Lokho Wonke Umuntu Okudingeka Akuqonde Ngokucindezelwa Ngokocansi

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• Kuyini ukuphoqwa ngocansi?
• Imiphumela yokuphoqelelwa ngokocansi
• Ingabe ukuphoqwa ngokocansi kuyicala?
• Singakuvimbela kanjani ukuphoqwa ngocansi?

Amaphuzu Ayisihluthulelo:

• Ukuphoqelelwa ngokocansi kubhekisa emisebenzini yezocansi engadingeki eyenzeka ngemuva kokucindezelwa ngezindlela ezingezona ezomzimba.
• Abesifazane abaphoqwa ngocansi banamathuba amaningi okuba nengcindezi yangemva kwenhlekelele, bazisole, bacindezeleke neminye imizwa emibi.
• Ukuphoqelela okunjalo kuvame ukubonwa kumongo wobudlelwano obuhlukumezayo.
• Ukuvuma ukwenza ucansi ngemuva kokuphoqelelwa kungukuziphatha okuhlukumezayo, kepha akunakuthathwa njengecala.

Kusukela ukunyakaza kwe- # MeToo, igama elithi ukuphoqelelwa ngokocansi liya ngokuya libhekiswa kwabezindaba ukubhekisa ekuziphatheni okungafuneki kwezocansi. Kodwa-ke, kwabaningi, leli gama alikacaci.

Kuyini ukuphoqwa ngocansi?

Ukuphoqelelwa ngokocansi kubhekisa kunoma imuphi umsebenzi wezocansi ongafuneki owenzeka ngemuva kokucindezelwa ngezindlela ezingezona ezomzimba. Kulinganiselwa ukuthi owesifazane oyedwa kwabathathu nowesilisa oyedwa kwabayishumi bake baphoqwa ukuphoqelelwa ngokocansi, yize amazinga angaba phezulu kakhulu njengoba ukuphoqelelwa ngokocansi kungakaqondakali kahle.Ukuphoqeleka ngokocansi kungenzeka kumongo wobudlelwano bomshado nokuthandana futhi kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi kwenzeke nomuntu osuvele unobudlelwano naye.

Ukuphoqelelwa ngokocansi kungabandakanya ukucindezelwa ngamazwi noma ukukhohlisa futhi kungafaka:

• Izicelo eziphindaphindwayo noma ukuzizwa ubhejiwe ukuya ocansini.
• Ukusebenzisa icala noma amahloni ukucindezela othile—ubungakwenza uma ubungithanda.
• Ukusongela ukulahleka kobudlelwano noma ukungathembeki uma umuntu engazibandakanyi nocansi.
• Ezinye izinhlobo zokuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo.
• Izinsongo ezinganeni zakho, ekhaya, noma emsebenzini.
• Izinsongo zokuqamba amanga noma ukusabalalisa amahemuhemu ngawe.

Kodwa-ke, akukhona konke ukuphoqelelwa ngamazwi okubukeka kukubi. Abanye besifazane babika ukuthi abalingani babo basebenzisa izitatimende ezakhiwe kahle njengokuncoma, izethembiso, kanye nokukhuluma okumnandi ukuphoqa ucansi. Ngenkathi ukukhuluma kamnandi noma ukucindezela umlingani wakho kwezocansi kungazwakala kwabanye njengengxenye ejwayelekile yobudlelwano, noma kunini lapho umuntu enza ucansi ngoba bezizwa becindezelekile noma bephoqiwe, kungukucindezelwa ngokocansi.

Imiphumela yokuphoqelelwa ngokocansi

Ucwaningo luthole ukuthi abesifazane abathola ukuphoqwa ngocansi banamathuba amaningi okuthola ukucindezeleka kwangemva kwenhlekelele, ukuzisola nokugxeka, ukudangala, intukuthelo, nokwehlisa isifiso sobulili nokwaneliseka.

Ukuzizwa ucindezelekile ukuthi uhlanganyele ezenzweni zocansi lapho ungafuni, ukuphoqelelwa ngokocansi. Njengezinto eziningi, kunokuqhubeka. Izinhlobo ezinamandla zokuphoqelelwa ngokocansi zingazizwa zingakhululeki noma zikuholele ekutheni uzizwe kabi ngalokhu okuhlangenwe nakho, kanti izinhlobo ezinzima kakhulu zingase zibe yingozi futhi ziholele emiphumeleni ehlala njalo. Ukuphoqelelwa ngokocansi kuvame ukubonwa kumongo wobudlelwano obuhlukumezayo futhi umenzi wobubi uvame ukuzibandakanya ngezindlela eziningi zokulawula ngenkani.

Noma ngabe ukuziphatha ngokocansi kungafuneki, abesifazane mancane amathuba okuthi baziphathe njengokucindezela uma bake bahlanganyela ebulilini nalowo muntu phambilini.

Ingabe ukuphoqwa ngokocansi kuyicala?

Kukhona umugqa omuhle phakathi kocansi oluphoqelelwe nokuhlaselwa ngokocansi. Noma ikuphi ukwenza kocansi okwenzeka ngaphandle kwemvume noma ukusebenzisa amandla wukuhlukumeza ngokocansi futhi kuyicala. Kodwa-ke, uma uvuma ukuya ocansini ngemuva kokufakwa amabheji, ukwenziwa icala, noma ukukhohliswa othile, lokhu kungukuziphatha okuhlukumezayo, kepha kungenzeka kungathathwa njengecala.

Uma uzizwa ucindezelekile ukuthi uhlanganyele ekuziphatheni ngokocansi okungafunwa, kubalulekile ukusho ngokusobala kumuntu ukuthi awufuni ukuzibandakanya bese ushiya isimo. Uma umuntu esesikhundleni samandla nokuphatha, shiya isimo bese ubika kwabaphathi, noma kwabasebenzi. Uma umuntu eqhubeka nokuziphatha ngaphandle kwesitatimende sakho sokuthi kufanele ayeke, noma akusongela wena noma umndeni wakho, hamba, bese ushayela ku-911.

Ngokuya ngobude besikhathi kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kokuphoqelelwa ngokocansi noma ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi ungahle uthande ukufinyelela kulayini wezinkinga ukuze uthole ukwesekwa nokudluliselwa kokwelashwa.

Singakuvimbela kanjani ukuphoqwa ngocansi?

Ukuphoqelelwa ngokocansi kufanele kubhekwane nakho emazingeni amaningi. Okokuqala, sidinga ukuguqula izinkambiso zomphakathi maqondana nokuthi ubudlelwano bokuvumelana buhle kanjani. Omunye walomsebenzi uqalwe ngenhlangano i- # MeToo futhi sibone izinguquko ezimweni zengqondo nasekuziphatheni. Ukuphoqelelwa ngokocansi kungahle kungabonakali ngaso sonke isikhathi ngakho-ke imfundo mayelana nokuthi ibukeka kanjani nokuthi izwakala kanjani kanye nokulimaza okungakubangela kubalulekile. Okulandelayo, kufanele siqhubeke nokuphoqelela izinkambiso zobulili ezilinganayo ukuze abesifazane nabesilisa babhekwe njengabalingani abalinganayo ebudlelwaneni futhi bakhuthaze ukuxhumana okuvulelekile nezingxoxo mayelana nezindaba eziphathelene nezocansi ebudlelwaneni. Ekugcineni, kufanele sifundise izingane kanye nentsha ngokuvuma nokuthi kumele baziphathe kanjani ngokubambisana okulinganayo.

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