Ngubani Oxoxa Indaba Yakho? Indlela Esikhumbula Ngayo UHamilton, Nathi Ngokwethu

-Delile

• Amaphuzu abalulekile
• Ukuxoxa izindaba futhi Hamilton
• Ithonya lombalisi

Amaphuzu abalulekile

• Izinkumbulo zethu zakhiwe emphakathini.
• Ngamaqembu, umuntu oyedwa angahola ukulandiswa kwezindaba, abe ngumbalisi ovelele.
• Abantu bashintsha izinkumbulo zabo ukufanisa izindaba ezixoxwa ababalisi abaphambili - bekhumbula futhi bakhohlwe imininingwane efanayo.

Ngubani ohlala, ofayo, otshela izindaba emndenini wakho? Izinkumbulo zivame ukwakhiwa emphakathini. Kepha umlandisi emndenini wakho noma iqembu labangane liguqula indlela okhumbula ngayo okwedlule?

Ukuxoxa izindaba futhi Hamilton

Ku- Hamilton kwezomculo, umbalisi uyashintsha engomeni yokugcina. Futhi lolo shintsho kumxoxi lunquma indlela esikhumbula ngayo u-Alexander Hamilton.

Bekumele ngilinde ukuze ngibone Hamilton kuze kube yilapho umculo utholakalela ukusakazwa. Ngangike ngezwa izinto ezinhle ngakho, futhi ngakujabulela kakhulu. Kepha njengomcwaningi wememori, ngahlatshwa iphuzu elilodwa: umbalisi wendaba.

Ethula indaba, uLin-Manuel Miranda wasebenzisa u-Aaron Burr njengombalisi wakhe oyinhloko. Ukukhetha okuthokozisayo, ngoba, njengoba umlingiswa kaBurr esho, "uyisiwula esamdubula." Kunesizathu esihle sokusola ukuthi uBurr noHamilton babengebona abangane abaseduze, okungenani hhayi ekugcineni. Ingabe yilowo ongathanda ukuxoxa indaba yakho yokuphila? Futhi-ke, ngomculo omningi, uBurr ngumuntu oxoxa le ndaba. Kuze kube sekupheleni. Kuze kube ingoma yokugcina.

Maphakathi nengoma yokugcina, u-Eliza, unkosikazi kaHamilton, uba umbalisi. Ukushintsha ababalisi kuyithuluzi elinamandla lokuxoxa izindaba, livumela izethameli ukuthi zibe nombono ohlukile ngemicimbi. Kulokhu, uMiranda ushintshe umbalisi ukuthi akhombise okuthile ngendaba kaHamilton. Njengamanothi omculo, u-Eliza uyayitshela indaba kaHamilton. Usebenza impilo yakhe yonke ende ukutshela indaba kaHamilton ngemuva kokubulawa kwakhe nguBurr e-duel. Izinto eziningi esizaziyo ngoHamilton ziveza ukubhala kwakhe, umsebenzi wakhe ulandisa ngempilo yakhe. Kepha okunye kungumsebenzi womkakhe. Waba ngumbalisi wakhe osanda kufa.

Ithonya lombalisi

Umbalisi unquma indaba, akhethe imicimbi nemibono azoyifaka — futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, akhethe okufanele akushiye ngaphandle. Umlando kuthiwa ubhalwe ngabaphumelele. Kepha umlando ubhalwe ngempela yilabo bhala . Banquma ukuthi bazoyixoxa kanjani indaba.

Umlandi ubalulekile nezinkumbulo zethu zomuntu siqu. Ngubani otshela izindaba emndenini wakho, noma kumbuthano wakho wabangane? Lowo mlandisi udlala indima ebaluleke kakhulu ekutheni sakha kanjani kabusha izinkumbulo zethu kanye nesikhathi sethu esabiwe esidlule. Bakhetha ukuthi yiziphi izici okufanele bazifake, futhi banquma ukuthi yini esiyikhohlwayo. Banikeza umbono. Ngokwezinga elithile, banikeza ngamunye wethu izindima zethu ezinhle.

Ukukhumbula inqubo yokubambisana emaqenjini, noma ngabe yimindeni, abangani, noma osebenza nabo. Sisebenza ukuxoxa indaba ndawonye. Lapho iqembu selikhumbule okuthile ngokubambisana, lokho kukhumbula kuzothonya izinkumbulo zomuntu ngamunye. Mina nabafundi bami sikuphenye lokhu. Lapho abantu bekhumbula ndawonye, ​​ngamunye unikela izingcezu ezihlukile endabeni. Asibonanga umcimbi ofanayo ekuqaleni; sigxile ezicini ezahlukahlukene futhi sikhumbula imininingwane ehlukile. Kodwa ngokubambisana, singakhumbula ngaphezu kwanoma ngubani wethu yedwa.

Futhi kamuva, lapho umuntu ngamunye ekhumbula? Zizofaka imininingwane evela kwabanye, ngoba imininingwane enikezwe abanye izoba yingxenye yokuthi bakhumbula kanjani. Okubalulekile, ngeke bakwazi ukulandela ukuthi imemori kabani ekuqaleni; bazofuna izinkumbulo zomunye umuntu njengezabo, "beba" izinkumbulo ezivela kubangani nomndeni (uHyman et al., 2014; uJalbert et al., 2021). Singahle sidideke nokuthi ngubani owehlelwe umcimbi, bese siboleka yonke inkumbulo yomunye umuntu (Brown et al., 2015).

Kepha asimane sintshontshe izinkumbulo ezivela kwabanye abantu. Uma silalela omunye umuntu exoxa indaba, sifunda okufanele sikufake nalokho okufanele sikushiye ngaphandle. Uma sixoxa izindaba, sihlala sishiya eminye imininingwane ngaphandle. UBill Hirst nozakwabo bathole ukuthi uma umuntu eshiya okuthile endabeni, abanye abantu abalalele bavame ukushiya imininingwane efanayo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi lapho bexoxa indaba (Cuc, Koppel, & Hirst, 2007). Ngakho-ke sifunda nokuthi yini okufanele siyenze khohlwa ngokulalela ukuthi abanye abantu bazixoxa kanjani izindaba.

Emaqenjini amaningi, abantu abathile sebengababalisi abahamba phambili, abaholi bokukhumbula. Umuntu angahluka ngemisebenzi ehlukene yememori. Emindenini, umuntu oyedwa angahle abhekane nolunye ulwazi omunye umuntu ukuthola eminye imininingwane: Isibonelo, omunye uyakhumbula ukuthi angazithola kanjani izindawo ngenkathi omunye umuntu ekhumbula amagama (Harris et al., 2014). Kepha uma kukhulunywa ngemicimbi emikhulu, imvamisa umndeni uzoba nombalisi wezindaba oholayo, umbalisi ovelele (Cuc et al., 2006, 2007). Futhi, njenge Hamilton , indaba yalowo muntu izoba i indaba. Lapho abanye abantu bekhumbula okwenzekile, bazofaka imininingwane umbalisi ovelele ayifakile, futhi bazokhohlwa imininingwane eshiywe umbalisi oholayo.

Ukukhumbula okwedlule akusiyona into esiyenza ngokwethu. Sikhumbula nomndeni wethu nabangane. Futhi lokho umndeni wethu nabangane abakukhumbulayo kuzoba yilokho esikukhumbula kwesikhathi esedlule. Ngethemba ukuthi sonke sizoba no-Eliza Hamilton, umuntu owakha uhlobo lwakudala lapho singamaqhawe ezinguquko khona.

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