Lokho u-Alice eWonderland Angasifundisa Kona Ngokuzitholela

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• Thola uthando lwakho ngosuku olulodwa. Ngokuzimisela?
• Zulazule, udunguduke futhi uzulazule

Ngiyayithanda imibukiso yamathalente. Ithalente lomculo, ukuphawula kwamajaji anobuhlakani, umuzwa: Ngiyayithanda yonke. Kodwa kunento eyodwa engicasulayo. Yiseluleko esingahle sichazwe kaningi esinikezwa abantu abaqala umsebenzi wabo, bethi: Ungakwenza kuphela uma wazi kahle ukuthi uyaphi futhi ubeke ingqondo yakho kukho.

Lesi seluleko sisuselwa kunkohliso yokuthi ungahlela kusengaphambili ukuthi ufuna ukuba ngubani. Njengokungathi inhloso yakho izosondela uma ucabanga ngokwanele ngayo futhi ugxile kuyo - njengasencwadini "yokuzisiza" Imfihlo (engicabanga ukuthi kushiwo ngokufanelekile ukuthi kugcinwe kuyimfihlo kangcono).

Thola uthando lwakho ngosuku olulodwa. Ngokuzimisela?

Ngaphandle kweqiniso eliwubuwula lokuthi abazongenela ikhono lamathalente kwesinye isikhathi abanayo enye inhloso ngaphandle kokuthi "badume," angikholelwa kumyalezo waseMelika wokuthi uma ufuna okuthile ngempela, uzophumelela.

Akungabazeki ukuthi iyindlela eyimpumelelo yabaqeqeshi nabaqeqeshi abaningi abakhuthaza abantu ukuthi bazibekele imigomo yokuvelela ("Dare to believe in yourself!"), Bathathe izivivinyo ("Ingabe unakho ukuphikelela okudingekayo?") Bese ubhalisela izifundo (" Thola uthando lwakho ngosuku olulodwa "). Ukuzethemba okungenamkhawulo emandleni entshisekelo kusekelwa yizindaba ezimayelana nabaphumelele abalandela iphupho labo futhi bafinyelela phezulu.

Okungabonakali kakhulu yilabo abakholelwa entweni futhi bayayilwela, kepha noma kunjalo bahlala bengabantu abajwayelekile, abangabonakali emehlweni omphakathi. Cabanga ngabo bonke abantu abangafiki emibonisweni yamathalente naphezu kokuzinikela kwabo; abantu abasungula inkampani bese beyinika konke abanakho bayaphela; noma abantu abasebenza kanzima kodwa bahluleke: Bakuyo yonke indawo.

Inkinga akukhona nje kuphela ukuthi yenza abantu bacabange ukuthi bangafeza noma yini abayifunayo (okungelona iqiniso ngempela) nokuthi bayizehluleki uma kufanele bayeke. Kwenza nabantu bagxile kimi futhi bangabi nandaba nokwenzekayo eduze kwabo. Ngemuva kwakho konke, kufanele babambelele ngokuqinile ephusheni labo.

Zulazule, udunguduke futhi uzulazule

Ngikholelwa esiqubweni esihlukile, esisencwadini U-Alice eWonderland : Uma ungazi ukuthi uyaphi, noma yimuphi umgwaqo uzokuyisa lapho. Lesi sicaphuno sivame ukusetshenziselwa ukugxeka lapho abantu bemane beziphendulela, kepha ngithatha okwehlukile.

Njengo-Alice, kufanele sizame ukuzwa konke ukuthola ukuthi singobani njengoba siqhubeka. Ukukhala kancane lapha, okuncane lapho, ukulandela indlela eseceleni, ukubuyisa izinyathelo zethu, ukulinga nephutha, ukudungeka, ukubheda, konke lokhu kuyingxenye yempilo. Kuphela ngokuhlola indawo, ngokulangazelela nangomqondo ovulekile, uzothola ukuthi yini okukufanele.

Awunakucabanga ukuthi engqondweni yakho ngaphambili, ungakuthola kuphela phakathi kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho emhlabeni. Ngokwenza lokho, uthola nezinhlangothi ezintsha zakho. Hhayi ngokubheka ngaphakathi, kepha ngokumane ubambe iqhaza empilweni, usebenzisane nezwe elikuzungezile.

Kuyavunywa, ukuzibekela imigomo kungaba wusizo uma uyenza ibonakale ngokwanele ukuba ifinyelele kuyo. Lapho usukwenzile lokho, uvame ukuthola ukuthi udinga ukuzilungisa njengoba uhamba - uzenze zibe ngokoqobo ngokwengeziwe, ngento eyodwa. "Ukugxila" kanye "nokugcina iphupho lakho engqondweni" kunengqondo kuphela uma ukuhlanganisa lokho nezenzo ukuze uthole isheke langempela ngesikhathi.

Iseluleko sami samathalente omculo nawo wonke umuntu onesifiso: Zama ukungazazi kahle ukuthi ungubani nokuthi ufuna ukuba ngubani. Ingabe hhayi zibethele phansi. Thwala ukungaqiniseki kokungazi ukuthi uyaphi, futhi uzuze esikhaleni nasekuvulekeni. Hamba nokugeleza, ungavinjelwe, ohambweni lokutholwa. Kulowo mgwaqo onamagquma, omazombezombe, onganqunyelwe, kulapho ozothola khona ukuthi ungubani nokuthi ufuna ukuba yini.