Yikuphi Ukuziphatha Okujwayelekile Kwabasindile Bokuhlukunyezwa Ngokuhlukunyezwa kwe-Narcissistic?

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• Amaphuzu abalulekile
• 1. Wenza noma yini ngomusa.
• 2. Uhlala uhambisana nezidingo zabanye.
• 3. "Yiphutha lami - kumele ngabe ngenze okuthile okungalungile."
• Ukufundwa Okubalulekile Kwe-Narcissism
• 6 Imininingwane Emikhulu evela Kumqeqeshi Wokubuyiselwa Kokuhlukunyezwa Kwe-Narcissistic

Amaphuzu abalulekile

• Izisulu zokuhlukunyezwa kwe-narcissistic zakha izindlela zokubhekana nazo ukuze zisinde. Kepha lapho ukuhlukunyezwa sekuqediwe, izindlela zabo zokubhekana nezinkinga zingaphenduka zingalungi.
• Ukugxila ngokweqile ezidingweni zabanye, ukwehluleka ukubeka imingcele eqinile, noma ukwenza noma yini ukushintshanisa umusa kungavula indlela yokuqhubeka nokuphathwa kabi noma ukuhlukunyezwa.
• Ukubona izindlela zakudala zokubhekana nokubayeka bahambe (imvamisa ngosizo lomelaphi) kungabuyisa umuzwa wokulahleka wedwa futhi kusize ekwakheni ubudlelwano obunempilo.

Eminyakeni edlule, ngisebenze nabaningi abasinda ekuhlukunyezweni yi-narcissistic. Bonke benziswe ukukhwabanisa okuyinkimbinkimbi, ukuphathwa ngokungahloniphi, kanye "nothando" olunemibandela. Isikhathi eside ebesilokhu siqhubeka, iba namandla imiphumela elandelayo. Futhi nezisulu okwakubonakala ukuthi sezisindile zisakhombisa izindlela ezithile zokuziphatha ezijwayelekile.

AbakwaNarcissist bahlose ukudicilela phansi izisulu zabo — bazithobe ekuziphatheni okubenza bangabi nalutho, babakhanyise ngomoya ukuze babenze bacabange ukuthi bayahlanya, futhi babulale noma imuphi umqondo wokuzethemba nokuzethemba. Ukuze zisinde, izisulu bekufanele zenze isimilo esizigcina ziphephile futhi zisangulukile ngangokunokwenzeka futhi yilokhu kuziphatha okuhlala kuzo isikhathi eside ngemuva kokuba seqile kumuntu obabiza ngama-narcissist.

Ngiye ngahlukunyezwa ngumama, naye owadala umndeni ongasebenzi futhi kwangithatha amashumi eminyaka ukuqonda okwakwenzeka futhi ngafunda izindlela ezithile zokuziphatha ezingasizi ngalutho.

Ingabe uyisisulu? Uyasazi isisulu? Ungahle ubone lezi zindlela ezinhlanu zokuziphatha, ezimema kalula ukuhlukunyezwa.

1. Wenza noma yini ngomusa.

Njengesisulu, uphucwe umusa futhi manje uyawulangazelela. Umusa nganoma yiluphi uhlobo uyamukelwa, kodwa futhi udinga ukuvuzwa. Lapho othile enomusa kuwe, kuzokujabulisa, kepha futhi kukwenza ucabange ukuthi idinga ukubuyiselwa ngocansi, ukwenza imisebenzi ethile, noma ukwenza okuhle. Ukwamukela umusa ngaphandle kokuwubuyisa kubonakala kungemvelo, njengoba uthuswe ingqondo ngumuntu osebenzisa izinto zakho ukuze abhekane nendlela ethi "okuthile okuthile". AbakwaNarcissists abasoze benzela noma ngubani umusa ngaphandle kokuthi kube ukushintshana.

Kungaba nzima kuwe ukuqonda umusa wangempela, uhlobo olungadingi ukuphindiselwa, futhi kungahle kukwenze uzizwe usengozini yokuba sematheni owamukelayo.

Lapho othile engidlala ngothando futhi engincoma, ngangihlala nginovalo njengoba ngangingenakukuthatha njengokuyikho. Kimi, kwakusho ukuthi bekulindeleke ukuthi ngibuyise "umusa" ngokunikela ngezocansi.

2. Uhlala uhambisana nezidingo zabanye.

Impilo yomuntu osebenza ngama-narcissist ikuqeqeshele ukuba uzwele ngezidingo zabanye abantu, ikakhulukazi lezo ze-narcissist yakho, kunjalo. Futhi ukuphendula kulezo zidingo ngokushesha. Kumshayeli wendiza othomathikhi. Ukuze usinde. Lokhu kuziphatha kuvame ukuqhubeka. Uyaqaphela okudingwa ngumuntu bese wenza isenzo ukuze umsize. Kwesinye isikhathi ngisho nangaphambi kokuba babone ukuthi kunenkinga, usuvele uyixazulule.

Akuyona into engavamile ukuvusa ukusabela okungathandeki ngenkathi usiza othile, njengoba ungathola ngamandla kakhulu njengomuntu ophazamisayo.

Bengisemkhankasweni oqhubekayo wokusiza abantu ababi ukuthi babone okuhle. Ukunikezela ngemibono, ukuthatha izinyathelo, ukucabanga ngezinto egameni labo. Ukubona kuphela ukuthi enginqume ukuthi ngidinga ukukuguqula bekungekhona lokho ababekufuna nhlobo.

3. "Yiphutha lami - kumele ngabe ngenze okuthile okungalungile."

Njengoba ubusolwa futhi wasolwa nganoma yini engahambanga ngendlela obefuna ngayo lowo obuza ngezidakamizwa kuholele esimeni sengqondo esizenzakalelayo lapho umcabango wakho wokuqala uthi: "Ngihlulekephi, ngenza liphi iphutha?" Esimweni somsebenzi, esimeni senhlalo, noma kwezinye izimo, uzizwa unesibopho ngaso leso sikhathi ngokwenzekayo — noma ngabe akuhlangene nawe.

Ngoba uzinikela ukusola, abantu bangahle bakuthathe bakwenze futhi ungazithola usesimweni esijwayelekile sokumangalelwa nokulindeleke ukuthi uxazulule okuthile okungahlangene nawe.

Noma nini lapho izinto zingahambi kahle noma cha ngokwecebo, ngangidinga ngokushesha "ukulungisa kahle." Ngaqala ukulungisa noma ngathola izixazululo, noma ngabe ekuqaleni lesi simo besingahlangene nami.

Ukufundwa Okubalulekile Kwe-Narcissism

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