Ungabi uDick

Umhlaba ugcwele amajezi. UDick wuhlobo olukhethekile lokuphambanisa — anikeza umhlaba isikhubekiso ngaphandle kokuncanyana kokuqwashisa ukuthi ayakwenza lokho, futhi aphike ukuthi anendima lapho ubudlelwano bungahambi kahle. Iqiniso elidabukisayo ukuthi, noma ngubani angaba dick kwesinye isikhathi.

Umuntu wazi kanjani ukuthi uyisilima?

Kubantu abaningi engibatshele ngale ncwadi kuze kube manje, abaningi basho okuthile okufana nalokhu:

"Hawu, kuhle lokho! Ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi ngizothenga inqwaba yamakhophi!"

"Ini?" Ngiphendula, "Kungani kunenqwaba yonke?"

"Ngoba," kuphendula ikhasimende elingaba ikhono elihle, "Ngizotholela wonke umuntu ku -_____ wami" (imvamisa impendulo kungaba "umndeni" noma "ihhovisi").

Ukubona indlela yokuziphatha kwe-dick kwabanye — njengakudala "uyabona ukuthi uyitholile" - kuyithuluzi lokulinganisa elihle kakhulu lokwazi lapho usuwudick. Ukuba yi-dick kusebenza njengesivikelo ekuqapheleni, ekwamukeleni, nasekutholeni eyakho ingxenye ekulondolozeni ubudlelwano obuphikisana kakhulu nezwe.

Umhlaba uzosebenza kanzima kakhulu ukukusiza wazi lapho usuwudick; ukuzwa kungenye indaba. Ukuze wazi ukuthi umuntu uyisidididi yini kumele ngandlela thile adedele noma akhulule izindlela zokuzivikela (imvamisa kwalingiswa kulokho engikubiza ngokuthi "dickery") ukuze sizibone sisebudlelwaneni obuphikisana nezwe.

Ngakho-ke indlela engcono kakhulu yokwazi ukuthi le ncwadi ingeyakho ukuthi ubucabanga ukuthi uyithengele omunye umuntu.

Ziyini izimpawu zokutshela?

I-jerk ejwayelekile ibonwa njengomuntu onenhliziyo embi, ozithandayo ocabanga futhi enze sengathi wonke umuntu emhlabeni angaqondakala kuphela-futhi okuwukuphela kokubaluleka kwakhe okuchaziwe-ngokuya ngobudlelwano babo naye uqobo. Kepha lokhu akufinyeleli ezindleleni zokuziphatha kukadick, yize kubukeka futhi kuzwakala kucasula, empeleni kusebenza njengokuvikela kwengqondo okuvimba ukuqwashiswa kwemizwa ebucayi njengokungazethembi, ukwesaba nokulimala.

Kukhona ukucaphuna okuhle okuvela ku-Alcoholics Anonymous ethi, "Sinyathela izinzwane zabafowethu futhi bayaziphindiselela. Kwesinye isikhathi bayasilimaza, babonakale bengacasukile, kepha njalo sithola ukuthi ... sithathe izinqumo ngokususelwa kithina kamuva usibeke ethubeni lokulimala. " Lesi isimo sengqondo sokuthi "Akusimi mina nguwe" yimbangela — kanye nesibonakaliso se-telltale par excellence - sokudlanga. Yisimo sengqondo esenza ukuthi ijezi lingakwazi ukubona ukuthi lokho yena noma yena ahlangabezana nakho njengokuhlaselwa okungavunyelwe empeleni ukulwa.

Ngabe odokotela bahlukile kumajezi ahlukahlukene engadini? Futhi uma kunjalo, kanjani?

Lapho othile ebhalwe ilebuli, ebonakala, noma ekhethelwa indlela yakhe ecasulayo emhlabeni (okungukuthi, abanye abantu abakuyo), akunandaba ukuthi ubabiza kanjani. Ungazibiza nganoma yini oyifunayo (kusuka ku- "bleep" to jerk to motherf * ker). Akulona igama olisebenzisayo, kodwa ukuthi ulisebenzisa kanjani-yilokho okwenzelwe ukuziphatha kwakho-okutshela umhlaba: Lokhu kungudick.

Uma unokuziphatha kwakho okwahlukahluka kwengadi, indlela yokuzimela yokuxoxisana eyingozi futhi ecasulayo kwabanye abantu, kungenzeka ukuthi ufanelekele lokho engikubiza ngokuthi "dick" noma ngabe usebenzisa liphi igama ukuthambisa ukushaya. Ngakho-ke, o-dick nama-jerks nama-motherf * bangaba yisidalwa esifanayo ngokwendlela abazwana ngayo nabo, abanye kanye nomhlaba.

Ukuziphatha okukhazimulayo kuvela kanjani futhi kube yingxenye yomlando womuntu?

Ngukuthukuthela okulungile okuthambekele ekuthetheleleni nasekubhebhethekiseni ubudisi. Ukuziphatha kwe-Dickish ukujwayela okusebenza ekuqaleni njengendlela yokubhekana nokwehlisa ukuqwashisa komuntu ngokuphila kulokho okuzwa sengathi kunendawo enobutha. Ukusuka kule ndawo, udick osafufusa ufika "ekwethembeni" ukuthi angathembela kwabanye ukuthi bazolimaza, basebenzise futhi badumaze. Le trust isebenza ukuseka umuzwa wokwaneliseka lapho udick akholelwa ukuthi yena noma umuntu angathembela kuye - ngakho-ke akadingi - akekho. Ku-dick, umuzwa wokungabi nabulungisa okungapheli ulinganisa ukuziphatha okucasulayo / okuzivikelayo okumehlukanisa yena nezwe elizizwa-imvamisa kusukela ekuqaleni kwempilo yomuntu-lingaphephile.

