Icala Lebhizinisi Lethemba: Ukudala Ikusasa Olifunayo

Ukuqala konyaka omusha kuyiphuzu lemvelo ngesikhathi sokuhlola ukuthi ukuphi empilweni nokubeka izinhloso ezithile. Ngokunaka ubumatasa bempilo, ijubane lomsebenzi eliqhubekayo, kanye nomqondo jikelele womhlaba esiphila kuwo, ithemba yikhono elibalulekile lokulithuthukisa.

Ngenkathi abantu abaningi becabanga ngethemba njengomzwelo, abacwaningi balichaza njengethiyori yokuqonda eboshelwe ekubekeni imigomo. Umcwaningi wethemba, uDkt C.R. Snyder, wayevame ukuchaza ithemba ngale nkulumo: “Ungafika lapho usuka lapha.” Ukholelwe ukuthi impilo yakhiwa yizinkulungwane eziningi zezimo ocabanga ngazo futhi uthole ukuthi ungasuka kanjani ePhoyinti A uye ePhoyinti B.

Abantu abanethemba babelana ngezinkolelo ezine eziyinhloko:

1. Ikusasa lizoba ngcono kunamanje;
2. Unezwi lokuthi impilo yakho iqhubeka kanjani;
3. Kunezindlela eziningi zokufinyelela izinhloso zomuntu siqu nezobuchwepheshe; futhi
4. Kuzoba nezingqinamba.

Amazinga aphakeme ethemba axhumene nokungasebenzi kancane, ukukhiqiza ngokwengeziwe, nempilo enkulu nenjabulo. Lesi yisifinyezo solunye locwaningo lwethemba:

Ithemba nobuholi

Abaholi badinga ukuba nekhono ekwakheni ithemba kubalandeli babo. Isampula engahleliwe yabantu abangaphezu kuka-10 000 kwaxoxwa nethimba labacwaningi leGallup Organisation futhi bacelwa ukuba bachaze ngomholi owayenethonya elihle kakhulu empilweni yabo yansuku zonke. Laba balandeli bacelwa ukuthi bachaze lo mholi onethonya ngamagama amathathu. Ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi abalandeli bafuna ukuthi abaholi babo bahlangabezane nezidingo ezine zomqondo: ukuzinza, ukwethembana, ububele nethemba.

Ithemba nokukhiqiza

Ithemba nokukhiqiza kuxhunyiwe. Ngiyasola ukuthi ngezinsuku lapho ufeza khona kakhulu wenza ukuthi ube nomuzwa oqinile wokuthi izinhloso zakho zihlangene kanjani namandla okufeza okufunayo. Ukukhuphuka kwamazinga okukhiqiza kuhumusha kube yimiphumela yebhizinisi. Abathengisi abanethemba bafinyelela kuma-quota abo kaningi, abathengisi bemali mboleko abanethemba bacubungula futhi bavale imali mboleko ethe xaxa, futhi abaphathi abaphethe ithemba bahlangabezana nezinhloso zabo zekota kaningi.

Ithemba, Ukucindezela Nokuqina

Lapho uhlangabezana nengcindezi, usabela kanjani? Abantu abanamazinga aphakeme ethemba ngokuvamile bakhiqiza amasu amaningi wokubhekana ngokuphumelelayo nomcimbi okhiqiza ukucindezeleka futhi baveze amathuba amakhulu okusebenzisa elinye lamasu akhiqiziwe. Abantu abanethemba eliphakeme bayizimo eziguquguqukayo, ezinembile neziphelele; okungukuthi, banokuguquguquka kwengqondo kokuthola izixazululo ezihlukile lapho bengakhishwa endleleni.

Ithemba nokuxhumana komphakathi

Abantu abanamazinga aphakeme ethemba bavame ukuba nokuxhumana okusondelene nabanye abantu ngoba banentshisekelo ezinhlosweni nasezimpilweni zabanye abantu. Ucwaningo lukhombisa nokuthi abantu abanethemba elikhulu banekhono elithuthukisiwe lokuthatha umbono wabanye futhi bakujabulele ukuhlangana nabanye abantu. Amazinga aphakeme ethemba nawo ahlotshaniswa nokusekelwa komphakathi okubonwa kakhulu, amandla ezenhlalo amaningi kanye nesizungu esincane (okutholakele okubalulekile njengoba ucwaningo selukhombisile ukuthi ochwepheshe abaningi balwa nesizungu).

Ithemba inqubo efaka izingxenye ezintathu:

1. Izinjongo: Ithemba lisuselwa ezinhlosweni ezibaluleke kakhulu kithi njengoba silolonga lapho sifuna ukuya khona empilweni nasemsebenzini.
2. I-Ejensi: Leli likhono lethu lokuzwa sengathi singakhipha imiphumela ezimpilweni zethu futhi senze izinto zenzeke.
3. Izindlela: Kuzoba nemizila eminingi ongayithatha ukufeza izinhloso zakho. Ukukwazi ukubona le mizila ehlukene, kanye nezithiyo ezingase zivele, kubalulekile ekuthembeni.

Njengoba ukufaka ithemba kuyisici esibaluleke kangaka sobuholi obuhle, nazi izindlela ezintathu abaholi abangakhuthaza ngazo abalandeli babo:

• Dala futhi ugcine injabulo ngekusasa. Ingabe kukhona iphrojekthi enkulu emkhathizwe? Uyini umbono ophoqayo owupenda abalandeli emsebenzini?
• Siza abalandeli bakho badilize izithiyo ezinqolobaneni, futhi ungafaki ezintsha. Thatha ithuba lokuxoxa ngezithiyo ezithile amalungu eqembu lakho abhekana nazo, bese uba yisisusa sokuwasiza athole izindlela ezintsha ezizungeze izithiyo.
• Setha kabusha izinhloso - noma uphinde uzuze - lapho izimo zifuna njalo. Kwesinye isikhathi umbono wakho wokuqala awusebenzi, futhi abaholi abahle bayazi ukuthi bashintshele nini ku-Plan B.

Ithemba liyakhuthaza. Umeluleki wami uDkt.Shane Lopez uthe kungcono: "Abalandeli babheke kubaholi ukuthi basebenzise umoya nemibono yangaleso sikhathi, baphuphe kakhulu, futhi babashukumisele ekubhekeni ikusasa elinenjongo." Sisidinga kakhulu lesi sikhundla emsebenzini wethu nasemhlabeni wethu.

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UPaula Davis-Laack usebenza nezinhlangano ukuzisiza zakhe abaholi, amaqembu namasiko agile futhi azivumelanise nezimo.