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• Amaphuzu abalulekile

Amaphuzu abalulekile

• Abaningi bethu babona inqubo nesakhiwo sansuku zonke njengokuphikisana nokuphila impilo yentshiseko nentshiseko.
• Inkolelo enjalo yinkolelo yamanga egcina iphazamise isiyalo sethu sokwamukela njengokhiye wempilo enomdlandla.
• Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi siyathanda noma cha, ukuze siphumelele kunoma yini, sidinga ukuzibandakanya kokuziphatha okuphindaphindayo futhi okuvame ukuba nesidina.
• Singathatha izinyathelo ezithile ukuguqula isiyalo sibe yinto ebalulekile yokwakha impilo enentshisekelo, nenenjongo esithemba yona.

Enye yezingcaphuno ezijulile engake ngazizwa ngesikhathi se-movie ye-1989 ethi "Lean on Me." UMorgan Freeman wayeveza uJoe Clark ongasekho, owayenguThishanhloko wase-Eastside High School ePaterson, eNew Jersey. Ngesikhathi enkulumweni eyenzelwe ukugqugquzela othisha ukuthi bafundise abafundi kangcono, ubhoke wathi, "Ukukhuza akusona isitha somdlandla." Yazwakala inamandla amakhulu ngoba ngangazi ukuthi iyiqiniso — kodwa-ke kwakuphikisana nendlela engangiphila ngayo kuze kube yileso sikhathi empilweni yami.

Kwabaningi bethu, amagama athi “isheduli” noma “isakhiwo” ngokwemvelo afaka umqondo wokuba “nenqubo ejwayelekile.” Senza izinto ezifanayo kaninginingi ngokuhluka okuncane noma ukungabikho nhlobo. Nsuku zonke sasivuka ngasikhathi sinye, sidle ngasikhathi sinye, sisebenze amahora afanayo, sivivinya umzimba ngasikhathi sinye, mhlawumbe siphumule kancane usuku ngalunye. Sithenjiswa ukuthi uma sikwazi ukwamukela okujwayelekile, sizoba nokuphila okuzinzile, okunempilo, nokukhiqizayo. Konke okuphathelene naleyo ndlela kusho ukulinganisela, kuphele isithukuthezi. Sivuma ukulandela inqubo ngejubane elincane, elingaguquguquki, nelingaguquguquki ukuze siphile impilo eyamukelekayo futhi "ibe ngabantu abadala".

Kepha sicabanga ukuthi kukhona ukuhweba okusobala. Ukuthi kudingeka ukuthi siyeke ukuthanda kwethu. Kumele "sikhule" futhi singabe sisalangazelela imicimbi ethokozisayo nengathandeki ezimpilweni zethu. Asisaphuphi ukuba yisihlabani se-rock, umsubathi ophambili, noma umlingisi ophumelelayo. Sezadlula izinsuku zamaphathi anzima, imibono yebhizinisi ejabulisayo kepha eyingozi, nokuhamba kalula. Amathemba ethu okuphila impilo yasendle kufanele ahlolwe emnyango.

Impela, singavunyelwa ukuphuza iziphuzo ezimbalwa lapha nalaphaya, mhlawumbe impelasonto yegalufu emnandi, noma siye kuhambo oluhle nomlingani wethu nomndeni wethu. Kepha sekukonke, besidinga ukuthi ekugcineni sibe ngabantu abadala futhi sibone ukuthi ubumnandi busemuva kwethu. Sidinga isiyalo, inqubo, nokwakheka manje.Eqinisweni, noma imuphi umuzwa wokuphuma ngaphandle kwebhokisi bese ulandela izinkanuko zethu uyachithwa njengobusha ngokuphelele futhi ungavuthiwe — okuyisongo esikhona esiyalweni nasekwakhiweni esikudingayo ukuze sibe nempilo futhi sijabule.

Kungani?

Yebo, esinye isizathu ukuthi siyiqiniso ngokwengxenye. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi siyathanda noma cha, ukuze siphumelele kunoma yini, sidinga ukuzibandakanya kokuziphatha okuphindaphindayo futhi okuvame ukuba nesidina. Ufuna ukuba nomsebenzi okhokhelwayo oqhubekayo? Kungangcono sibe semsebenzini usuku nosuku. Ufuna impilo enempilo? Sidinga ukulala njalo, ukudla okunempilo, ukuzivocavoca umzimba, nokuhlala kude nezinto eziyingozi usuku nosuku. Unethemba lokuba nobudlelwano obuhle nomndeni? Vumela omunye wakho obalulekile azi ukuthi awuzizwa uphoqelekile ukuba ube nabo njalo futhi uzobona ukuthi kusebenza kanjani lokho. Uma sifuna impumelelo, sidinga ukujwayela nokuziphatha.

Esinye isizathu esenza sicabange ukuthi isiyalo siyisitha sentshiseko ukuthi isingeniso sethu sokuqala sokuyala ngendlela ejwayelekile kanye namashejuli saphikiswa kithina. Asikaze sibuzwe ukuthi sifunani — sasitshelwa nje ukuthi senzeni. Kwakungekho ukuthengwa futhi kwakungekho ukukhetha. Kwakufanele siye esikoleni njalo phakathi nesonto. Kwakudingeka silale ngesikhathi sokulala futhi sivuke ekuseni kakhulu esikoleni. Kwakudingeka sidle ukudla kwethu ngezikhathi ezithile.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma singazenzi lezi zinto, kube nemiphumela emibi. Sizoboshwa noma simiswe esikoleni, sibekelwe phansi noma singavunyelwe ukwenza ezinye zezinto esizithandayo. Noma kwezinye izimo, abanye bethu baze bashaywa noma bahlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo. Futhi uma lokho bekusho ukuthi besingazijabulisi kakhulu — makube njalo. Lalela kuqala, buza imibuzo kamuva — uma-ke — kwakuyindlela ephephe kunazo zonke yokuthola futhi ekugcineni ukhule ube nempilo yabantu abadala esebenzayo.

