Ngingathembela Kubani? Ubuhlobo Buyisekela Kanjani Inhlalakahle

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• Ukuzibophezela kuzala ukuphepha.
• Ubudlelwano Obufundwayo Obubalulekile
• Isixhumanisi Esiphoqayo Phakathi Kothando Nobuhlakani

Abantu abaningi baseMelika — futhi empeleni, abantu abaningi emazweni amaningi emhlabeni wonke — bathambekele ekubeni nempilo enhle uma kuqhathaniswa. I-COVID ilethe ukuqwashisa okungazelelwe nokwethusayo kwabaningi balabo bantu ukuthi mhlawumbe impilo ayinakuthathwa kalula. "Uma kufanele ngigule, ngubani obezonginakekela?"

Mina nomyeni wami sazibonela lo mbuzo. Emavikini okuqala e-COVID, kwenzeka ukuthi sivakashele indodakazi yethu nomndeni wayo edolobheni elikude. Ngesinye isikhathi, saphenduka sabhekana ngokungazelelwe ukuze sibhekane nalowo mbuzo onzima: Ngubani ozosinakekela uma sithola i-COVID, noma ukugula kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo?

Lapho, senza isinqumo. Sobabili sabona ngokungazelelwe ukuthi esikhundleni sokundiza sibheke ekhaya eDenver — ikhaya lomndeni wethu ngezizukulwane eziningi kepha kude kakhulu nanoma yibaphi abantwana bethu abadala noma abazukulu bethu abaningi — sidinga ukuhlala eduze kwezingane zethu. "Asihlale lapha," sanquma."Ake sithole indawo yokuhlala ebangeni eliqhele ngezinyawo imizuzu embalwa ukusuka endodakazini yethu endala nomndeni wayo. Lokho kungasilethela ibangana nje ukusuka endodakazini unombolo 2 nomyeni wayo futhi sizalele idolobha elilodwa kude." Yilokho-isinqumo esingenakunqotshwa. Ngiyabonga, i-COVID, ngokwenza inkinga icace kangaka.

Abanye abaningi ngokusobala bebenza izinqumo ezifanayo. Njengoba uJamie Ducharme abhale ku Isikhathi , "Emhlabeni wobudlelwano, ama-jeweler abika ukwanda kwamadijithi aphindwe kabili ekuthengisweni kwezindandatho zokubandakanya, i- Washington Post kubikwe ngoDisemba. Esitatimendeni sango-2020 sombiko kaMatch wonyaka we-Singles in America, abangaphezu kwesigamu sabaphenduli bathi babeka phambili ukuphola futhi bacabanga kabusha ngezimfanelo abazifunayo kumlingani wabo, okungenzeka ukuthi kubangelwe ngukuphazamiseka okuphelele kwezenhlalo kulo nyaka. "

Umbuzo olandelayo: Ungaqiniseka kanjani ukuthi ungancika kulowo (muntu) omthandayo?

Yibuphi obudlelwano bakho obunamandla okuqina ngokwanele ukukunika umuzwa wokuvikeleka embuzweni wokuthi ngubani ozoba khona lapho ezikhathini ezinzima?

Isikhathi, ukunakwa, nesikhathi esimnandi esabiwe kungaziqinisa lezo zibopho. Ukusondela kwendawo kuyasiza. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, kungakanani amandla amabi nokuthi "kudlidliza" okungakanani okugeleza ekuxhumaneni kwakho nalobo budlelwano kunomthelela ekuvikelekeni kobudlelwano bakho.

Qaphela ukuthi ungakanani amandla owanikezayo ngokumomotheka, ukuxhumana kwamehlo, ukwazisa, uthando, intshisekelo kokunye, ukuhlanganyela ukuhleka, nokunakekelana.

Qaphela futhi ukuthi unikeza okungakanani okuphambene. Sethemba ukuthi cishe akunazinkinga, okungukuthi, akukho zikhalazo, ukugxeka, ukusola, ukuba nenkani, ukutshela umlingani wakho ukuthi enzeni, noma ukuthukuthela.

Cishe kuwo wonke umuntu, kunokunye okungenza ukuba umzali wakho, umndeni owandisiwe, ubungani, okunye okubalulekile, umshado, nobunye ubudlelwano kujabulise kakhulu no-futhi kuthembeke lapho ubudinga ngempela. (Funda kabanzi kuwebhusayithi yami.)

Ukuzibophezela kuzala ukuphepha.

Ukuzibophezela nakho kubalulekile. Yilokho okwenza umshado ube ukubheja okuphephe kakhulu kunokuhlala ndawonye. Umshado ungeza isibopho esisemthethweni. Futhi kuvamise ukuqina kokushintsha kwengqondo kwangaphakathi kusuka kungenzeka uku ngokuqinisekile naphakade .

Ukuzibophezela emshadweni kunemikhawulo. Leyo nkontileka ingaphulwa uma ukusebenzisana okuhle kungaphelele ngokwanele futhi amandla amabi aphezulu kakhulu. Noma uma umlingani oyedwa eba yisisulu salokho engikubiza ngo-3 A's: Addiction, Affairs, and Anger abusive.

Iphuzu eliyinhloko: Ngabe usebenzisa lokho ngethemba lokuthi kuzoba yizinyanga ezimbalwa zokugcina ze-COVID njengesisekelo sokuthuthukisa ubudlelwano obusemqoka empilweni yakho?

Impela, le nkathi ye-COVID yenzelwe isikhathi esiningi sokuncishwa: ukulahleka kwemali engenayo, izinkinga emsebenzini, izinselelo zokuhlukaniswa kakhulu nomphakathi, ukulahlekelwa yinkululeko yokuphuma nokuhamba, futhi ngenxa yokuningi kakhulu, ukugula okungathi sína ngisho nokufa .

Kodwa-ke, ngasikhathi sinye, i-COVID inikeza ithuba lokuhlola kabusha ukuthi ngubani ongethembela kuye empilweni yakho — nesikhathi sokucabanga ngokujulile ngokuthi yini ongafuna ukuyithuthukisa kulobo budlelwano. Yini ongayenza ngokuhlukile ukunciphisa izingxabano nokunothisa ukuhamba kokuxhumana okuhle kulobo budlelwano?

Ukuvuselelwa kobudlelwano kungukutshalwa kwemali okuphelele. Bayakukhokhela izinzuzo zakho manje — futhi ngasikhathi sinye bakhuphule izingqinamba zokuthi lapho udinga ngokukhethekile ukunakekelwa nokusekelwa, lowo muntu uyobe ekulungele. Ngiyabonga, i-COVID, ngokusikhumbuza ukuthi sihlakulele izibopho eziqinile nezothando nalabo, ngolunye usuku, esingadinga ukuthembela kubo.

Ubudlelwano Obufundwayo Obubalulekile

Isixhumanisi Esiphoqayo Phakathi Kothando Nobuhlakani