Amaqhinga amaNarcissist asebenzisa ukuthola amandla

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• Ukuzethemba KwamaNarcissists
• Amacebo Asetshenziselwe Ukugcina Ukuzithwebula, Ukuzethemba, Namandla
• I-Hypervigilance
• Iyaskena
• Izindawo ezikhethiwe kanye nobudlelwano
• Ukuzethemba Okubalulekile Okufundwayo
• Ukuzethemba Kwakho Kungenzeka Konakalisa Ubuhlobo Bakho

Ngokwezinga elithile, iningi lethu lifisa ukuthuthukisa isimo sethu senhlalo nokuzethemba, kepha abakwa-narcissists bazizwa bephoqelekile ukwenza njalo. Ucwaningo lwamuva luphethe ngokuthi ukukhathazeka kwabo njalo. Ngaphezu kwabantu abaningi, babheka kwabanye ukuthola “umthetho wokuzichaza nokuzethemba; kukhuphuke noma kwehlise ukuzihlola kwakho ..., ”ngokusho kwe- Incwajana Yokuhlola Nezibalo Yezinkinga Zengqondo . Ukuzethemba kwabo kuyashintshashintsha phakathi kwehaba lokwehla kwamandla emali nokwehla kwamandla emali.

AbakwaNarcissist bamatasa nokuphatha ukuzethemba kwabo, isithombe sabo, ukubukeka kwabo, nezinga labo emphakathini. Babona umhlaba nabo ngokwabo ngokwesimo sobukhosi, lapho bephakeme khona kanti abanye baphansi.

Engqondweni yabo, ukuphakama kwabo okucatshangelwayo kubanika amalungelo akhethekile abanye abangawafanele. Izidingo zabo, imibono yabo, nemizwa yabo kuyabalwa, kuyilapho okwabanye kungenzi noma kwenza ezingeni eliphansi nje. Banemiqondo emikhulu yokuncoma ubukhulu babo, lapho bekhanga kakhulu, banethalente, banamandla, bahlakaniphile, banamandla kunabo bonke, futhi bacebe kakhulu.

Ukuzethemba KwamaNarcissists

Ukuzethemba kukhombisa ukuthi sicabanga kanjani ngathi. Ekuvivinyweni okuningi, ama-narcissist athole amaphuzu aphezulu ekuzethembeni kwazise ama-narcissist amakhulu ane-self-image esontekile. Ngokwesiko, ukuzethemba okuphezulu kwe-grandiose narcissist kwathathwa njenge-façade yehlazo elingaphansi. Ukungazethembi kwabo kwakuvame ukuvezwa kuphela kuzilungiselelo zokwelashwa. Muva nje abacwaningi bayiphikisile leyo mbono. Kodwa-ke, izivivinyo ezincike ekubikeni kwakho uqobo azikwazi ukuvusa izinkolelo nezinqubo ezibangelwa izimo zengqondo zokuziphatha kanye nokuziphatha noma lokho okubonwe kuzilungiselelo zomtholampilo.

Isibonelo, ngokusho komshana kaDonald Trump (futhi okuqinisekiswe ngudadewabo), wayehlala enza amanga. Uthi “bekuyindlela yokuzikhulisa eyenzelwe ukukholisa abanye abantu ukuthi ungcono kunaye.” AmaNarcissists akhonjisiwe ukuthi aqamba amanga lapho ehlolwa. Kodwa-ke, lapho abacwaningi bebafaka esivivinyweni se-polygraph lapho kutholakala ukuthi kuzobakhombisa kabi kubo, abazange baqambe amanga, futhi izibalo zabo zokuzethemba zehla ngokuphawulekayo. (Bheka i- "Sons of Narcissistic Fathers.")

Abantu bavame ukucabanga ukuthi "ukuzethemba okuphezulu" kufanelekile. Kodwa-ke, ukwazisa okuncike emibonweni yabanye akukhona ukuzethemba wena, kodwa “okunye ukuzethemba.” Ngikholwa ukuthi ukuzethemba okungenangqondo nokunye okuxhomeke kokunye akunampilo futhi ngincamela ukuchaza ukuzethemba kwakho ngokuthi kunempilo noma kukhubazekile. Ukuzethemba okungakhubazekile kuholela ekuzivikeleni, ezinkingeni zokusebenzelana nabanye nezobungcweti, nakwabasebenza ngama-narcissist, nolaka futhi.

Ukuzethemba okuphezulu kwabakwa-narcissists kuyadukisa, ngenxa yokuthi kuvame ukugcwala futhi akuhlobene neqiniso lenhloso. Ngokwengeziwe, intekenteke futhi ihlulwe kalula. Ukuzethemba okunempilo kuzinzile futhi akusebenzi kangako emvelweni. Akuyona eyokulandelana futhi akususelwa ekuzizweni uphakeme kunabanye. Futhi ayihlotshaniswa nolaka nezinkinga zobudlelwano, kepha okuphambene nalokho. Abantu abanokuzethemba okunempilo abanalo ulaka futhi banezingxabano ezimbalwa zobudlelwano. Bayakwazi ukuyekethisa futhi bazwane.

Amacebo Asetshenziselwe Ukugcina Ukuzithwebula, Ukuzethemba, Namandla

Iqiniso lokuthi abakwa-narcissist baziqhayisa, benza ihaba, futhi baqamba amanga ngobukhulu babo nokuzithemba kwabo kusikisela ukuthi bazama ukuzikholisa ukufihla ukuzenyanya okufihliwe nemizwa yokuzenyeza. Amahloni abo afihlekile nokungavikeleki kuqhuba ukungaziphathi nokuziphatha kwabo maqondana nokuzazi, ukuzethemba, ukubukeka namandla. Basebenzisa amaqhinga ahlukahlukene:

I-Hypervigilance

AmaNarcissist azwela ngokwedlulele ekusongelweni kwesithombe sawo futhi anake ngokucophelela izinkomba ezingawuthinta emehlweni abanye. Balwa kanzima ukulawula ukuzimela kwabo ngokucabanga kwabo nangokuziphatha kwabo. Lelisu lidinga umzamo oqhubekayo.

Iyaskena

Okomzuzwana kuya kusikhashana, baskena abanye abantu nezindawo ezibazungezile ukuhlola nokukhuphula izinga labo.

Izindawo ezikhethiwe kanye nobudlelwano

Bakhetha izimo ezizonyusa kunokuba zehlise isithunzi sabo. Ngakho-ke, bayakugwema ukusondelana futhi bafune izindawo zomphakathi, ezisezingeni eliphakeme, zokuncintisana, kanye nezokuphatha ngaphezulu kwezilungiselelo ezisondelene nezilinganayo ngoba zinikeza amathuba amakhulu okuthola isikhundla. Bakhetha ukuthola oxhumana nabo abaningi, abangani, nabalingani ngaphezu kokwakha ubudlelwano obukhona.

Ukuzethemba Okubalulekile Okufundwayo

Ukuzethemba Kwakho Kungenzeka Konakalisa Ubuhlobo Bakho