Izinto eziyi-9 okufanele uzazi ngemiphumela yokushoda

Ezomnotho isifundo sokuthi sizisebenzisa kanjani izinsiza zethu eziyindlala - njengesikhathi nemali - ukufeza izinhloso zethu. Umnyombo wezomnotho umqondo wokuthi “asikho isidlo sasemini samahhala” ngoba “asinakho konke.” Ukuthola okuningi kwento eyodwa, sinika ithuba lokuthola into elandelayo ehamba phambili. Ukushoda akuyona nje imikhawulo ngokomzimba. Ukushoda kuthinta nokucabanga kwethu nemizwa yethu.

1. Ukubeka izinto eziza kuqala . Ukushoda kubeka phambili ukukhetha kwethu futhi kungasenza siphumelele ngokwengeziwe. Isibonelo, ingcindezi yesikhathi somnqamulajuqu igxilisa ukunaka kwethu ekusebenziseni esinakho ngempumelelo kakhulu. Iziphazamiso azikhangi kangako. Lapho sinesikhathi esincane esisele, sizama ukuthola okuningi ngomzuzu ngamunye.

2. Ukucabanga kokuhweba. Ukushoda kuphoqa ukucabanga kokuhweba. Siyabona ukuthi ukuba nento eyodwa kusho ukungabi nenye into. Ukwenza into eyodwa kusho ukungazinaki ezinye izinto. Lokhu kuchaza ukuthi kungani sidlula izinto zamahhala (isb., Amapensela amahhala, amaketanga okhiye, nokuthunyelwa KWAMAHHALA). Lokhu kuthengiselana akunacala.

3. Izifiso ezingagcwaliseki. Ukuvinjelwa ezintweni ezifiselekayo kugxilisa ingqondo ngokuzenzakalela futhi ngamandla ngezidingo ezingagcwaliseki. Isibonelo, ukudla kudonsa ukugxila kwabalambile. Sizokujabulela kakhulu ukudla kwethu kwasemini ngenxa yokuncishwa ibhulakufesi. Indlala iwusoso omuhle kakhulu.

4. Ukuphela kwengqondo. Intela yentela izinsiza zokuqonda futhi ibangela ukwehluleka kokuzithiba. Lapho ukwazi ukukhokhela okuncane kakhulu, izinto eziningi kakhulu zidinga ukumelana nazo. Futhi ukumelana nezilingo eziningi kunciphisa amandla. Lokhu kuchaza ukuthi kungani abantu abampofu kwesinye isikhathi belwa nokuzithiba. Zifushane hhayi ngemali nje kuphela kodwa nasekuzimiseleni.

5. I-myopia yengqondo. Umongo wokushoda usenza sibe yi-myopic (ubandlululo lapha nanamuhla). Ingqondo igxile ekushodweni kwanamuhla. Silinganisela izinzuzo ezisheshayo ngokunganaki ezizayo. Sihlehlisa izinto ezibalulekile, njengokuhlolwa ngudokotela noma ukuzivocavoca umzimba. Sibheka kuphela izinto eziphuthumayo bese sehluleka ukwenza imali encane, noma ngabe izinzuzo zesikhathi esizayo zingaba zinkulu.

6. Ukumaketha ngokushoda. Ukushoda kuyisici esandisa inani elibonakalayo lomkhiqizo. Izitolo eziningi ngobuchule zakha umbono wokushoda ukugqugquzela ukuthenga okugqugquzela. Isibonelo, umkhuba wamanani wokunciphisa inani lezinto umuntu ngamunye (isb., Amathini amabili esobho ngomuntu ngamunye) kungaholela ekuthengisweni okwandisiwe. Uphawu lukhomba ukuthi izinto ziyashoda futhi abathengi kufanele bazizwe bephuthuma mayelana nokuzibeka. Ukwesaba ukuphuthelwa kungaba nethonya elinamandla kubathengi.

7. Izithelo ezingavunyelwe. Abantu bafisa okungaphezulu kwalokho abangakwazi ukuba nakho. Ukushoda kusebenza njengesithiyo ekuphishekeleni imigomo, okuqinisa inani lenhloso. Isibonelo, amalebula okuxwayisa ezinhlelweni zethelevishini ezinobudlova, enzelwe ukwehlisa inzalo, imvamisa ibuyisela emuva futhi inyuse inani labantu ababukela lolu hlelo. Kwesinye isikhathi abantu bafuna izinto ngokunembile ngoba abakwazi ukuba nazo: "Utshani buhlala buluhlaza ngaphesheya."

8. Ukuyidlala ipholile. Umphumela wokushoda uchaza ukuthi kungani ubuhlanya buvame ukubhekwa njengesici esikhangayo. Ukudlala kanzima ukuthola isu eliphumelela kakhulu lokuheha umlingani, ikakhulukazi kumongo wothando lwesikhathi eside (noma lomshado) lapho umuntu efisa ukuqiniseka ngokuzibophezela komlingani wakhe. Isidlali "esinzima ukuthola" sithanda ukubonakala simatasa, sidala uzungu, futhi sigcine abakhongi beqagela. Njengoba uProust aphawula, “Indlela engcono kakhulu yokuzenza ufunwe ukuthi kube nzima ukuyithola.”

9. Gxila emisebenzini ezuzisayo. Ukushoda nakho kungasikhulula. Ukushoda kunikela empilweni ethokozisayo nenenjongo. Lapho isikhathi silinganiselwe, imigomo ephathelene nokuthola incazelo engokomzwelo empilweni ibekwa phambili. I-Midlife ivame ukuqinisa umuzwa wokuthi asisekho isikhathi esanele empilweni sokuchitha. Sinqoba inkohliso yokuthi singaba yilutho, senze noma yini, futhi sizwe konke. Sihlela kabusha izimpilo zethu ngezidingo ezibalulekile. Lokhu kusho ukuthi siyakwemukela ukuthi kuzoba nezinto eziningi esingeke sizenze ezimpilweni zethu.