokhu iyindida engajwayelekile esingazilungiselele, nokuthola indlela ebuyela ezimpilweni zethu ngemuva kokuthi ingaletha izinselelo ezihlukile.

Ngenkathi lolu bhubhane lusadlangile futhi luzoqhubeka isikhashana, inani elikhulayo lamazwe lisuse imikhawulo, lapho izitolo, amahhovisi, nempilo yomphakathi ivulwa kancane kancane. Njengoba singena kabusha ezindaweni zethu zokusebenza nobudlelwano, kufaka phakathi lezo esingakaze sizishiye, yisiphi isivinini sokungena kabusha ne-engeli elungile?

Ukudlidlizuma okungazelelwe "kokujwayelekile" kungakhungathekisa, futhi ngakho konke ukuxhumana komphakathi okungeziwe ukucaca kokuba wedwa kuba mfiphane. Ngemuva kwakho konke lokhu kuhlangana okuseduze nokufa nabanye abantu abalele embhedeni, siyanyakaziswa, kepha asisashukunyiswa. Yonke imibuzo ebalulekile ihlala ingaphenduliwe, yize ngokuzumayo ingavuleki, ingaphansi kokuhle kunalokho ebivele emasontweni ambalwa edlule. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, inkinga yaba "umphumela wokubuka konke" omkhulu futhi sathola umbono obanzi kakhulu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, sisebenzise iningi lesimo esibucayi saphoqeleka ukwamukela ukubaluleka okusha. Impilo ephansi esetshenziswayo yaba nokuheha kwayo, kepha iningi lethu kumele livume ukuthi iphupho lokuphila okuncane laba likhulu kakhulu kithi. Futhi manje siyaphinda sivele, sinqobe okwesikhashana phezu kokugula nokuzehlukaniswa, kepha nokho sizizwe sinqotshiwe. Ukudela izinkolelo-ze zakudala kwakungeyona into ebuhlungu kangako, kepha ukulahla amathemba amasha ngokushesha okukhulu — kubuhlungu.

Eqinisweni, kungaba khona igagasi lesibili losizi lapho sibona ukuthi asibuyeli ekuphileni, kodwa ukufa. Lokho “ukubuyela kokujwayelekile” empeleni kungasho iqiniso elikhungathekisa umphefumulo lezimpilo zethu eziyisidina, ezingenanjabulo ezazisicindezele ekuhluphekeni okuhamba kancane kudala ngaphambi kokuba ubhadane luhlasele. Ukulila okunzima, okukodwa kwenhlekelele noma ukulila okuphindaphindwayo kwemihlangano esabekayo yangoMsombuluko ekuseni — njengoba sibuyela emsebenzini, singaba nobunzima bokunquma ukuthi yini embi kakhulu.

Ngakho-ke, ingabe ikhona imikhuba engasisiza ukweqa lesi sikhala esiphansi phakathi kokudala nokusha okujwayelekile, ubuntu bethu obudala nobusha? Lokho kusenza sibe nomuzwa wokuthi ngandlela thile le nkinga “ibifanele”?

Okokuqala, singathola ukuholwa okuwusizo ekuhlanganisweni kweziboshwa. Ngaphambi kokukhishwa, umsebenzi owodwa obalulekile okufanele wenziwe yokusungula : hlola izimpahla zakho, izinsizakusebenza ezingokomzwelo, ukuqina kobudlelwano, kanye namakhono akho amadala namasha, ukuze wazi ukuthi yini ongayisingatha, nokuthi yiziphi izimo ongafuna ukuzigwema ngemuva kokungena kabusha.

Okwesibili, vuma ukuthi ukukhiywa phansi kungenzeka kube yinto ehlukumezayo nokuthi kungenzeka ukuthi uphethwe yisifo sokucindezeleka kwangemva kwenhlekelele, ukukhathazeka okuhlabayo okuqhubeka ngaphandle kwesizathu. Yisho leyo mizwa bese uyixoxa nozakwenu noma nabangane. Ukuhlukumezeka kwesinye isikhathi kungavumela “ukukhula kwangemva kokuhlukumezeka,” ekugcineni kuholele emazingeni aphezulu okuthuthuka kobuntu, okufana nenkambiso yaseJapan yaseKintsugi, ukulungiswa kwezitsha zobumba eziphukile. Esikhundleni sokufihla imifantu, iyaziqhakambisa, iphinde iyenze iphelele leyo nto futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ibe “nomlando wayo ophukile,” njengoba isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uScott Barry Kaufman sikubeka kahle endatshaneni yakhe ethi “Ukuthola Injongo Nokusungula Ebunzimeni.” UKaufman ucaphuna ucwaningo olubonisa ukuthi amaphesenti angama-61 abesilisa namaphesenti angama-51 abesifazane e-United States babika okungenani isigameko esisodwa esibuhlungu esikhathini sabo sokuphila, futhi uphakamisa ukuthi amandla omuntu okusimama abalulekile. UKaufman uveza ukuthi esinye isihluthulelo sokukhula okwenzeka ngemuva kwenhlekelele yikhono lokuhlola ngokuphelele imicabango, imizwa, nemizwa esabekayo kunokuzivimbela noma "ukuzilawula." Labo abanamazinga aphansi okuthiwa “ukugwema okwenzeka” babika amazinga aphezulu kakhulu okukhula nenjongo empilweni.

Okwesithathu, nika umuntu isipho . Ngokuyithola, omunye umuntu uzokuqinisekisa ukuthi ungubani futhi akusize uzithobe kabusha. Ukuphana izipho kuyindlela ephumelelayo yokuvuselela ubudlelwano ngaphandle kokulindela ukubuyiselwa kodwa ukwamukelwa. Futhi kuyindlela enhle yokugcina umusa nokucabanga abaningi bethu abaye babhekana nabo ngesikhathi sokuvalwa. Akumangazi ukuthi imibukiso efana no-Lee Mingwei's “Gifts and Rituals” no-1: 1 Concert series, lapho omunye umculi ayenandisa izilaleli zomuntu ngamunye ngesikhathi esisodwa, yajabulela ukuthandwa kakhulu ngesikhathi senhlekelele. Kokubili kwakuyizipho: ukusondelana nokunakwa, izinsiza zomuntu eziyigugu kakhulu.

Ekugcineni, zibaze futhi zivikele isikhala sokukhunjulwa , ngokwazisa izinkumbulo ezisuka enkingeni nokuhlala isikhathi eside ngemizwa exubile ongase ube nayo. Lokhu kungaba ukuzindla kwansuku zonke noma umkhuba wokushicilela. Noma imuphi umsebenzi ojwayelekile, noma ngabe mncane kangakanani, uzosiza. Khomba izinto ozifundile ngesikhathi senhlekelele ofuna ukuziqhubekela phambili, uzibhale phansi, futhi uzisonge ngokoqobo njengezipho. Zigcine endaweni ephephile, futhi lapho isikhathi silungile ngolunye usuku, zikhiphe bese umangale ngamandla akho okuthi ungasindi kuphela ebunzimeni obukhona kodwa wakwazi ukuzibuyisela kabusha — uphinde ungene phambili.