Ukucacisa i-Covert ne-Grandiose Narcissists

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• Ukufundwa Okubalulekile Kwe-Narcissism
• Ukulinganisa ukulawulwa ngokungekho emthethweni: Izinto Esizenzela Umuntu WamaNarcissist

Omunye wemibono eyinselele kakhulu nge-narcissism izici zayo eziningi ezahlukahlukene. Ngokufana nokuhlupheka okuhlangana noCluster B kokungalingani nabantu, imingcele, nokuphazamiseka kobuntu be-histrionic, ukuphazamiseka kobuntu be-narcissistic kuyisimo esibi kakhulu ukuxilongwa.

Izindaba ezimnandi ukuthi ukuxilongwa akudingeki ukuthi uqhubeke usuke kumlingani okuhlukumezayo bese uqala umsebenzi wokuziphilisa. Ukuhlonza izici zomuntu othanda ukufunda nokubhala nokufunda indlela yokuphendula nokuzivikela kungenzeka kakhulu futhi kungenzeka kunokuthola ukuxilongwa okugcwele komtholampilo. Kuyadabukisa ukuthi noma ngabe kutholakala ukuthi umuntu uyi-narcissist, ushintsho lunzima kakhulu. Igama kanye nelebuli ka- “narcissist” akufanele iphonswe kalula, kodwa kuyiqiniso elibi ukuthi izici zobudlova zandile.

AmaNarcissist yizinyamazane zemvelo yomuntu. Bangakwazi ukuveza isithombe sokukhetha kwabo ukulingana nezimo ezahlukahlukene noma imibuthano yomphakathi. Isibonelo, umuntu ophethe kakhulu futhi onolaka angabonisa umuntu ophukile futhi osengozini uma kusho ukuthi bazofeza izidingo zabo kanye nezidingo zabo. Ukuthola nokugcina ukulawula kuyisifiso sokushayela sanoma yiluphi uhlobo lwe-narcissist.

Ama-theorists wobuntu akholelwa ukuthi i-narcissism ingahle yehliselwe ezinhlotsheni ezimbili eziyinhloko: i-covert / i-narcissism entekenteke kanye ne-grandiose / malignant narcissism. Izici zobuntu ezivelele yizo ezahlukanisa umuntu owaziwa ngokufihla ophuma ocansini omkhulu we-narcissist. Lezi zinhlokwana nezici ezihambisana nazo zingagqagqana, zisekele ukuqhathanisa nonwabu. Kodwa-ke, ngokuqonda ukwakheka kwama-façade, umuntu angafunda ukuqeda izinsongo bese evikeleka ekuhlukunyezweni.

Zombili lezi zinhlobo ze-narcissism zabelana ngezici ezisemqoka zokuzikhukhumeza, ukungabi nozwelo, kanye nokugxila kokuzithokozisa ngokwakho. Zivezwa kanjalo lezo zimfanelo ezikhomba umuntu njengobuthakathaka noma obubi. Ngokukhomba izici ezakha isakhiwo se-narcissist, isisulu esihlukunyeziwe singazilungiselela ukuthi zingaphathwa kanjani. Ukulindela kudlala indima enkulu ekukhathazekeni okukhulu njengoba ingqondo nomzimba zombili zisesimweni sokulungiselela ukubhekana ngeziqu zamehlo. Ngokucabanga ukuthi i-narcissist izosebenza kanjani, awukwazi nje ukubhekana nengcindezi engadingekile kepha nokuzivikela ekuhlaselweni okuzayo.

