Kungani Kwesinye Isikhathi Ukuthi "Cha" ezinganeni zakho Kubaluleke Kangaka

Abazali abesaba ukubeka unyawo lwabo phansi bavame ukuba nezingane ezizinyathela izinzwane. —Isaga samaShayina

Ungakukholwa noma ungakukholwa, abazali benza kabi izingane zabo lapho zingaziniki ithuba lokuthi zitshelwe ukuthi “cha.”

Kubazali abaningi, kuheha njalo ukuvuma izifiso zezingane zabo — ikakhulukazi uma bekwazi ukufeza lezo zifiso, kepha kaningi noma bengakwazi. Abazali ngokwemvelo bafuna izingane zabo zijabule. Kodwa-ke, injabulo enikezwa izinto ezibonakalayo idlula ngokushesha, futhi ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi kunecala lokuphambuka ekukhuliseni isidingo sokuthola "into" entsha elandelayo, kungaba ithoyizi okufanele ube nalo okwamanje noma imodeli yakamuva ye-smartphone. Kukhuthaza umuzwa wokushoda ongasuthiswa okwesikhashana kuphela. [1]

Izingane zakho zingabonga kakhulu lapho ziqala ukuthola into entsha "eshisayo", kepha kaningi lokho kuphelela kumnyama ngokushesha lapho ukushisa okusha okulandelayo kufika emakethe. Ngaleso sikhathi, ezingqondweni zezingane ezinjalo, lokho abanakho kukhishwa ngokushesha kungasasebenzi futhi kungagculisi ngokujulile. Futhi, uma uvuma bese uthola izingane zakho lokho kushisa okusha sha, lapho kutholakala iteration elandelayo, amandla ayaphindwa. Lokhu kuba ngumbuthano onobungozi oqhubekayo odala ukungajabuli nokungagculiseki.

Phakathi kwezifundo ezibaluleke kakhulu ongazifundisa izingane zakho ukuthi injabulo yangempela ayitholakali ekutholeni okufunayo; kufakwe ekwaziseni nasekusebenziseni okuhle onakho.

Ukufunda ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nokungakutholi okufunayo futhi lapho ukufuna kuyikhono elibalulekile wonke umuntu adinga ukulihlakulela. Kunezizathu ezahlukahlukene abazali abaningi abakuthandi ukusetha nokuphoqelela imikhawulo nezingane zabo:

• Abafuni ukubhekana nokucasuka / intukuthelo yezingane zabo
• Bakhokhela icala elihlobene nokuhlangenwe nakho kwangaphambilini nezingane zabo
• Banesifiso esingenampilo sokuba abangane nezingane zabo
• Bakholelwa ukuthi izingane zabo kufanele zibe nakho konke abakufunayo
• Bafuna izingane zabo zithole okungaphezu kwalokho ezakwenza njengezingane ngokwazo
• Abafuni ukuthi izingane zabo zincishwe amathuba njengoba kungenzeka

Ingabe kukhona okunye kwalokhu okuvumelana nawe?

Ngisho nabazali okuthi, nganoma yisiphi isizathu (izizathu), benze konke okusemandleni abo ukugwema ukuthi cha ezinganeni zabo, nakanjani kuzofika iphuzu lapho befuna futhi kumele babeke imingcele. Lokhu kuzoba yindlela entsha yesihogo sabo bonke abathintekayo. Lapho izingane zakho zijwayele ukuphuza ngokweqile, ukungatholi noma yini eziyifunayo kuzwakala ngokungazelelwe njengokuncishwa okuthile.

Ukuthi cha kuyindlela yokubeka imingcele. Ngokwemvelo, izingane zakho zizohlola imikhawulo oyibekayo futhi zikuvivinye ukuqinisekisa ukuthi leyo mikhawulo ingeyeqiniso yini noma cha. Bangancenga, bancenge, bahlabe umkhosi, bakhale, bavuse isivunguvungu, bathukuthele ngokweqile, noma konke lokhu okungenhla. Ngokwengxenye lokhu kukhombisa ukukhathazeka kwabo ngokungakutholi abakufunayo, kepha futhi bafuna ukubona ukuthi bangakuthola yini ukuthi unikeze.

