Ingabe Ulwela Ukungabi Nenzalo? Kulungile Ukuzizwa Ukhathazekile

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• Amaphuzu abalulekile
• Ukuzisola Kuvamile
• Okuhlangenwe nakho kokungazali kuyacindezela
• Ukukhathazeka Ukufundwa Okubalulekile
• Ukunganqikazi Okungapheli: Phakathi kwedwala nendawo enzima

Amaphuzu abalulekile

• Abantu bavame ukuba nezeluleko ezinenhloso enhle kulabo abanenkinga yokungabi nenzalo, kepha kaningi kungaba yingozi kakhulu kunokuba lusizo.
• Ukuzibeka icala kuvamile lapho othile elwa nokungazali.
• Ukubhekana nokungabi nenzalo kuyinqubo ecindezelayo.
• Ngokuqinisekisa ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka okuhambisana nokungazali, kungasiza ukunciphisa ukukhathazeka kwesibili, noma ukukhathazeka ngokukhathazeka.

"Abesifazane abasezindaweni zempi bakhulelwe."

Abantu babenazo zonke izinhlobo zezeluleko kanye namazwana kimi ngenkathi ngibhekene nokungabi nenzalo, futhi lesi ngesinye sezitatimende eziwusizo kakhulu umuntu ake asho kimi. Umelaphi wayephendula ngokwesaba kwami ​​ukuthi ukukhathazeka kwami ​​ngandlela thile kwakuyimbangela yokungakwazi kwami ​​ukukhulelwa, futhi wayenginikeza isheke langempela.

Lapho umuntu ezama ukukhulelwa, abantu abanezinhloso ezinhle babonakala bephuma okhunini bezonikeza izeluleko. Imishwana efana nokuthi, "khululeka nje kuzokwenzeka" noma "ukhathazeka ngalokhu ngokweqile" ivame ukuba yinto ejwayelekile. Abantu bazocaphuna izindaba zomuntu abamaziyo owazama imijikelezo eminingi ye-IVF, futhi kwaba kuphela lapho “beyeka” (futhi bebebonakala bengakhathazekile kangako) lapho bakwazi khona ukukhulelwa bebodwa.

Ukuzisola Kuvamile

"Kuyiphutha lami ukuthi angikwazi ukukhulelwa."

Ngivame ukuzwa lo muzwa kumakhasimende ami alwa nokungabi nenzalo. Kwabanye, kungahle kube nesizathu esisobala sokuthi kungani kunzima ukukhulelwa, kwabanye, kungaba yimfihlakalo. Imibhangqwana yabobulili obufanayo nalabo abazama ukukhulelwa bodwa bangabhekana nezinye izimo eziningi ezicindezelayo.

Lapho othile elwa nokungazali, kungazizwa kungasalawuleki ngokuphelele. Kujwayelekile ukuthi umuntu azifune ngaphakathi kwakhe ukuthola izimpendulo zokuthi kungani kwenzeka lokhu. Abesifazane, ikakhulukazi, basengozini enkulu yokuzibeka icala ngalesi sikhathi. Bazisola ngokwabo ngokuba badala kakhulu, ngokusebenzisa izinto eziningi kakhulu besebancane, ngokuba nesisindo esikhulu ngokweqile, ukukhipha isisu esedlule, ngokuba sesikhathini eside kakhulu, ngokudla ama-carbs amaningi ... ngokuyisisekelo, akukho lutho olucishiwe -imikhawulo.

Okuhlangenwe nakho kokungazali kuyacindezela

Futhi-ke kukhona ukucindezeleka. Manje sengiyabona ukuthi ngangingeyedwa ekugxekeni izinkinga zami zokuzala ngokukhathazeka kakhulu. Kuvela kaninginingi namakhasimende ami, futhi kubo, ngithi, “Bekungeke kwenzeke hhayi ukucindezelwa ngalesi sikhathi! ”

Lapho othile enenkinga enzima yokukhulelwa, kungaba yingcindezi enkulu. Uma bedlulele ekwelashweni kokuzala, imvamisa kufaka phakathi ukuqapha okuvamile kwemiphumela ye-ultrasound nemiphumela yelebhu, futhi mhlawumbe nokubandakanyeka kolunye uvivinyo lwezokwelapha. Izinhlelo eziningi zokuzala zabantu azikaze zikhuthazelele ukuhlolwa okunjalo.

Imithi yokwelashwa ivame ukubandakanya imijovo yansuku zonke yezidakamizwa ezibizayo kanye nokuvakashelwa lapho kubekwa khona odokotela ababizayo. Ukwenza izinto zibe zimbi kakhulu, okuningi kwalokhu kungenzeka kungakhokhelwa umshwalense. Izibalo zivame ukuxoxwa: “Uma sibuyisa ___ inani lamaqanda futhi okungenani ___izigaxa zivundiswa zikhule zibe imibungu, amathuba ukuthi leyo mibungu, ___ izoba ngokujwayelekile ngokwezakhi zofuzo futhi uzoba namathuba amaphesenti ama- __ okukhulelwa ngemuva kwalomzuliswano. ”

Futhi, kungenzeka kanjani ukuthi omunye umuntu angakhathazeki futhi acindezeleke ngalezi zinto ezenziwa?

Ngakho-ke, lapho umuntu onezinhloso ezinhle etshela umuntu ohlanganyela ekwelashweni kokuzala ukuthi aphumule, kungaholela emizweni yokungasebenzi ngokweqile nokusolwa. Okubi kakhulu ukuthi lapho umuntu ezwa sengathi ulimaza amathuba akhe okukhulelwa ngenxa yengcindezi yakhe, uba nokukhathazeka ngokukhathazeka kwakhe, noma ukukhathazeka kwesibili.

Ngenkathi kunjalo, kuwumqondo omuhle kulabo abahlangabezana nokungabi nenzalo ukuzama ukwenza imisebenzi yokwehlisa ingcindezi, kufanele baqaphele ngenhloso yabo. Ukungakhathazeki kakhulu kuzokwenza yonke inqubo ibekezeleleke, kepha kubalulekile ukuthi ungasibophi isidingo sokuqeda ukucindezeleka namathuba okuba nomphumela ophumelelayo.

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