Kungani Abantu Bakhohlisa Ebudlelwaneni? Izisusa eziyisishiyagalombili zokhiye
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- Izizathu Eziningi Zokukopela
- I-Anatomy Yendaba
- Ingabe Abantu Ufuna Ukubanjwa?
- Ukuvuma Kokukhohlisa
- Ucansi Lubalulekile Ukufundwa
- Kungani Kubukeka Njengabanye Abantu Bakujabulela Ucansi Kunakho
- Kunezizathu eziyisishiyagalombili ezishukumisayo eziholela abantu ekungathembekini, futhi iningi alibandakanyi ucansi.
- Abantu abaningi bakopela ngenxa yentukuthelo, ukungabi naluthando, ukuzibophezela okuphansi, ukwazisa, nokunganakwa. Futhi, abanye abakhohlisi bafuna ukutholakala.
- Abesifazane banezindaba ezinde, futhi izindaba nazo bezizinde futhi ziyanelisa ngokomoya lapho ababambiqhaza bezizwa besondelene nomlingani wabo abathandana naye.
Ukukopela. Kungukugcina ukwephulwa kobudlelwano, futhi omunye wababulali bobudlelwano obudume kakhulu. Kepha zonke izindaba azenziwanga zilingana. Obunye balobu budlelwano ngama-tryst amafushane, okunye kuyizindaba ezinde. Ukungathembeki komlingani kungabuqeda ubudlelwano, kepha hhayi njalo. Ukuqonda ukuthi le miphumela ehlukene ivela kanjani, kufanele sibuyele ekuqaleni. Kungani abalingani bengathembekile kwasekuqaleni?
Ekufuneni izimpendulo, umgilwa ovame kakhulu ukuthola ukuthi yini engekho ebudlelwaneni, ikakhulukazi kwezocansi. Kepha lolo hlobo lomdlalo wokusola ukwenziwa lula ngokweqile okuphuthelwa okuningi okwenzeka ngempela. Empeleni, ucwaningo olusanda kushicilelwa nguDylan Selterman, Justin Garcia, no-Irene Tsapelas luthole ukuthi uhhafu kuphela wabakhohlisi owabika ukuthi baya ocansini. Impela, ucansi luyingxenye yesithombe, kepha uma ukukopela kungekona okocansi kuphela, yini-ke eyenza abantu bangathembeki?
Izizathu Eziningi Zokukopela
Izizathu eziningi. Ucwaningo olufanayo lusampule abantu abangama-495 abavuma ukuthi bakopela ebudlelwaneni babo. Ukuqonda okwenziwayo, abacwaningi babanikeza izinto ezingama-77 zonke ezibuzwa ukuthi: Kungani ukwenzile? Ukuhlaziywa kuveze izizathu eziyisishiyagalombili ezisemqoka, eziningi zazo ezingabandakanyi nhlobo ucansi. Isibonelo, abaningi bathe bakopela ngenxa yentukuthelo, ukungabi naluthando, ukuzibophezela okuphansi, isithunzi, isimo, nokunganakwa. Okubaluleke kakhulu, izizathu zokuthi kungani bekhohlisile azigcinanga ngokuthinta izindaba zabo kepha nobudlelwano babo obuyinhloko.
I-Anatomy Yendaba
Izisusa zokukhohlisa zithinte ubude bezindaba. Lapho abantu bekhohlisa ngenxa yentukuthelo, ukungabi naluthando, noma ukuhlukahluka, izindaba zabo zazizinde, ngenkathi lezo ezikhuthazwa yisimo zazinezindaba ezimfishane. Abesifazane babenezindaba ezinde ngokwesilinganiso kunabesilisa. Izindaba bezibuye zinde futhi zenelise ngokomzwelo lapho ababambiqhaza bezizwa besondelene nomlingani wabo othandana naye.
