Ukukhathazeka Kobudlelwano, Ukungazethembi, Nokunamathiselwe

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Izimvemvane ekuqaleni kobudlelwano obusha zijwayelekile. Ukuthemba ukuthi ukukhanga kungokwesibili kungaba okujabulisayo nokucindezelayo.

Kodwa ngemuva kwesigaba sokuqala sokuqomisana, uma umuntu eqhubeka nokuzizwa ekhathazekile nomlingani wakhe, kungaba uphawu lokuthile okuhlukile. Ngeshwa, abantu abaningi bazibeka icala ngokukhathazeka kwabo, bekubeka ekungavikelekeni komuntu siqu noma isitayela sokunamathisela esingavikelekile. Kodwa lokhu akuhlali kunjalo.

Ukungazethembi kungumuntu, futhi ukwazi komuntu ngokungazethembi kwakhe ngokuvamile kunempilo. Umuntu obona futhi amukele amaphutha akhe ujwayele ukuzazi nokuqonda. Isibonelo, uMia unamahloni ngezinkinga zakhe zezezimali. Utshela umlingani wakhe omusha ukuthi uzizwa engafanele mayelana nokuphathwa kwemali futhi, muva nje, uhlele umhlangano nomeluleki wezezimali. Uzakwethu omusha uyasiqonda futhi uyasisekela isinqumo sakhe sokuzama nokwenza ngcono.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umlingani osebenzisa ukungazethembi ukuthethelela okungalungile ebudlelwaneni angaba nenkinga. Isibonelo, uRachel uthi kuTaylor, “Ngiyazethemba izinto. Umlingani wami wokugcina wangikhohlisa, ngakho-ke nganginomngane ukukulandela uye ekilabhini ukuze akubuke. Kungenxa yokuthi ngiyakhathala. ” Ukusebenzisa ubunzima besikhathi esidlule ukuthethelela ukuphathwa kabi kwamanje kozakwethu ifulegi elibomvu. Ukudlala isisulu ukuze sigweme ukuziphendulela ebudlelwaneni kuhluke ngokuphelele kunokuthola ukusilela nokuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo.

Umuntu futhi angazibuza ukuthi isitayela sakhe sokunamathisela siyimbangela yokukhathazeka maqondana nobudlelwano obusha. Umuntu onobunzima bokuthemba umlingani othembekile futhi ovame ukuphendula ngokuzivikela, angaba nesitayela sokunamathisela esingavikelekile. Ukuqonda ukuthambekela kokunamathiselwe kungahle kudideke kepha uma umuntu ecabanga ngobuhlobo bakhe obuningana phakathi kwabantu futhi ehlangabezana nemizwa enzima futhi engakhululeki njengokuzisola, ukuba nonembeza, ukuzwelana, ukuqonda, ukuba sengozini, kanye nokuzazi, angahle ahlakaniphe ngokomzwelo . Ukuvuma iphutha kalula, ukubhekana nokuzisola kwangempela, nokuthatha igxathu elibucayi lokulungisa uqhekeko ebudlelwaneni kungakhombisa ngokuqhubekayo ukuthi umuntu usebenza esisekelweni esiqinile somzwelo. Lokhu kuqina ngokomzwelo kuvame ukubangelwa isitayela sokunamathisela esiphephile.

Ngakho-ke, uma umuntu azi ngokungavikeleki, futhi enesitayela sokunamathisela okuphephile, ukukhathazeka kungaba ngumphumela wokubandakanyeka kwakhe nomlingani ongatholakali ngokomzwelo. Umlingani ongatholakali ngokomzwelo uvame ukungabi nonembeza. Izenzo ezingazweli zivame ukwenzeka ngesikhathi senqubo yokuqomisana futhi yize lezi zimo zingabonakala njengezenzeko ezincane, zivame ukuthinta umuntu ngokomzwelo.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma umlingani ebeka isenzo sakhe sokungazweli, ajikele isimo, amsole ngokuthi "uzwela kakhulu" noma "akazethembi," lowo muntu angaba nokukhathazeka okukhulu. Ukuzizwa unamahloni ngokusabela okunamandla ekoneni komlingani wakho kulinga umuntu ukuthi axolele umlingani ngokushesha bese esola.

Isibonelo, uLisa ubhalela umlingani wakhe, uMike, ngoMgqibelo ekuseni, nokho uMike akaphenduli. Ngemuva kwamahora ambalwa, uLisa uqala ukukhathazeka kakhulu. Uyazigxeka ngokuzizwa ekhathazekile. Mhlawumbe uMike ubenezimo eziphuthumayo emndenini noma kufanele aye emsebenzini, kucabanga uLisa. Ufinyelela kubangani abambalwa abanethemba lokuqoqa iqembu lesidlo sasemini. Akekho ophendulayo. Izibalo zikaLisa zokukhathazeka. Ukhathazeka ngokuthi uMike wayeka ukumkhathalela futhi uzizwa enamahloni ngokuzizwa engavikelekile.

Ngemuva kwamahora ambalwa, uLisa unquma ukususa ingqondo yakhe kulesi simo ngokuyogijima. Njengoba egijima eduzane nedolobha, ubona imoto kaMike iphambi kwendawo ekhiqizwa kuyo utshwala. Isisu sakhe siyehla futhi uzizwa ecindezeleke kakhulu.

Lapho uLisa efika ekhaya, uthola umqhafazo ovela kuMike. Ukhombisa ukuthi uye ku-brunch futhi wasala ebuka umdlalo. Ubuye axoxe indaba ehlekisayo ngabangani bakaLisa abahlekisa ngoseva endaweni yokudlela. ULisa uzizwa enesicanucanu. Inhliziyo yakhe iyagijima futhi izandla zakhe ziyaxakaniseka. Ubuza uMike, “Kungani ungangimemanga?” UMike uthi ngokunganaki, “ngoba awulithandi ibhola. Ungaphatheki kabi. Ungabi njalo. Uzwela kakhulu. Kumele ngihambe. Nginezinhlelo zokudla kwakusihlwa noRobby. ”

Emangele, uLisa uzama ukugcina umbono. ULisa uzama ukubona isimo ngombono kaMike. “Akadingeki ukuba angimemele kukho konke,” ezitshela. “Mhlawumbe uzama ukwazi abangane bami ngoba uyangithanda ngempela,” kucabanga yena. Ukuzama ukusidlala kupholile, uyekela ukusho lesi sigameko kuMike futhi. Yize kunjalo uyaqhubeka nokuthola ukukhathazeka ngoMike bese ezikhuza ngokuzizwa engavikelekile futhi ekhathazekile.

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