Okufanele Ukwazi Lapho Ubuza Ngemicabango Yokuzibulala

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• Ukuzibulala Okubalulekile Okufundwayo
• Kungani Ukuzibulala Kwe-U.S kwehle ngo-2020?

UKate Spade no-Anthony Bourdain babephumelele, bethandwa kakhulu, futhi babonakala bephila impilo enomona. Kepha ukuzibulala kwabo kwakamuva nje-nemibiko yabo bobabili osaziwayo abalwa isikhathi eside nengcindezi nokugula kwengqondo-kwaqokomisa iqiniso elisabisayo: umbono wokuzibulala ungathinta noma ngubani, futhi ubuso bomphakathi obuhloniphekile bungafihla izinxushunxushu zangasese ezingakhulunywa.

Lapho ukuzibulala kudonswa phambili ekwazini komphakathi, “kugcizelela ubuthakathaka babantu,” kusho uShairi Turner, oyiChief Medical Officer wezinsiza zokuvimbela ukuzibulala iCrisis Text Line —okuholela abaningi ekutheni bazibuze ukuthi bangenzani uma besola umuntu abamthandayo kungenzeka ucabanga ukuzibulala. "Abantu bahlale bengakhululekile lapho becabanga ukuthi othile ufuna ukuzibulala," kusho uTurner. Ukwethula lolu daba — ikakhulukazi nomuntu osondelene naye — kungazwakala kukhungathekile, kungakhululeki noma kungenzeki nhlobo.

Kepha ochwepheshe bayagcizelela ukuthi into engcono kakhulu umuntu angayenzela umuntu obonakala ecindezeleke ngokungajwayelekile noma ekhombisa ezinye izimpawu zokuxwayisa ngokuzibulala ukuqala ingxoxo, nokuthi ukubonakala nhlobo kubalulekile ngaphandle kokuthi usho into elungile ncamashi. Uma ufuna ukubuza othandekayo ukuthi uzizwa efuna ukuzibulala yini, nakhu okumele ukwazi ukukhumbula njengoba uqala.

Ungesabi ukuqala ingxoxo. "Abantu bacabanga ukuthi ngokubuza [uma kukhona umuntu ozibulalayo], basikisela ukuzibulala," kusho uTurner. Kodwa iningi locwaningo oluhlobene nokuzibulala — kufaka phakathi ukubuyekeza okuphelele kwezincwadi olushicilelwe ngo-2014 — luveza ukuthi izingxoxo ezivulekile mayelana nokuzibulala akunakwenzeka ukuthi zikhulise umbono wokuzibulala futhi zinganciphisa empeleni.

Awudingi ukusebenzisa amagama aqondene nokuzibulala noma ukuzilimaza uma enza ungakhululeki, kusho uT Turner. Ngokuvamile, kulula ukuqala ngokukhomba ezinye izimpawu eziyisixwayiso ezingaba khona — ngokwesibonelo, ukuhoxa ezintweni ezivamile, noma ukukhala njalo — njengendlela yokuvula umnyango wengxoxo enkulu ngaphandle kokugxumela ngqo emibuzweni ngokuzibulala.

“Ukungakhulumi ngayo kuqinisa ukuthi KULUNGILE ukukhuluma ngakho,” kusho u-Elana Premack Sandler, onguprofesa osebenza naye eSimmons School of Social Work. “Uma umuntu ecabanga ngokuzibulala, futhi akekho obuza ngakho, kungahle kungabi bikho umuntu azizwa ephephile ekukhuliseni lesi sihloko. Ukungalethi umbono wokuzibulala phezulu kugcina ukuthula, ”okwandisa ubungozi obukhulu, usho kanje.

Yenza ucwaningo lwakho. Uma ungenakho ukuqeqeshwa kwezempilo yengqondo wena-noma noma yikuphi okuhlangenwe nakho komuntu siqu ngokudangala nemicabango yokuzibulala-umqondo wokuqala lokho okungenzeka kube yingxoxo eyinselele futhi ekhungathekile ngokomzwelo ungaba nzima, kusho uTurner. Abaningi bayesaba ukuthi bazokhuluma into engafanele. Kepha ngenkathi "awudingi ukuba yingcweti ukuze ubuze lo mbuzo," esho, "kuyasiza ngaso sonke isikhathi ukwenza ucwaningo oluthile - lapho wazi okwengeziwe, yilapho ungasiza khona kakhulu." Ngenkathi ukusesha oku-inthanethi okusheshayo kuzoletha izinsizakusebenza eziningi, lokhu kubuka konke okuvela eSuicide Prevention Lifeline kuyindawo ebanzi yokuqala kunoma ngubani ofuna ukuqonda kangcono ukudangala noma asize othile osenkingeni.

Yiba nezinsizakusebenza lapho ukhuluma. Ukuzwa ukuzibulala kuyisikhathi esesabekayo, esihlukanisa impilo yomuntu othile, futhi nabathandekayo abahluphekayo kungenzeka bangazizwa sengathi banamandla noma umdlandla odingekayo wokufuna usizo. U-Turner weluleka ngokuqala ingxoxo ngohlu lwezinsizakusebenza-inombolo ye-Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255) noma i-Crisis Text Line (thumela umbhalo othi HOME to 741741), isibonelo, noma igama nenombolo yomelaphi oseduze ngokuqokwa okutholakalayo.

Zilungiselele ukumba ujule. Abanye abantu abanemibono yokuzibulala ngeke bamelane — ikakhulukazi ekuqaleni — ekufoneleni inombolo yocingo, ukuthola owelapha, noma ukuhlola ezinye izinhlobo zokwelashwa kwezempilo yengqondo. Uma othandekayo wakho ephambuka noma enqaba ukulandela izinsizakusebenza oziphakamisile, hlola ukuthi kungani. "Buza ukuthi bazizwa kanjani ngokufuna usizo," kusho u-Turner, bese uzama ukuthola izithiyo ezisendleleni. Abantu abaningi abanemicabango yokuzibulala besaba ukucwaswa noma ukunakwa okungafuneki, lapho-ke, insiza engaziwa njengeCrisis Text Line ingaba yindawo enobungozi obuphansi ukuqala. Abanye badela izindleko zokwelashwa futhi bangazuza kuwe ngokubheka izinketho ezingabizi kakhulu egameni labo.

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