Ezindabeni, iningi (amaphesenti angama-62.8) livumile ukuzwakalisa uthando ngomlingani omusha nokuba nezingxoxo ezibeka obala ezocansi (amaphesenti angama-61.2). Cishe abane kwabayishumi (amaphesenti angama-37.6) babe nezingxoxo ezisondelene, kuyilapho oyedwa kwabayishumi (amaphesenti ayi-11.1) ethe: "Ngiyakuthanda." Labo ababike ukuxhumana okuncane okungokomzwelo ebudlelwaneni babo obuyinhloko babenobudlelwano obuningi nomlingani wabo othandana naye, mhlawumbe njengendlela yokufuna ukugcwaliseka okungekho. Isizathu esiyinhloko sokusondelana okukhulu ngokomzwelo nabalingani abathandanayo kwakuwukuntuleka kothando ebuhlotsheni bokuqala. Ngokunjalo, lapho lolu daba lwenziwa ukungabi naluthando, abantu bathola ukuthi lolu daba lwanelisa ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo, kepha kakhulu uma isimo sishukumisa lolu daba.
Umsebenzi omningi wezocansi ezindabeni ubandakanya ukwanga (amaphesenti angama-86.7) nokuganga (amaphesenti angama-72.9). Ukushaya indlwabu (amaphesenti angama-53.5), ukuya ocansini ngomlomo (amaphesenti angama-46.4, ubulili besitho sangasese sowesifazane (amaphesenti angama-53.3), ucansi lwendunu (amaphesenti angu-6.1), futhi akukho ukuthintana ngokomzimba (amaphesenti angu-5.7) konke bekungajwayelekile. bakhohlisile ngenxa yesifiso sobulili nokuhlukahluka, futhi asinalo uthando, kepha hhayi lapho bekhohlisa ngenxa yesimo.Abesilisa nabesifazane babika imvamisa efanayo yocansi nomlingani wabo futhi abangahlukile emazingeni abo okwaneliseka ngokocansi.
Ingabe Abantu Ufuna Ukubanjwa?
Sivame ukucabanga ukukopela njengebhizinisi eliyimfihlo, impumelelo yalo encike ekutheni ungatholakali. Kepha abanye abakopeli abaqapheli njengabanye, mhlawumbe ngenhloso. Labo abakhohlisayo ngenxa yokushoda kothando baqhubeka nezinsuku zomphakathi ezinjengokuphuma bayodla isidlo sakusihlwa noma ama-movie. Ukuqabulana esidlangalaleni nakwezinye iziboniso zomphakathi zothando bekuvame kakhulu kulabo abashukunyiswa ukungabi naluthando, abafuna ukukhulisa ukuzethemba kwabo, nalabo abafuna okwehlukile. Futhi, hhayi ukuziphatha okuyimfihlo. Ngokusobala, laba bantu bebengakhathazekile ngokubanjwa futhi kungenzeka ukuthi bebefuna nokubanjwa (okungukuthi, leyo nto kwakuyisu lokuphuma). Esimweni ngasinye, abakopeli besimo babenga thandi ukukopela obala, mhlawumbe ngoba babengenazo izinhlelo zokuqeda ubuhlobo babo obuyinhloko.
Ukuvuma Kokukhohlisa
Kungani abantu bekhohlisa kuthinta indlela abakusingatha ngayo. Isibonelo, abakhohlisi abaningi bavuma ukuthandana kwabo. Eqinisweni, bekukhona cishe ukwahlukana okungu-50/50 phakathi kwabadaluli nabagcini bemfihlo. Abesifazane babevame kakhulu ukwenaba kunabesilisa. Sekukonke, labo abaphume behlanzekile kungenzeka ukuthi babeqhathe ekuqaleni ngenxa yentukuthelo noma ukunganakwa, hhayi ngenxa yesifiso sobulili noma ukwehlukahluka. Lokho kugqugquzelwa kusikisela ukuthi ukuvuma izono kungenzeka kwakuyindlela yokuphindisela futhi okuningi ngokuba kubi kunokuhlonipheka. Kodwa-ke, labo abaphumele obala babenamathuba amaningi okuthi bakhe ubuhlobo obuzinikele nalowo othandana naye.
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