Isizathu Sangempela Abesilisa Abangela Amahlazo Ocansi Aningaphezulu Kwabesifazane

Njengoba amahlazo ezocansi ahlanganisa amadoda anamandla abonakala ethola indawo ejwayelekile (Edwards, Lee, Schwarzenegger, Strauss-Kahn, Weiner, njll.), Abaningi bebelokhu bebuza ukuthi: Kungani amadoda esethubeni elikhulu kunabesifazane ukudala la mahlazo? Kungani, ngamanye amagama, ingabe amadoda azimisele kakhulu kunabesifazane ukuzibeka engcupheni yokulahlekelwa yimisebenzi kanye nemindeni yabo ukuze baqhubeke namathuba amasha okuhlangana?

Imibono kaDarwin yokukhethwa kwemvelo kanye nezocansi inikeza uhlaka oluphoqelela ngokujulile ukuqonda umehluko wezocansi kulokhu okuphoqelelwa ukuphishekela abalingani abasha. Futhi yize iningi lomphakathi lingahle livume ukwamukela, ezingeni elithile, ukuthi lo mehluko wobulili unezimpande zokuziphendukela kwemvelo, kusekhona ukwesaba nokungaqondi okuningi laphaya mayelana nokuthi kungaba yini imiphumela yaleli qiniso.

Lokhu kwesaba nokungaqondi kuyabonakala ezindabeni zakamuva ezimayelana nokuthi kungani amadoda edala amahlazo amaningi kunabesifazane. Kwi New York Times ucezu uSheryl Stolberg uthi, "Kungaba lula ... ukuchitha" umehluko wobulili "njengokuxhumana okwenziwe nge-testosterone, okunentambo eqinile phakathi kocansi namandla." UStolberg uqhubeka echaza umbono wakhe wokuthi umehluko awuwona umkhiqizo we-biology, kodwa weqiniso lokuthi abesifazane abasezikhundleni babucayi kakhulu ngemisebenzi yabo (umbono lapho kubonakala khona ukuthi abukho ubufakazi obuningi). Futhi kokuthunyelwe kwe- Isilayidi , U-Amanda Marcotte uncoma uStolberg "ngokuphatha [ukugwema] isicupho sokuzama ukuthola umehluko omkhulu phakathi kobulili besilisa nabesifazane." Uqhubeka nokunikeza izincazelo zakhe azithandayo: amadoda abangela amahlazo amaningi ngoba kunamadoda amaningi asemandleni (umbono okhishwe kule ndatshana), futhi ngoba abesifazane bazojeziswa kanzima ngokuziphatha okunjalo (okungachazi ukuthi kungani ukujeziswa abesilisa ababhekene nakho kula mahlazo — isb., ukulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi — akukwenzi lukhulu ukubanqanda).

Lo mehluko wobulili esifisweni sabalingani abasha akusho ukuthi abesilisa abanantshisekelo ebudlelwaneni bezocansi besikhathi eside, ngokuphambene nalokho, iningi lamadoda lilwela lobo budlelwano futhi libazisa ngokujulile. Kepha kusho ukuthi noma ngabe ebandakanyekile ebudlelwaneni obunjalo, indoda ejwayelekile izobheka amathuba okuhlangana nabalingani abasha njengaphoqelela kakhulu kunalowo wesifazane ojwayelekile. Futhi amandla alesi silingo ngokuvamile azolingana nesimo sakhe senhlalo, ngoba uma ephakeme isikhundla sakhe, abesifazane bazokhanga kakhulu kuye (futhi, ngezizathu eziyisisekelo zokuziphendukela kwemvelo), namathuba amaningi azoba nawo.

Ngakho-ke indoda esezingeni eliphakeme ivame ukubhekana nenkinga. Ngenkathi amanye amamojula aguqukile ebuchosheni bakhe — ake siwabize ngamamojula akhe "enesithakazelo sesikhathi eside" - emqeqesha ukuthi enze ngezindlela ezizosiza umndeni wakhe, umsebenzi wakhe nedumela lakhe, amanye amamojula aguqukile - amamojula akhe "okulinganisa" - ayamnxusa ukuphishekela amathuba amasha ezocansi. Futhi lawa amamojula wokukhwelana, ngaphandle kokuphikelela ngokuzincengela ngokwawo, angahle aqede amandla okulimaza amamojula wenzalo yesikhathi eside, ngokwenza indoda ibukele phansi futhi yehlise ubungozi obuthintekayo (emndenini, emsebenzini kanye nedumela) kulokho yenjabulo yocansi. Ngakho-ke indoda ingaphoqeleka ukuthi iphishekele lezi zimnandi ngezindlela, kwabanye abantu, ezibukeka zingenangqondo futhi ziyisiphukuphuku ngokumangazayo. ("Kungani emhlabeni angacabanga ukuthi uzokwazi ukubaleka ngalokho?")

Uma uyindoda efuna ukugwema ukonakalisa impilo yakho ngenxa yokulandela amathuba amasha okukhwelana, ithemba lakho elihle kakhulu ukubona ukuthi lapho la mathuba eza ngawo, amamojula obuchopho bakho azokwazi kahle ukuthi afuna ukwenzani, futhi ungazizwa sengathi benza imizamo yobuqhawe yokwenza ukuthi ukwenze. Zingahle zikubangele ukuthi ubukele phansi umonakalo ongabangelwa yizenzo zakho emndenini wakho nasemsebenzini wakho, futhi usebenzise amathuba akho okubalekela noma wokuxolelwa. Ukugwema ukwenza okuthile ongazisola ngakho, qaphela amamojula akho okulinganisa ukuthi ayini, futhi wazi ukuthi azama ukukuncenga ukuba ukwenze. Lolu lwazi luzokhulisa amandla akho wokungabanaki, nokulalela kakhulu izingxenye zobuchopho bakho ezavela ukuze zikusebenzele esikhathini esizayo.

(Uhlobo lwalesi sihloko luvele kukholamu yombhali "Yemvelo Yemithetho" kumagazini wasebhange Umgcini Womhlaba Wonke , Ihlobo kanye nodaba luka-2011).

Copyright Michael E. Intengo 2011. Wonke Amalungelo Agodliwe.