Umthelela Komphakathi Wokuxoxa Ngezihloko ZeTaboo

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• Amaphuzu abalulekile

Amaphuzu abalulekile

• Izihloko zokuzidalula ngesikhathi sokuhlangana kokuqala zingathonya ukuheha komphakathi, komzimba, kanye nomsebenzi.
• Lapho izinkambiso zenhlalo maqondana nezihloko zengxoxo ezifanele zephulwa, abantu abaneliseki kangako ekuhlanganyeleni.
• Abantu abasenza singakhululeki kungenzeka ukuthi bake bazibandakanya ezihlokweni ezingqubuzanayo esikhathini esedlule.

Wazi omaziyo omusha. Ingxoxo imnandi futhi ilula njengoba ekutshela ngomsebenzi wakhe wokugcina, idolobha langakubo nemidlalo ayithandayo. Kuvela ukuthi nobabili nikhulele emadolobheni amancane angenazo izikhumulo zezindiza, nithweswe iziqu emanyuvesi angaphandle kwezwe anamaqembu ebhola anqobayo, futhi manje nihleka ngamashayela amade nobabili enibuye nawo ekhaya ngekhefu lasehlobo. Kepha kungazelelwe, umfutho wobudlelwano ufika kuma okwesikhashana, lapho eqa umugqa. “Sibonga uNkulunkulu sinezinto zokuhamba zomphakathi lapha. Ngesikhathi engisisebenzisa ngemuva kwesondo, angikwazi ukuthola enye i-DUI. Wake wadonswa ngenxa yokushayela uphuzile? ” Akunandaba ukuthi impendulo iyini, intshisekelo yakho yokuqhubeka nengxoxo kungenzeka iphelile.

Ubudlelwano obuningi abusoze babaleke ngoba bususelwa kusenesikhathi ngemibuzo engafanele. Imibuzo engahle ifaneleke uma ubudlelwano sebwakhiwe, kepha hhayi ngaphambili. Ucwaningo luchaza ukuthi kwenzeka kanjani lokhu.

Ukuvela kokuqala nezihloko zengxoxo

UHye Eun Lee et al., Esiqeshini esinesihloko esithi "Imiphumela Yezingxoxo Zengxoxo Yezintatheli Ekufundeni Kwezimvo kanye Nokuhlolwa Komsebenzi Wokusebenza" (2020), [i] uhlolisise ukuthi izihloko zezingxoxo ezingabhalwanga zikuthinta kanjani ukwakheka kokusebenza nokusebenza komsebenzi.

Ukuzama kwabo kufaka nabesifazane abangu-109 abaxhumana nocwaningo lwabesifazane, okukholakala ukuthi ngomunye wabahlanganyeli ocwaningweni. Bathola ukuthi lapho ubumbano lusebenza kahle futhi luxoxa ngezihloko ezifanele, ababambiqhaza bebesethubeni elihle lokuthi bakhe umbono omuhle kakhulu nokuhlola okuhle ngomsebenzi wakhe. U-Lee et al. qaphela ukuthi lapho izinkambiso zenhlalo maqondana nezihloko ezifanele zengxoxo zingalandelwa, abantu abaneliseki kangako ekuhlanganyeleni, futhi bangahlola ukusebenza komsebenzi kwalowo ojwayele ukwephula umthetho ngokubi kakhulu.

Lapho Abantu Bekhuluma I-Taboo

Yiziphi izihloko ezifanelekile, futhi yiziphi izihloko okuyiqiniso ngazo? U-Lee et al. qaphela ukuthi abacwaningi besikhathi esedlule bakholelwa ukuthi emahoreni amabili okuqala engxoxo, uhlu lwezihloko ezingafanele lubandakanya imali engenayo, izinkinga zomuntu, nokuziphatha kocansi. Abantu akunakwenzeka ukuthi bahlole abanye kahle uma bephula lokhu okulindelwe. Bayabona ukuthi izihloko zezingxoxo ezifanele zifaka phakathi imicimbi yamanje, amasiko, ezemidlalo, nezindaba ezinhle, lapho izihloko ezingalungile noma ezingekho emthethweni zifaka phakathi ezocansi, imali, inkolo nezombusazwe.

Esifundweni sabo, uLee et al. kuhlolwe okunye kwalokhu okutholakele, lapho umhlanganyeli wengxoxo ofanele edalula imininingwane yomuntu bese ebuza umhlanganyeli ocwaningweni mayelana nedolobha langakubo, ezinkulu, amakilasi abebehlela ukuwenza semester elandelayo, nokuthi bathanda ukwenzani ngesikhathi sabo esikhululekile. Esimweni sesihloko esingavumelekile, umhlanganyeli waveza imininingwane yakhe futhi wabuza ngezindleko zengubo yalowo obambe iqhaza (izicathulo noma amacici), kanye nemibuzo ngemali ayitholayo, isimo sakhe sothando, isisindo, inkolo, nomlando wokuboshwa (“Bengiphumile emaphathini kule mpelasonto amaphoyisa angimisile! Bengicabanga ukuthi bazongibopha noma kukhona okuthile. Wake waboshwa yini? ”)

U-Lee et al. ithole ukuthi izihloko zokuzidalula ngesikhathi sokuhlangana kokuqala zingathonya ukuheha kwezenhlalo, ngokomzimba, nangomsebenzi, kanye nokwaneliseka ngokuxhumana, nemibono yokusebenza komsebenzi. Akumangalisi ukuthi abahlanganyeli abakhulume ngezihloko ezifanele bakalwa kahle kuzo zonke izinyathelo.

Indlela Ongenza Ngizizwe Ngayo

Abantu abaningi bangacabanga ngabangane noma abantu ababaziyo abazizwa bekhululeke kakhulu ukuba phakathi kwabo; futhi bangacabanga ngalabo abangazenzi. Umuntu osenza singakhululeki ngokumane angene egumbini mhlawumbe uke waziphatha ngendlela engafanele noma engxoxweni esikhathini esedlule.

Ucwaningo lubonakala lufakazela okuhlangenwe nakho okusebenzayo ekuphawuleni ukuthi ikakhulukazi lapho abantu abangabazi bejwayele, izihloko zezingxoxo zibalulekile. Njengoba kuphawulwe ngamafuphi nguLee et al., "Ezinye izihloko empeleni ziyimibhalo."