Kepha inkinga ngalo mqondo ukuthi sakha i-dichotomy engamanga. Ukujeziswa akusikho nje kuphela ukuthi kuyisitha sentshiseko, kepha mhlawumbe ukuphela kwendlela yokuthuthukisa nokukhuthaza umdlandla ezimpilweni zethu. Yisiyalo uqobo njengoba siboniswa enkambisweni, ekwakhiweni nasekuhlelweni okusivumela ukuthi siphumelele.

Impela, singangena esiteji amahlandla ambalwa uma sinethalente eliluhlaza. Kepha asisoze saba ngongqondongqondo be-rock, abasubathi abangochwepheshe, noma abalingisi abadumile ngaphandle kokubekezelela iminyaka yokuzijwayeza. Futhi uma inhloso yethu ukwenza umsebenzi wethu wobuciko uphumelele, kufanele samukele ukuthi kuzothatha izinkulungwane zamahora okugaya okuhamba kancane nokuqinile.

Bengilokhu ngicabanga okuningi ngalolu daba selokhu ngikhulume noMarc Labelle weqembu le-rock elizinze eLos Angeles iDirty Honey IHardcore Humanism Podcast . Lapho sicabanga ngamabhendi e-rock aqinile, sithambekele ekucabangeni ngalolo daba oluthinta inkanuko yokuzijabulisa, ukunamathela kumuntu, intsha eseyikhulile eyenzeka ngenhlanhla ngokuthi ilebula elithile lokurekhoda libakhiphe ebumnyameni futhi zenze izinkanyezi. Kepha uLabelle — owahlala ngaphandle kwemoto yakhe cishe unyaka wonke, waphinde waba semapulangweni abanye abantu — ngokushesha wenza inqubo ehlelekile ebandakanya ukuzivocavoca umzimba, ukusebenza, ukushaya ibhendi yakhe ngokungaguquguquki, nokudlala imibukiso ukuze afeze iphupho lakhe lomculo we-rock .

Ngakho-ke sisebenzisa kanjani isiyalo ukukhuthaza kunokunciphisa intshiseko yethu?

Okokuqala, kufanele sikwenqabe ngokweqile ukwaziswa okungamanga kokuthi isiyalo siyisitha sentshiseko. Esikhundleni salokho, kufanele samukele umbono wokuthi noma yini esingahle sifune ukuyenza ezokhipha intshiseko yethu nomdlandla empeleni izobekwa ekuyaleni, ekwenziweni nasekuhlelweni. Ngokwenza njalo, futhi siyenqaba ngokusobala umbono wokuthi impilo "yabantu abadala" kanye "nokuvuthwa" yilapho okufanele siyeke khona umdlandla nentshisekelo. Yilowo myalezo wamanga ogcina uphazamise isiyalo sethu sokwamukela njengokhiye wempilo enomdlandla.

Okwesibili, kudingeka sithole injongo yokuphila. Yini esenza sijabule? Yini esigcwalisa ngentshisekelo? Yini eyenza sizizwe sixhumene nabanye? Ngokusungula umbono wethu wempilo esiyifunayo, siwenqaba ngokuphelele umqondo wokuthi kukhona omunye ophethe. Ngakho-ke, isiyalo manje sesingaqondakala kumongo wombono wethu wempilo yethu — hhayi owomunye umuntu. Ngakho-ke, singabanikazi bayo njengengxenye yezinto eziphilayo zonke — imoto yentshiseko yethu.

Okulandelayo, sisebenzela emuva, singazibuza, "Yini okudingeka siyenze ukufeza injongo yethu?" Yini ezosisiza nsukuzonke, masonto onke, nyanga zonke, minyaka yonke ukwakha impilo yomdlandla, intshisekelo, nokuxhumana? Ngemuva kwalokho singabeka isheduli ngezinyathelo ezengeziwe ezizosiholela ekugcineni ezinhlosweni zethu. Futhi njengoba siqhubeka nezinsuku zethu, singangena njalo ukuqinisekisa ukuthi inqubo yethu empeleni iyona engcono kakhulu yokwakha impilo enomdlandla, enogqozi nenenjongo. Le yinqubo eqhubekayo yokuthinta, ngoba lokho okudala umdlandla kungashintsha nokuthi yini esingayenza ukufeza izinhloso zethu kungashintsha.

Ekugcineni, kudingeka sazi ukuthi njengoba siqhubeka nempilo yethu eqondisiwe, ngeke sihlale sinomdlandla ngaso sonke isikhathi. Imvamisa sizozwa ukuthi lokhu esikwenzayo kuphindaphindiwe futhi kuyisicefe. Futhi kunjalo. Ukwakha umdlandla ekugcineni kugaya. Kepha ukugaya okwenza izinto kwenziwe. Kuzodingeka sizikhumbuze njalo ukuthi le misebenzi ejwayelekile futhi enzima yizinto ezisisondeza ezinhlosweni zethu. Futhi uma silandela inqubo yethu futhi samukela iqiniso lokuthi ekugcineni isiyalo akusona isitha sentshiseko, singaba nokuphila okunentshisekelo, okunenjongo esikuthemba.