I-Sober Summer!

Kulabo abazama ukunciphisa ukuphuza kwabo noma ukuphuza ngokweqile, isikhathi sasehlobo nemikhosi eminingi ehambisana nakho kungagcwele isilingo. Izidakwa eziningi ezingaphuzile zizobika ukuthi isimo sezulu esifudumele, imigoqo yangaphandle, ukuhlangana kwemindeni, amaholide, ulwandle, imicimbi yezemidlalo, njll. Kungabuyisa izinkumbulo "zezinsuku ezinhle" .Nokho, inkumbulo yezidakwa ifana neTeflon : konke okuhlangenwe nakho okungekuhle kubukeka sengathi kuyashibilika futhi basele nenhlobo yothando yezinsuku zabo zokuphuza. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi izidakwa ezingaphuzile zihlale zixhumene nohlelo lwazo lokululama, ziye ekwelashweni, zithole ukwelashwa ngezimo ezikhona ngokubambisana (ukukhathazeka , ukudangala, njll.) futhi basebenzela ukwenza kabusha uhlelo lwabo lokuhlangana nalezi zikhathi ezivusa amadlingozi. Ukululama otshwaleni kuvumela abantu ukuthi bashintshe izinkumbulo zabo zokudakwa ngezinto ezintsha abazitholile. Baqala ukuzethemba emakhonweni abo okuxhumana nabantu futhi babone ukuthi impilo yabo esangulukile igcwele injabulo nokuzibuza — kepha manje bangaba khona okwamanje futhi bayikhumbule.

Kubaphuzi abajwayelekile, lesi sikhathi sonyaka kungenzeka singabi yinkinga. Kepha kulabo abaphuza inkinga, lesi kungaba yisikhathi lapho ukuphuza kwabo kugqame kakhulu noma bavele bahlangane nesixuku. Izidakwa eziningi zibika ukuthi noma yisiphi isenzakalo kungaba izaba zokuphuza nokuthi kulula ukusola ukulwa kwazo kulo mcimbi. Ngoba abaphuza umphakathi bangaphuza ngaphezu kokujwayelekile ngale mikhosi yasehlobo, bangase babe nomuzwa wokuthi bangakwazi “ukudedela” baphuze ngendlela abafuna ngayo ukuphuza ngaphandle kokuzigodla. Kulabo okungenzeka ukuthi bazamile ukufihla ukuphuza kwabo noma ukuphuza ngasese ekhaya ngaphambi noma ngemuva komcimbi, lokhu kungaba yithuba lokuzwa ukuthi bazofanelana nalezi zigcawu zokuphuza ngokweqile. Kodwa-ke, abaningi basagcina beziphoxa bedakiwe lapho abanye bephuza kakhulu futhi benza isithembiso futhi sokuthi ngeke baphinde baphuze okungako. Labo abaphika inkinga yomngani wabo noma othandekayo nabo bangasola umcimbi noma "indawo evulekile" emshadweni njengesizathu sokuthi umuntu ophuza inkinga aphuze kakhulu. Eqinisweni, abanye banomuzwa wokuthi umshado awubhekwa njengomshado osezingeni elifanele ngaphandle uma kunendawo evulekile. Okusixakayo ukuthi uma kunikezwa utshwala obuningi, izivakashi azigxili kakhulu emcimbini futhi umcimbi uba "okhohlwayo" ngokwengeziwe.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, siphila esikhathini sobuchwepheshe lapho amakhompyutha nokuthumelelana imiyalezo sekuyinsakavukela ngokwezokuxhumana. Ngakho-ke, kumayelana nokuthi lapho benikezwa ithuba lokuxhumana ubuso nobuso, abaningi bagwema ukungakhululeki kokukhuluma nomuntu abangamazi ngokunatha iziphuzo ezimbalwa. Imicimbi yomphakathi ingaba ngamathuba wokuxhumana nabanye, ukuhlangana nabantu, nokujabulela umzuzu, kepha lapho kufakwa utshwala ku-equation lawo mathuba angalahleka. Iqiniso ukuthi enye indlela yokuthola ukuzethemba emphakathini ukugwema ukuphuza, ukuhlala nokungakhululeki futhi uzijwayeze ukukhuluma nomuntu ongamazi.

Nawa amanye amathiphu wokuzijabulisa obumnene ngesikhathi sasehlobo!

1. Beka imikhawulo ngokuya kwesikhathi esichithwa ezindaweni zokuphuza kakhulu.

2. Letha umngane noma omunye othandekayo emsebenzini womphakathi ukuze uthole ukwesekwa okwengeziwe.

3. Khetha ukungayi emicimbini ezokwandisa amathuba ongawaphuza.

4. Shiya umcimbi kusenesikhathi.

5. Qiniseka ukuthi unezinto zokuhamba ezizokuvumela ukuthi ushiye umcimbi kusenesikhathi uma kunesidingo.

6. Yiba nomngane ongamshayela usizo ngesikhathi somcimbi futhi uthathe "isikhathi sokuphuma."

7. Gwema ukuchitha isikhathi nobudlelwano "obunobuthi".

8. Prakthiza amasu okunciphisa ukucindezelwa ngalesi sikhathi sonyaka (okungukuthi, ukuzivocavoca, ukuzindla, ukubhucungwa, njll.).

9. Chitha isikhathi nabangane bakho emisebenzini engeke ifake utshwala.

10. Thembeka ngemizwa yakho nabanye.

11. Gwema "abantu abathokozisayo," ngoba lokhu kubandakanya ukuzama ukugcina abanye abantu bejabule ngenkathi ungazinaki izidingo zakho.

12. Dedela okulindelwe nemibono yabanye. Uma unobudlelwano obunempilo, lapho-ke bazohlonipha izinqumo zakho.

13. Bamba iqhaza emisebenzini yasehlobo oyithandayo engabandakanyi utshwala futhi umeme abangani.

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