Lapho Umngane Wakho Omkhulu Edlula: Amathiphu Wokubhekana Nokufa Kwezilwane

Esontweni eledlule, abangane bami abathandekayo ababili balahlekelwa abangane babo abakhulu. Ngemuva kokunikeza iminyaka eyi-13 yobungani, izinja ezimbili ezinhle kwadingeka zibekwe phansi. Okuhlangenwe nakho kwangikhumbuza lapho kudlula izinja zami: ukuphuka kwenhliziyo okuphelele. Kwabaningi bethu abathanda izilwane zethu ezifuywayo ngaphezu kwezihlobo ezithile, ukulahlekelwa yizo ngemuva kweminyaka eminingi kangaka yothando olungenamibandela kungaba yinto edabukisayo nenesizungu. Namuhla kunamaqembu okusekela, amabhulogi nezinye izinsiza zokusiza abathandi bezilwane ezihlukumezekile ukuba babhekane nokulahlekelwa kwabo, kepha kusengudaba olwenza abaningi bangakhululeki.

Ngokwesiko laseNtshonalanga, sonakalisa izilwane zethu ezifuywayo kodwa, kulabo abangazange babe nenjabulo yokufaka umngani onoboya emndenini wabo, umqondo wokuthokozisa inja, ikati noma esinye isidalwa ungadida futhi ube yisilima. Abanye bakholelwa ukuthi akufanelekile ukudabuka ngokulahleka "kwesilwane esifuywayo nje" kodwa kulabo bethu abake bakuzwa lokho, ukubhujiswa kungokoqobo. Ngenkathi abangani bememezela ukushona kwabahlobo babo abanoboya ku-Facebook, abaningi baphawula ngomusa, kepha abanye babengaqiniseki ukuthi bazokuphendula kanjani ekufeni komuntu ongeyena umuntu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abanikazi bezilwane abadabukisayo babengaqiniseki ukuthi "bangenza kanjani" futhi baqhubeka nokuxolisa ngemvula yezinyembezi, izinsuku zomsebenzi ezingekho kanye nomoya wokucindezeleka. Kodwa kungani kufanele bazisole? Ukufa kothandekayo, kungaba yisilwane noma umuntu, kubuhlungu ngokomzwelo.

Ezinganeni, ukulahleka kwesilwane kungaba yinto yokuqala enganeni ngokufa. Izingane ezincane zingadideka, zidabuke futhi zicindezeleke, zikholelwe ukuthi ezinye azinakekelayo zingathathwa nazo. Ukuzama ukuvikela ingane osizini ngokuthi inja noma ikati libalekile kungaholela emizweni yokukhaphela noma yokuphelelwa yithemba. Ochwepheshe bezinhlungu zosizi kanye nodokotela bezilwane bancoma ukuthi ukuveza usizi lwakho kungaba yindlela engcono yokuqinisekisa ingane ukuthi ukudabuka ngokulahlekelwa isilwane kulungile.

Abantu abadala asebekhulile bangathinteka kakhulu ngokufa kwesilwane esiyigugu. Ngiyakhumbula ngenkathi ugogo wami elahlekelwa yinja yakhe iTrixie kungakapheli sikhathi esingakanani umyeni wakhe weminyaka engama-50 + edlulile. Kwakunzima kithina sonke, kodwa ikakhulukazi ugogo. Abadala, ukubhekana nezinkinga zabo zezempilo nezokufa ezihambisana nemithwalo yemfanelo yokugcina izifuyo zinganqotshwa isizungu esikhulu kepha banqikaze ukuthola esinye isilwane. Ezinye izindlela zobunikazi besilwane esigcwele isikhathi sonke kungaba yizinqumo ezinhle kubantu abadala asebekhulile. Ukuzinikela endaweni yokukhosela isilwane, ukukhonza njengomzali wokukhulisa isilwane esigulayo noma ukuhlala kwezilwane zasekhaya kungaba yindlela enhle yokuba umuntu omkhulu abe nokuxhumana kwesilwane.

Ezinye izilwane ezifuywayo ekhaya azivikelekile osizini. Lapho udadewethu othandekayo womngane wami uTiffy edlula, umngane wakhe wekati uBooBoo wahlupheka izinsuku. Wayezulazula efulethini ambheke futhi ayeke ukudla nokuphuza kancane. Ikati ngokusobala lalicindezelekile. Ngemuva kokuthi umngani wami echithe isikhathi esiningi sokugaxa noBooBoo, walulama futhi wabuyela esimeni sakhe sakudala. Izilonda eziningi zezilwane zizothi izilwane ezifuywayo zizizwa zilahlekile noma ngabe bezingazwani ngaso sonke isikhathi nomuntu ezihlala naye.

Ukubhekana nokulahlekelwa isilwane kungaba uhambo olunesizungu noludidayo. Nayi eminye imibono:

• Vuma usizi bese uzinika u- "ok" ukulubonisa
• Zizungeze nabantu abasekelayo abakuqondayo ukubophela komnikazi wesilwane
• Khuluma ngemizwa yakho encwadini
• Yakha isikhumbuzo esilwaneni sakho
• Dala i-scrapbook yesilwane
• Xoxa indaba ehlekisayo ngesilwane sakho
• Nikela kubhulogi noma isiza se-Inthanethi ukuze uzisize wena nabanye abanikazi bezilwane abakhathazekile
• Shayela umphakathi wendawo onobuntu noma udokotela wezilwane ubuze ngamaqembu osekelo lokulahlekelwa kwesilwane. Noma wakhe iqembu lakho lokusekela
• Shayela inombolo yocingo yokulahleka kwesilwane..izinombolo ziyatholakala ku-Delta Society. www.jokubokza.com
• Cabanga bese ulinda ngaphambi kokuthola isilwane esisha. Ngesikhathi sokuxokozela okungokomzwelo idrayivu yokwamukela isilwane esisha ingaba namandla kepha ngokusho kochwepheshe lo muzwa kufanele unqandwe kuze kube yilapho usizi lokuqala selunciphile.

Namuhla izincwadi, abelaphi nezingosi ze-Intanethi ezenzelwe ukusiza abanikazi bezilwane abangathuthuki babhekane nokufa kuvamile, kepha akukho lutho oluthatha indawo yomngane ngendlebe enozwela. Ukulahlekelwa isilwane umcimbi ongokomzwelo othinta wonke umuntu emndenini. Ngiyakhumbula ngithumela izimbali kumngane wami uFrank ngenkathi kudlula inkabi yakhe uSherman. Kamuva wathi ukuvuma ubuhlungu bakhe nokuthatha ngokungathí sina ubuhlungu benhliziyo yakhe kwakuyisipho esihle kunazo zonke ayengasithola. Amakhadi, ukukhunjulwa neminikelo egameni lesilwane esifuywayo kungaduduza futhi kuthobise umzali wesilwane ocindezelekile. Uma uthintekile ngokufa kwesilwane osithandayo, yazi ukuthi awuwedwa nokuthi kulungile ukukhala lapho isilwane sifa.

Ku-Snoops, inja ethandeka kakhulu ne-sassy engake ngahlangana nayo!