Ukuziphatha dickish kuvikela kanjani?

UDick usebenzisa indlela yabo yokuziphatha njengesivikelo ngokwengqondo ekuzizweni besengozini. Lokhu kuhlangenwe nakho njengesimo sokuphepha nokukhathazeka, lapho umuntu abona khona izisusa nemizwa eyisisekelo yokuziphatha kwakhe kwabanye (ukuqagela). Udick uhlala esimweni sokuphika esiqiniswa isidingo sokugwema eyakhe ingxenye kunoma yini engahambi kahle ebudlelwaneni. Ngicela umfundi ukuthi abone lokhu kuziphatha okulungisiwe okuqala njengendlela yokusinda ehloselwe ukuzivikela ekuqothulweni ukukhathazeka (kobuntu obuthile).

Kungani ukholelwa ukuthi sibhekene nomqedazwe wokuziphatha okunamandla?

Ngokwe-angst, ukwahlukana okungaka emphakathini wethu (ubandlululo, ukukhipha inyumbazane, ukuzenzisa, ukubulala), odokotela basebenza njengezimbuzi ezixoshelwa lokho esingakuthandi nesingakwamukeli ngathi. Ngokuziphatha kwabo bakwazi ukubukeka okungenani njengobhekele konke okungahambi kahle kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo obuthile, umndeni, umphakathi noma umphakathi. Udokotela uvumela wonke umuntu ukuthi ashiye ingwegwe engxenyeni yakhe yenkinga yesistimu / yobudlelwano ngokumane abe udick. Kodwa-ke, o-dick abanamalungelo kakhulu abavumelani nalokhu kuhlolwa, baphika ukuthi nganoma iyiphi indlela bangaphendula nganoma yini engahambi kahle, futhi, esikhundleni salokho, babanga isibopho sayo yonke into — yonke into — ehamba kahle!

Futhi okuphambene nokuziphatha oku-jerkish ngu ...?

Ukwamukelwa kwethu, abanye kanye nezwe uqobo — njengoba kunjalo.

Usho ngokusobala ukuthi ukubheka odokotela, ungenawo umtshina we-dick oshunwe kahle, kubuhle ebudlelwaneni. Ngicela uchaze.

Sidinga ukwazi ukuthi obani odokotela abasempilweni yethu (ehhovisi, emndenini owengeziwe, njll.) Futhi sigcine ibanga elingokomzimba nelingokomzwelo. Kepha uma sisebenzelana ne- "dick yangaphakathi," ngeke sikhange kangako kwamanye ama-dick. UDick uvame ukutholana. Ngakho-ke, ukubhekana nodokotela ongaphakathi kuyasivikela "kudoti ongaphandle," ngakho-ke ngeke kudingeke uqaphe futhi uzulazule imikhuba emibi yabanye abantu.

Ungakwazi ukufingqa lokho okubiza ngokuthi yi-Dick Fix? Yiziphi izinto ezibalulekile zokushiya i-dickery ngemuva?

IDick Fix, mhlawumbe iyindida, ukuzamukela wena, abanye nezwe. Ngokwamukela kuza ukuziphendulela, futhi lokhu kusho ukuphendula ngeqhaza lethu emhlabeni (kwabanye), kanye nomuzwa wobunikazi. Kulokhu nginemithetho emibili:

1. Gcina ukugxila kuwe,

2. Bheka umthetho # 1.

Yilokho kuphela. Ubuningi be-dickery buyindlela ebangelwa yinkolelo yokuthi izinto zenziwa kithina — izinto ezisilimazayo nezesabisayo futhi ezingalawuleki. Ukwamukelwa, ukuziphendulela, kanye nobunikazi (ngokwengxenye yethu) ekugcineni kusivumela ukuthi sihlale ngokuthula nathi nakwabanye.

Ingabe kukhona impendulo efanelekile ekuguleni komunye umuntu?

Shaya ikhefu, futhi ungazibandakanyi. Le yiSatyagraha: Umbhikisho ongenalo udlame. Ukuzibophezela okuzinikele ekulimazeni muntu, kufaka phakathi thina uqobo — ukungazibeki thina engozini, ukungavumeli abanye ukuthi basiphathe kabi.

Ucabangani ngomyalezo owodwa obaluleke kakhulu ongathanda abafundi bawuthole ku-Ungabi nguDick?

Ukuyeka ukusetshenziswa kokuzivikela kwe-dickery kusungula indlela ehluke kakhulu yokuba ebudlelwaneni nathi, abanye nezwe. Kuyinqubo lapho ukuziguqula thina kungashintsha umhlaba.

Mayelana NOMBHALI UKHULUMA: Abalobi abakhethiwe, ngamagama abo, baveza indaba ngemuva kwendaba. Ababhali bavezwa ngenxa yokubekwa kwephromoshini yizindlu zabo zokushicilela.

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Ungabi uDick