Izindlela Ezingama-20 Zokuhlala Uqinile Kulezi Zikhathi Ezinenkinga

Ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ezedlule, ngizwe izitatimende eziningi ezifanayo ezivela kumakhasimende engiwabonile ...

“Ngizwile yonke indawo muva nje.”

"Ngikhungathekile."

“Ngizizwa ngivalekile.”

Ngikhathele njalo. ”

"Engifuna ukukwenza nje ukukhasa embhedeni ngihlale lapho kuze kuphele lokhu."

"Angikholwa umhlaba engihlala kuwo."

"Bengisebenza kahle nabantu engibathandayo."

Kunzima kimi ukucabanga ngekusasa. ”

Ngabe kukhona okufundile nje kunananela imicabango yakho muva nje? Uma bekufanele ngiqagele, bengingasho ukuthi okungenani ezinye zazo zizwakale ezingeni elithile. Ngiyazi ukuthi kuyangizwela. Ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ezedlule, ngizwe ukushintsha kwamandla ami, imizwa yami, isikhathi sami sokunaka nokubekezelela kwami. Ngizwile izinguquko emzimbeni wami futhi ngabona ukuguqulwa ekubukeni kwami ​​kwezinto.

Kwabaningi bethu, okuhlangenwe nakho okuhlangene esidlule kukho kuphazamise ngokuphelele ukuqagela esivame ukuthembela kukho ezimpilweni zethu. Idabule imbobo endalweni yezimpilo zethu — leyo esiyitholayo ayikwazi ukuthungwa ibuyele emuva ngendlela ebekade ngayo. Esiphila kukho njengamanje kufana nokuncane kwalokho esake saphila kukho phambilini. Sisendaweni engajwayelekile. Simi emhlabathini ontengantengayo. Futhi ukushaqeka kwalokhu kuphazamiseka kuhamba kithi ngezindlela eziningi.

Ngaphansi kwalezi zimo ezingajwayelekile, kunengqondo ngathi ukuthi sizizwe singajwayelekile ngokwethu. Izingqondo zethu, imizimba yethu, izinhlelo zethu zemizwa, kanye nobudlelwano bethu konke kusabela kuzinguquko futhi kuzama ukuzivumelanisa ngokufanele. Le nqubo yokuzivumelanisa nezimo ayihlali ibushelelezi noma iqondile ngaso sonke isikhathi — futhi kungasithwalisa kanzima uma singaqapheli ukuyiphendula. Kungakho kubaluleke kakhulu kunakuqala ukuthi sisebenzele ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zethu ukuze sikwazi ukuzinakekela ngangokunokwenzeka. Nazi izindlela ezimbalwa zokwenza lokho:

1. Gcina iphephabhuku bese ubhala njalo ukuthi uzizwa kanjani, uhlangabezana nani, nokuthi yini okudingayo.
2. Setha imikhawulo ekusebenziseni kwakho izindaba nezindaba zenhlalo.
3. Chitha isikhathi ngaphandle, bese uxhuma nemvelo ngangokunokwenzeka.
4. Zimisele ukucindezela inkinobho yokumisa isikhashana ezingxoxweni ezinzima ukuze uzilinganise futhi ukhulume ngokucaca okungaphezulu.
5. Zama izinga lakho ngokusemandleni ukuze uthole ukulala okungu-7-9 amahora ubusuku ngabunye.
6. Xhuma ngomzimba wakho, futhi uhambe ngangokunokwenzeka.
7. Gcina amafutha abalulekile esandleni (i-lavender, ukhuni lomsedari nenhlaka yempepho kuyasiza kakhulu ekunciphiseni nasekugxileni). Gcoba amaconsi angu-1-2 ezintendeni zezandla zakho, ulethe izandla zakho amasentimitha ambalwa ebusweni bakho, bese uphefumula kancane.
8. Qala umkhuba wokuzindla kanye / noma wokuphefumula.
9. Zibandakanye ekuzihlambalazeni, noma ucele umlingani wakho ukuthi akuhlikihle (khona-ke, buyisela umusa).
10. Thatha amakhefu ngamabomu kufoni nakukhompyutha yakho.
11. Gcina ukudla okuningi okunomsoco ekudleni kwakho.
12. Yenza iseshini ye-teletherapy ukucubungula obhekene nakho futhi kukusize uhlale ulinganisile.
13. Zigcine unamanzi amaningi.
14. Prakthiza izivivinyo zokubeka phansi (njengokulungisa izinzwa zakho ezinhlanu, eyodwa ngasikhathi).
15. Xhuma nomphakathi wakho bese unikela kwabanye nganoma iziphi izindlela ongakwenza ngazo.
16. Zinikele ekuchitheni isikhathi ezintweni ezikwenza uzizwe ukhululekile futhi ujabulile.
17. Hlala wazi imizamo yengqondo yakho yokubikezela ukuthi ikusasa lizobukeka kanjani (ngoba ubuchopho obukhathazekile buvame ukugcwalisa izikhala ngezinto ezisezingeni elibi kakhulu).
18. Thembela kumasiko akho okholo noma imikhuba engokomoya ukukusekela ekuthembeni impilo.
19. Yiba mnene ngendlela okhuluma ngayo kuwe.
20. Zimisele ukukhulula noma uyeke izindinganiso ozibekele zona (nezingane zakho) ezinyangeni eziyisithupha ezedlule.

Lolu hlu aluphelele neze; kunezindlela ezingenakubalwa zokuzinakekela njengoba uhamba kulezi zikhathi ezinzima. Kepha noma ngabe ukhetha ukuphendula ngokwenzekayo, ngiyethemba ukuthi uzokwenza ngomqondo wokwamukela, ukuzazi, nokuzizwela. Lokhu, nakho, kuzodlula; futhi kuze kube kwenzeka, sizokhonzwa kangcono ngokuzenzela okuhle thina nabanye.