Kuyini Ukugqugquzela Kwangaphakathi futhi Kusisiza Kanjani?

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• Amaphuzu abalulekile

Amaphuzu abalulekile

• Isisusa sangaphakathi sisisiza ukuba sihlanganyele futhi sihlale sithembisene.
• Silawula isisusa sethu.
• Ukuhlanganisa isisusa sethu sangaphakathi kubalulekile-futhi kulula.

Yini oyithanda kakhulu? Cabanga ngento okungekho muntu okudingeka akunxuse ukuba uyenze, ikukhumbuze ukuthi uyenze, noma ukuthi uhlehlise ngoba ungathanda ngempela ukwenza enye into. Kwabanye okungenzeka ukuthi ukufunda, ukwenza i-crossword puzzle, ingadi, ukupheka, noma umdlalo. Abafundi abakuthandayo bathanda ukufunda ukuzijabulisa, njengendlela yokuphumula. Kepha kwenzekani uma umfundi okhuthele ekhokhelwe ukufunda? Uthando lwabo lokufunda luqala ukuzizwa njengomsebenzi futhi abahlanganyeli kulo ngomdlandla ofanayo. Isisusa sabo siguquka sisuka kokungaphakathi (ukuba nesifiso sangaphakathi sokwenza okuthile) kuya ekugqugquzelweni okwedlulele (okudinga okuthile kwangaphandle okufana nemali njengesisusa sokwenza okuthile). Umsebenzi owenziwe ngentshiseko futhi ngaphandle kokugqugquzela noma ukunxusa ngokungazelelwe uba ngumsebenzi.

Abaphenyi uLepper, Greene, noNisbett (1973) bathola ukuthi lokhu kwenzeka ezinganeni ezincane. Ngenkathi iqembu lezingane ezithambekele kwezobuciko elijabulela ukudala ubuciko lihlukaniswa laba ngamaqembu amathathu — U-Group A utshele ukuthi bazoklonyeliswa ngokwakha ubuciko, u-Group B owanikwa umklomelo uma benza ubuciko, no-Group C ongazange anikezwe noma yimuphi umvuzo ngokwakha ubuciko —kuveze ukuthi labo abakuGroup B nakuGroup C baqhubekile nokwakha ubuciko emasontweni amabili kamuva ngejubane elifanayo abazenzele lona. KwakunguGroup A kuphela, ababetshelwe ukuthi bazothola umklomelo wokwenza ubuciko, abachitha isikhathi esincane kakhulu kunangaphambili ukudala ubuciko. Kubukeka sengathi u-Group A ulahlekelwe yisikhuthazo sabo sangaphakathi sokwenza lokho abakuthokozela ngokwemvelo lapho umgqugquzeli (umvuzo) owengeziwe exhunywe kulo msebenzi.

Lokhu akuhlukile nakithi njengabantu abadala. Cabanga ngale ndlela: Ungathanda yini ukunikela ngesikhathi sakho ukwaba ukudla ekhishini elinosobho kusihlwa? Abantu abaningi bavolontiya ukwenza lokhu futhi bazizwe besaba kakhulu ngokwenza lo msebenzi. Kepha uma ubuza abantu abakhipha ukudla endaweni yokudlela ngesikhathi sokushintshwa komsebenzi ukuze bakhokhelwe, cishe ngeke uthole impendulo efanayo. Uyini umehluko phakathi kwalokhu okubili? Ukugqugquzela. Isisusa sangaphakathi, amadrayivu aqhamuka ngaphakathi kithi, asilethela injabulo nobumnandi, kanti ukugqugquzela okungaphandle kuhlala kudinga umuntu osikhuthazayo ongaphandle osilethela injabulo. Silawula ukukhuthazeka kwangaphakathi — singafunda enye incwadi, sigijime nsuku zonke, noma yini enye esithola ikhiqiza. Kodwa-ke, kufanele silinde futhi sincike kunkuthazo yangaphandle ukuletha injabulo yethu lapho sithembela kunkuthazo engaphandle.

Ungasisebenzisa kanjani isisusa sakho sangaphakathi?

1. Volontiya. Lapho uvolontiya uhlanganyela emsebenzini ngenjabulo yawo emsulwa. Awuthembeli kubagqugquzeli bangaphandle njengemali ukuze unikeze abalambile ukudla ekhishini lesobho, ufundela izingane ezincane, noma ukhulumela injongo okholelwa kuyo.

2. Umeluleki. Lapho umeluleki, awukhokhelwa. Ukhomba futhi usize omunye umuntu ukuthi athole amakhono nolwazi osuvele unalo. Labo abelulekayo bajabulela izinzuzo ezitholakala ngokubuyisa ngaphandle kokulindela ukubuyiselwa imali. Abeluleki abaningi bakhulisa ubudlelwano obuhlala isikhathi eside neziphathimandla zabo eziza ngaphandle kwabagqugquzeli bangaphandle. Imali ngeke ibenze lobu budlelwano buqine.

3. Hlanganyela emisebenzini yokuzijabulisa nje. Unganamathiseli umklomelo wangaphandle emisebenzini oyithandayo. Funda ukuzijabulisa nje. Hamba ngezinyawo, hike, ugijime ukuzijabulisa nje. Ziphoqele ukuze uqhubekele phambili ukuze uzibekele imigomo ephakeme, kepha ungaziniki umvuzo ngesixhumi sangaphandle sokwenza izinto osuvele uzijabulela. Uzozithola wenza okwengeziwe kwalokho okujabulelayo!

Sonke sifuna ukuchitha isikhathi senza izinto esizithanda kakhulu. Futhi sinokulawula ukuthi sizibandakanya kanjani empilweni. Ukuhlanganisa isisusa sethu esingaphakathi kuyisihluthulelo, futhi kulula. Yazi ukuthi uthanda ukwenzani ngaphandle kwenkokhelo, umklomelo, noma umklomelo. Cabanga ngezinto obungazenza ukube akekho owake wazi ukuthi uzenzile. Ngemuva kwalokho, zinike isikhathi sokwenza (noma ngabe ukufunda, ukuzivocavoca, ukuqeqesha, noma ukuzithandela) kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka. Uzothola ukuthi uhlanganyela kakhulu nokuthi unwebela imisebenzi oyithanda kakhulu. Kungani ungathathi ithuba lokutshala imali kuwe ngokuzibandakanya ngokuthanda kwakho?