Uma uvumela, uthumela umyalezo ezinganeni zakho wokuthi "cha" akusho ukuthi cha, nokuthi uma bencenga, bencenga, bekhala, noma bekhala, bazokuthola abakufunayo. Ukunikela kuqinisa indlela izingane zakho eziziphendulela ngayo, okwenza kube lula ukuphinda futhi kube nzima ukucima.

Ubushelelezi baleli thambeka abungeqiwa. Uma uqine futhi ubambelela emikhawulweni oyibekela ngokungaguquguquki, izingane zakho zizofunda ngokuqhubekayo ukwamukela leyo mikhawulo kalula futhi ngokushesha okukhulu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma ubambelela ngokuqinile ekuqaleni kepha uguquke ngoba izingane zakho zikukhathaza futhi zikwenze uvume ngokuqhubeka nokunxusa, ukuncenga, ukukhala, noma ukukhala, empeleni lokho okufundise kona ukuthi uma ncenga, ncenga, khala, noma khala yanele ngokwanele , ekugcineni bazokuthola abakufunayo.

Kuyasiza ukwazi ukuthi uma uthi cha, akudingeki kube nomdlalo omningi. Ukuba oqondile nogxilile ngenkathi ujova ukuthintwa okuhlekisayo kungenza le nqubo ibe engebuhlungu. Mina nonina wamadodakazi ami sasisebenzisa imishwana enjengokuthi “Get real, Neil,” “No way, Jose,” “No chance, Lance,” no “Nope, akwenzeki.” Siziphindaphindile lezi zimpendulo ngokusobala njengoba kudingekile — njengemantra noma ingoma ebhajwe ekuphindeni — futhi kwaba nempumelelo enkulu ekusizeni amadodakazi ethu ukuthi afunde ukwamukela ukuthi, ezimweni ezinjalo, babengeke bathole noma yini babefuna.

Uma kunabazali ababili (noma ngaphezulu) abathintekayo, kusobala ukuthi kubalulekile ukuba bavumelane uma kuziwa ekubekeni nasekusebenziseni imingcele. Ukungqubuzana phakathi kwabazali kuvamise ukubadalela phansi futhi kuthumele imiyalezo exubile futhi edidayo ezinganeni zabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, izingane ezinekhono lokufunda ukudlala umzali oyedwa ziqhathane nomunye ukuthola ukuthi yimuphi umzali okufanele aye kuye ukuze kukhuliswe amathuba okuthola lokho abakufunayo. Le ndawo iba yinkimbinkimbi kakhulu lapho abazali bengekho ndawonye, ​​kepha kungokwenzuzo yezingane zabo ukuthi abazali balwele ukucula kusuka emshinini ofanayo womculo kuze kufike ezingeni eliphezulu abakwazi ngalo.

Izingane zidinga ukwakheka nemikhawulo, futhi abazali badinga ukuba nesibindi namandla okubeka engcupheni futhi bakwazi ukumelana nokuhlasela okungokomzwelo kokukhungatheka kwabantwana babo, ukudabuka, intukuthelo, nezinye izinhlobo zokucasuka. Lokhu kuyindlela yokubekezelelana kokucindezeleka futhi kungaba nzima kakhulu kubazali abaningi.

Angazi noma yimuphi umzali okujabulelayo lapho izingane zakhe zibathukuthelele, kepha uma uqhubeka uvumela izifiso nezifiso zezingane zakho, wenza noma yini eziyifunayo uzitholele noma yini eziyifunayo, kudala ukulindela okungenangqondo kokuthi kusebenza umhlaba. Bafunda ukubona umhlaba njengamanje ukuthi usebenze izidingo zabo abazibonayo, okwenza kube nzima ngabo ukuthi baphumelele ngokuzayo, ngaphansi kwezimo ezinganaki lezo zidingo.

Izingane zidinga ukuba nolwazi lokufunda ukubambezela ukuthokozisa nokubhekana nemikhawulo ebekelwe zona. Ukuqina izingane zakho ezikuthola kokuhlangenwe nakho okunjalo kuhlala impilo yonke, kanti intukuthelo nentukuthelo abakuqondisa yona ingeyesikhashana.

Imininingwane 2018 Dan Mager, MSW