AbakwaGrandiose Narcissists

Lawa ma-narcissist ayisithombe esivelele kanye nokumelwa kokuphazamiseka kobuntu: ayaxhaphaza, afuna i-adrenaline, futhi ahamba nomoya omkhulu welungelo nomaphi lapho eya khona. Laba bantu banokuzethemba okuphezulu ukufihla ukuzonda kwabo futhi abesabi ukubukisa noma ukuziqhayisa ngokuqhubeka nenkohliso. Bayaziqhenya, bayize, futhi bayazikhukhumeza (“Ngingathola noma yimuphi umuntu engimfunayo." Angikudingi, uyangidinga! "). Ama-narcissist amakhulu athembele kakhulu kubangane, emndenini, noma kubathandi futhi agwema ukusondelana ngokweqiniso ngokomzwelo Lezi zinhlwathi zinganikeza ukubonakala koshade naye ozinikele noma umngane onakile (cabanga ezinkundleni zokuxhumana nama-akhawunti ezithombe), kepha ukugxila kobuhlobo kuzohlala kubo kuphela.

Ama-narcissist amakhulu angancika komunye umuntu ukuthola isizathu kepha hhayi nge umuzwa ngale kwezidingo zokugcwaliseka. Uma i-narcissist isebudlelwaneni cishe ngaso sonke isikhathi kunesizathu sokuzenzela: amandla, ukubukeka okufanele, ukuxhumana, noma insizakalo enikezwa umlingani. Esikhundleni sobudlelwano obuqukethe ukulingana kokunikezwa nokuthathwa noma ukwesekwa okwabiwe, umbhali wezinkanyezi ulindele ukusizelwa nokufakwa endaweni ethile kepha akasoze azizwa esuthi.

Ngenxa yalokhu, izimfuno zingakhuphuka kakhulu, futhi umlingani uzoqala ukuwa umusa futhi aqhubeke nokuzabalaza ukuze ajabulise. Lapho i-narcissist ingaphathwa kahle njengoba ifuna noma insiza iyeka ukukhiqiza imiphumela oyifunayo, izosabela ngokuqhuma. Ukwehlukana ngeke kuthikameze umuntu osebenzisa izinto zobuthongo isikhathi eside ngoba bamane badlulele kumhlukunyezwa noma umkhiqizi wabo olandelayo. Umlingani oshiye ngemuva, nokho, nguyena osele nomdlandla omkhulu wokuhlanza nokwelapha.

Covert Narcissists

Ama-coar narcissists abizwa nangokuthi ama-narcissists asengozini. Njengama-narcissist amakhulu, ama-covert anokuzethemba okuphansi; noma kunjalo, kulapho ukufana kuphela. Abakwa-grandiose narcissists bafihla ubuhlalu babo ngezimbumbulu zangaphandle nokuzikhukhumeza ngenkathi izembozo zikwamukela futhi zikusebenzise njengethuluzi labo lokuxhaphaza ukwenza uzwelo nokunakwa. Lolu hlobo olungabonakali sobala lwe-narcissism lufihlwe ngemuva kwamahloni. Ama-Coverts azwela kakhulu ekugxekweni, athambekele ekucindezelekeni nasekukhathazekeni, futhi athanda ukuhlanganyela izinganekwane zawo maye kunoma ngubani ozolalela.

Izindwangu zinabangani bazo, umndeni, izingane kanye nabalingani babo. I-narcissist efihlekile ingahle ingafuni ukuhlala ishade nabashade nabo futhi ihambe futhi ihlangane nabanye abantu kepha izothukuthela uma umlingani efaka isehlukaniso noma uma yena eqala ukuthandana ("Ungalokotha kanjani lowo wesifazane aphume nomyeni wami!") . Isimo sengqondo sokuthi "yenza njengoba ngisho, hhayi njengoba ngenza" sinamandla kakhulu ngabasiki be-narcissist abacashile ngenxa yobunikazi babo kanye nezidingo eziphakeme ezingokomzwelo. Bazoxhaphaza izingane zabo, abangane, namalungu omndeni ukuze babagcine bethembekile kubo kuphela.

Ukufundwa Okubalulekile Kwe-Narcissism

Ukulinganisa ukulawulwa ngokungekho emthethweni: Izinto Esizenzela Umuntu WamaNarcissist