Imigomo Yokusebenza ngezilimi ezingama-20

Ekuthintweni kothando, wonke umuntu uba yimbongi . UPlato

Noma ngabe ekuqaleni, lapho uthando luzwakala “njengoluthokozisayo injabulo” (Khalil Gibran) kanye no “madness” (uPedro Calderon de la Barca) kanye “nentuthu eyenziwe ngomlilo wokububula” (uWilliam Shakespeare), kuye lapho kudlula izinkathi, ukuluguqula "esimweni somusa" (uGabriel Garcia Marquez) kanye "nokungafi" (uEmily Dickinson), uthando - noma l'amour , noma lyubov , noma ngokuthi yiliphi igama elizulazula emagumbini amane omhlaba - liyindawo ephakeme kakhulu yesimo somuntu. Ibizwe ngamagama amaningi ezindebeni zabathandi nezimbongi, futhi ngomlilo ongaphansi, ohlukaniswe yizibaya zezazi zefilosofi nezososayensi ngokufanayo. Kwezinye izifundiswa, uthando luyimizwa eyisisekelo; isimo sengqondo kanye "necebo" kwabanye; umuzwa nohlelo lokugqugquzela abanye. Iningi lezazi zethiori ziyavuma ukuthi uthando aluyona imizwa eyodwa. Esikhundleni salokho, kuyinhlanganisela noma i-oda lokuqala le-dyad lemizwa eminingi (isb., Injabulo nokwamukelwa), ngezinqubo ze-neurochemical ezibandakanya ama-neurotransmitters namahomoni ahlukahlukene, nokusebenza kwezindawo ezithile ezicebile ze-dopamine zobuchopho ezihambisana nomvuzo nogqozi (isb., i-VTA, i-caudate nucleus), konke okuthinta izindlela zethu zokuqonda nezokuziphatha.

Akuyona nsuku zonke esivuma ukuthanda kwethu kubathandekayo bethu ngamanethi. Noma kunjalo, uthando lusathola izindlela zokushelela buthule ngamagama esiwasebenzisayo ukubhekelana phakathi kwamahora ethu ajwayelekile. Indlela esilubonisa ngayo uthando - kusuka kokungadingeki kuya kokuzincisha, kusuka ekuhlekiseni kuya ekujuleni - kuyahlukahluka. Ukwehluka kuncike ezinkulungwaneni zezici, kufaka phakathi isiko elincane lobudlelwano, kanye nesiko elikhulu lapho uthando lufakwa khona. Imibhangqwana ivame ukuzibandakanya ekukhulumisaneni kwe-idiosyncratic ngosizo lwezisho, iziteketiso, amagama ezilwane kanye namagama othando. Ichazwe ngokuthi "umongo kanye nokusebenza" kunezimpawu zesimilo, imigomo yothando ishiya inqwaba yobuciko bolimi nemicabango yabantu (uBraun, 1988: 10). Noma yiliphi igama lingaphendukela kufomu lekheli futhi noma yiliphi igama lingaba isisho sangasese sokubopha. Ukusetshenziswa kwalolo limi lwangaphakathi kukhonjisiwe ukuthi kuhlotshaniswa namazinga okwenyuka kokwaneliseka kobudlelwano phakathi kwemibhangqwana. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kungasiza ekwakheni ubumbano lobudlelwano kanye nobunikazi. Ukusetshenziswa kwamagama othando nezisho zomuntu siqu kuyamanzi futhi kuguquka njalo, kuya ngesigaba sobudlelwano, ngesifundo esisodwa esikhombisa ukuthi imibhangqwana eminyakeni yabo emihlanu yokuqala yomshado ngaphandle kwezingane yayisebenzisa izisho kakhulu.

Ngicele izikhulumi zomdabu zezilimi ezingama-20 ngamanye amagama othando ajwayelekile asetshenziswa emibhangqwaneni ngezilimi zawo. Nakhu, bemi ngaphansi kwamagama namazwi ahlukene, bekhulumela imizwa efanayo, imizwa, "icebo".

Bese kuthi futhi, kube mnandi njengokuthanda kwethu, kunesikhathi ezinganekwaneni eziningi zothando, lapho umsindo weqoqo elithile lamaqoqo, ukubona ukulandelana okuthile kwezinhlamvu, kugcwaliswa ngomlingo okuyiwona kuphela igama lethu ezithandekayo zingathwala.

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