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Abazali bakhathazeka ngokuthi amadodakazi abo ahlala ebonakala ecindezelekile futhi ecindezelekile. Kuyavela, iningi likhona. Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukwanda okwethusayo ekukhathazekeni nasekucindezelekeni okutholwa amantombazane kusukela eneminyaka eyishumi kuya ekolishi.

Uma unendodakazi, uyazi: Bangaphansi kwengcindezi enkulu yokwenza kahle esikoleni, ukuba nobudlelwano nomphakathi nokwamukelwa, ukubukeka umuhle — noma iyiphi yazo ngezinye izikhathi engadala lokho okuzwakala njengokucindezela kokukhubazeka noma ukukhathazeka.

Ngokuya ngocwaningo olusha lwePew Center, intsha eyisikhombisa kwabayishumi ibona ukukhathazeka nokudangala njengenkinga enkulu phakathi kontanga abaneminyaka ephakathi kuka-13 kuya ku-17. .namathuba amaningi okuthi bangakhathazeka kakhulu ngokungena esikoleni abazikhethele sona. ” Ucwaningo lweSikhungo luqinisekisa “ingxenye enkulu yamantombazane kunabafana abathi bavame ukuzizwa bekhathazekile noma besaba ngosuku lwabo (amaphesenti angama-36 uma kuqhathaniswa namaphesenti angama-23, ngokulandelana, bathi bazizwa ngale ndlela nsuku zonke noma cishe nsuku zonke).”

Ukwengeza nokugcwala ngaphansi kwalabo bacindezeli yizinkathazo ngokuxhashazwa, ukuluthwa yizidakamizwa nokusetshenziswa kotshwala, ubudlelwano nabafana, futhi, ngokuqondakalayo, ukudutshulwa esikoleni nokuthi yini ezwakala njengokuxokozela njalo kwezindaba ezingezinhle. Kumantombazane amancane, iningi lawo elithambekele ekucabangeni ngokweqile ngesimo noma isehlakalo, ingcindezi ingazizwa ingapheli.

Buza noma iyiphi intokazi omaziyo, futhi angakutshela ukuthi uzizwa ekhathazekile emcimbini, noma ucindezelwe ukungavumelani abenakho nomngani wakhe omkhulu. Angethuswa yinkulumo okufanele ayenze ekilasini noma isivivinyo azizwa ekulungele ukusithatha. Noma angaba novalo ngalokho azokubona ngokuzayo lapho evula iSnapchat noma i-Instagram. Kungenzeka acindezeleke noma akhathazeke ngokuncintisana kwezemidlalo okuzayo noma ukusebenza komculo, noma ngokuthi wenzeni ngomfana omphishekelayo (noma ongekho).

Uma unendodakazi, kufanele uzibuze, "Kunganjani konke lokhu kucindezeleka nokukhathazeka kube kuhle, kuze kuzuze?" Njengomzali oseziseleni futhi owamukela ukuqhuma, ukuncibilika, ukucasula, noma ukuthula, kufanele futhi uzibuze, "Ngingasiza kanjani ngempumelelo?"

Ingcindezi Nokukhathazeka “Ngamawele Omndeni”

Indodakazi yakho ingase izonde ukuzizwa ucindezelekile noma ukhathazekile; angabona izimpendulo ezinamandla kuphela njengesifo. Kepha akuyona into embi ngempela. Kubalulekile ukuthi uqale uqonde ukuthi ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka kudlala kanjani indima ekusebenzeni kwansuku zonke kwanoma ngubani. Yize ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka kuvame ukuhlangana ezingqondweni zabantu futhi kusetshenziswe ngokushintshana, abazali bangasiza amadodakazi abo ukuzisebenzisela kokubili ukuzuzisa.

Yazi ukuthi le mizwa “engemihle”, nempendulo yemvelo yomzimba yokuzivikela, ingaboshelwa okuhle. Lisa Damour, umbhali we Ngaphansi Kwengcindezi: Ukubhekana Nobhadane Lokucindezeleka Nokukhathazeka Emantombazaneni, kubhekiswa ekucindezelekeni nasekukhathazekeni ngokuthi "amawele omndeni ... bobabili abathandi ngokwengqondo." Uchaza ukucindezeleka ngokuthi “ukuzwa ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo noma kwengqondo noma ukungezwani,” nokukhathazeka ngokuthi “umuzwa wokwesaba, ukwesaba, noma ukwethuka.”

Ukuthi ingcindezi nokukhathazeka sekuwumqedazwe wamantombazane asencane akusho ukuthi ingcindezi nokukhathazeka akunakusiza — noma kube kuhle — ikakhulukazi uma siziqamba kabusha njengethuluzi lokuhamba ngendlela efanele, esikhundleni semizwa emibi esesibambile emuva. UDamour wenza la maphuzu awakhumbule njengoba usiza indodakazi yakho:

• Kungaba lula ukubaleka lapho kuqala uphawu lokucindezeleka noma ukukhathazeka. Kepha ngokufundisa amadodakazi ethu ukubhekana nezimo ezicindezelayo, siwasiza akhe amandla okuqina.
• Ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka kuyimikhiqizo yokuphuma endaweni yakho yokunethezeka. Ukusebenza ngaphezu kwendawo yabo yokuhlala kusiza amantombazane ukuba akhule, ikakhulukazi lapho ethatha izinselelo ezintsha.
• Ukuhlaziya isimo esikhiqiza ukukhathazeka namadodakazi kubasiza ukuthi bahlole kangcono ukuthi ngabe bathatha ngamawala yini ukuthi kubi kangakanani noma kubukela phansi amandla abo okubhekana nakho.

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